I recently had a failed confrontation with an AMOG (alpha other guy) and realized this is something I'm not so good at.
I was talking to a 2 set 7 and high 8 (ukraine and Polish) standing at the bar and doing pretty well, so when they finished their mojitos I suggested we get a mojito bowl. I wanted to get a table but they preferred to stand at the bar, which should have been a warning maybe, so we stayed at the bar. After around 15 minutes a guy comes up, confident and good looking and asks if he can invite us for a shot. I say no thanks, so he asks the Ukraine girl. She doesn't answer so I told him again, no thanks. So he says, do you control these girls? Then the Ukraine girl shyly smiled and said she met him 5 months ago. She was obviously trying to decide what to do. Now the guy starts trying to convince the Polish 8 to come and is trying to push by me. So I put my hand on his chest so he can't pass and said, backup and don't touch me. Then a friend of his appears out of nowhere...is there a problem? So now the Polish girl thinks there is going to be a fight and walks away towards there table which was right behind us at the bar. and the AMOG and his friend decide to cut their losses and foliow her to their table with 3-4 guys. The Ukraine girl seemed to eat it up and stayed around to talk to me a bit more then said I have to go. I just stayed at the bar and ignored them and about 30 min later when I left I see them sitting at the table with a mojito but the two guys are gone and they seem to be waiting for them. The Ukraine chick smiles so I give her a nice good bye and ignore the Polish, who is looking at me kind of curiously (she started out being the more interested) but I ignore her because she bailed out first.
I don't have any good way to deal with these guys, but I guess I thought I was in so went the alpha route myself. Sometimes I just roll the dice and hope the girl will think the guy is rude and deny him (that's what usually happens). In this case, in retrospect it was almost like the AMOG had a bet that he could pull those girls over to the table.
What is the best approach here? Any similar stories?
I was talking to a 2 set 7 and high 8 (ukraine and Polish) standing at the bar and doing pretty well, so when they finished their mojitos I suggested we get a mojito bowl. I wanted to get a table but they preferred to stand at the bar, which should have been a warning maybe, so we stayed at the bar. After around 15 minutes a guy comes up, confident and good looking and asks if he can invite us for a shot. I say no thanks, so he asks the Ukraine girl. She doesn't answer so I told him again, no thanks. So he says, do you control these girls? Then the Ukraine girl shyly smiled and said she met him 5 months ago. She was obviously trying to decide what to do. Now the guy starts trying to convince the Polish 8 to come and is trying to push by me. So I put my hand on his chest so he can't pass and said, backup and don't touch me. Then a friend of his appears out of nowhere...is there a problem? So now the Polish girl thinks there is going to be a fight and walks away towards there table which was right behind us at the bar. and the AMOG and his friend decide to cut their losses and foliow her to their table with 3-4 guys. The Ukraine girl seemed to eat it up and stayed around to talk to me a bit more then said I have to go. I just stayed at the bar and ignored them and about 30 min later when I left I see them sitting at the table with a mojito but the two guys are gone and they seem to be waiting for them. The Ukraine chick smiles so I give her a nice good bye and ignore the Polish, who is looking at me kind of curiously (she started out being the more interested) but I ignore her because she bailed out first.
I don't have any good way to deal with these guys, but I guess I thought I was in so went the alpha route myself. Sometimes I just roll the dice and hope the girl will think the guy is rude and deny him (that's what usually happens). In this case, in retrospect it was almost like the AMOG had a bet that he could pull those girls over to the table.
What is the best approach here? Any similar stories?