Note: the following post is off-topic and does not contain specific intel on Melbourne
Quote: (04-02-2017 02:31 AM)Hazaer Wrote:
What would you guys think would be a good strategy for game in this situation?
To my knowledge I am the only RVFer to have met you, so I reckon I'm in a decent position to comment on this.
A sticking point: over-thinking
While I may be one of the first in line to voice concerns about simplified and largely unhelpful advice like "just be confident", it's clear to me that
overanalysis represents a barrier between your present situation (not getting laid) and where you wanna be (getting laid). Now, I previously wrote about the importance of having a good time and limiting your mental overcomplication of pickup. This recommendation stands, and I still suggest that you take all the pressure off yourself to get laid and, instead, just focus on having fun in the process of meeting people.
How much do you want it?
Nonetheless if you are serious about getting laid in Melbourne (?), I am gonna go a step further as it appears you are still fixated on trying to plan 10 steps ahead through painstaking, fine-grained analysis. I can tell you from my own experience -- this won't work.
What to focus on
Don't jerk it and hit the gym; get that libido crankin. Get out of your head and into the moment. Forget clever tactics and instead focus on having fun, being high energy, and acting with shameless sexual intent. Take this mantra and run with it - "Get blown or get blown out. Either way I'll have fun going all out".
Put another way:
{a} Get horny
{b} Get loose and bring the party
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{c} Don't give a fuck
{d} Act boldy and get sexual without shame (link to XXL post)
{e} Persist hard with any bangable chick
*If you need to get drunk, pop some molly or otherwise get on something to loosen up and act without hesitation, then give it a go. For now,
do whatever it takes to get loose and be brazen. Say it with me now -
whatever it takes. If you wake up with the remains of a vodka-redbull and a 4am kebab on your crusty, dribbled-on dress shirt, then so be it. I do, however, absolve myself from all responsibility for your potential neck tattoos.
Some rationale
1. This is a great opportunity to unleash your inner party boy without any lasting social consequences.
2. If you are not having fun you need to change it up.
3. To be frank, taking drastic action is the only way forward if you wanna get laid quick.
Where to go
Hit up the backpacker pubs and clubs (or any night-time venues where there are foreigners looking to party) that are
relatively close to your hostel. I hope you have your own room. You wrote "I am assuming clubs would be a complete waste of time for picking up" -- this is good example of why it is in your best interest to stop speculating. By all means try day game to warm up, however you're gonna need a lot of luck to pull if you've never even had a same-night lay. As I said it's gonna be nightlife, including clubs, that will offer you the best options for speedy encounters. There's little harm in trying Tinder, however I wouldn't expect anything. Lastly, if your friends aren't helping you, then look to recruit a wingman or, as a last resort, go solo.
Feel free to contact me offline if you wanna chat further.
DISCLAIMER
*I am not suggesting guys engage in the kind of dickhead behaviour typical of thirsty, overconfident Aussie drongos on a piss-up. Hell no. Rather, these suggestions have been calibrated based on a face-to-face assessment of Hazaer's individual needs. Speaking more broadly, I would
only provide these directions under the provision that they are used as an occasional strategy by more introverted guys who tend to get stuck in their head, have difficulty in getting loose and acting with boldness, and/or need a jump-start in getting closer to having quick bangs.
Video Recipe for Pre-Club Boostin
- 0 fucks given from Lil Jon and the Eastside Boyz, plus Mystikal and Krazy Bone - "I Don't Give a Fuck"
- 1 biiig cup of pimp syrup à la Three Six Mafia, UGK and Project Pat - "Sippin on Some Syrup"
- 2 steps of playful high-energy through the Lonely Island - "I'm on a Boat"
- 3 seconds before you go in with the raw sexual dominance of Tech N9ne - "Don't Tweet This"
- 4 rounds of pounding in the spirit of Melbourne's own Lyrical Commission [cut to 1:40 if you wanna check the best verse, by Trem] - "Sex fiend"