Quote: (07-10-2016 05:40 PM)Slam Wrote:
Quote: (03-16-2016 02:31 PM)JayJuanGee Wrote:
Quote: (03-16-2016 01:17 PM)Khan Wrote:
Don't forget another useful thing about learning salsa (and dancing in general) - your dancing skill makes for an excellent bait when talking to women.
"You're from Brazil? A girl from my salsa class visited Brazil this summer and she absolutely loved it."
When women hear something like this, more often than not they'll suddenly become very interested in your dancing skills. I'm not sure why women hold men who can dance in high regard, but this certainly is a powerful tool in a player's arsenal that should be used as often as possible.
Dancing skills can transform an otherwise mediocre guy into a star in some circles (or situations).
One thing about salsa, that can cause girls' juices to flow, is if the girl feels as if you are causing her to appear much more gifted in the dance department than she otherwise feels that she is...
These are great points. Dancing is an overall positive.
Learning to dance just reinforces the fact that you want to get a woman to FEEL something, to FEEL good / amazing / sexy. If you learn the right moves, you can definitely give her tingles. And once you get really good, a song can be a short 'adventure' you take her on.
Yep... The dance scene can also be filled with a lot of unique and varied adventures on an ongoing basis.
Sometimes, it can be a bit frustrating, for example, to have a girlfriend in the dance scene, which has been the case for me in the past year and half or so....
In my case, I still go dancing a couple of times a week, and sometimes the girlfriend can be a bit of an issue for me.
On Friday, for example, I danced with 4 chicks that were new to the dance scene and extremely flirty and fuckable... I don't know whether any of them would have materialized into some kind of success if I had not had the ties of the girlfriend, but I did make a mental note because the number on that night was a bit higher than the usual 1 or 2 that I run into on any given night, and sometimes not even 1.
Another little example was on Friday, I saw a guy standing next to my GF and he was kind of chatting with her from a few feet distance. I usually leave my GF alone when she is chatting with guys in the dance place, but in this situation, it did not look like the guy was preparing to ask her to dance, so I walked up and the guy walked away as soon as he saw me approaching. My GF later told me that the guy never dances with her, but his first question is always about whether she still has a boyfriend, and if she did not have a boyfriend, then he would dance with her. My GF will dance with almost any guy, yet she joked with me and said that just from her talking with the guy, she could tell that he kind of stinks anyhow, so she did not consider his boycott of her to be any kind of loss. My point here is that I consider such a guy to be a bit ridiculous in his thinking about dancing, because he would probably be better off dancing with my GF in order to attempt to attract other girls, if that is really his ultimate goal because they will see him and improve his chances... but some guys seem to have self-limiting logic in their manner of employing and working on improving their dance skills.
Quote: (07-10-2016 05:40 PM)Slam Wrote:
But, as previous posters said, at the end of the day a lot of it will be cockteasers and blue balls.
Of course, location does have some affect on the ratios of men to women and ultimately the extent to which you are going to be able to run across bangable chicks in the social dance scene, versus developing skills and bringing chicks to the scene.
If all that you value is the bang, then there are probably better places to achieve those goals with less time and efforts.
Quote: (07-10-2016 05:40 PM)Slam Wrote:
Also +1 for the hottest girls going to instructors, they have dance game AND status within the scene. They dominate. I've seen this in many cities and countries.
Of course, the higher your level of skills, the more that you can work those skills to your advantage, yet merely because some guys have advantages should not result in a defeatist mindset in regards to whether you either believe that you are interested in building these kinds of dance skills and/or spending some of your time in salsa social dance circles (and/or other places in which you can employ those dance skills after you have developed and honed some of them).