Most game forums like this do an ineffective job of explaining social circle game. A couple of hard truths:
1. Most guys on this forum lean towards the "lone wolf" side, without a pre-existing social circle from HS, work, or college
2. Developing a social circle is not worth the time if you are only doing it for new leads.
I won't be talking about how to mine your social circles for new leads or how to effectively make friends. I am just going to explain how social dynamics can completely change your results with existing leads.
The biggest fear that a girl has when meeting a guy from cold approach or dating apps is that he's "weird."
This means socially maladjusted, the ridiculous but famous "serial killer" label, unpopular, etc.
I have no friends from my past life and I am still able to fight this extremely effectively with my newer social circles. One thing I don't do is enter new social circles and try to pick up existing chicks, there's no need for me to do that with my level of cold game. It can creep the girls out, and thus lead to the guys turning on you, it's just not worth it.
First thing that I do is pick up a hot girl from one of my cold efforts. I don't waste time with phone numbers, I give her my instagram and start chatting with her on there.
My instagram does not have 10k followers and modelesque portraits. I try to show that I have a cool lifestyle, with other people involved, and keep some of my captions relatively normal. She immediately sees that I'm pretty cool and normal because of how I present it.
The next key thing that I do is meet up with her for a one on one date before a social gathering that I have. About 30-60 minutes into the date, I mention that one of my friends is having a birthday party/event/whatever. I invite her and tell her to bring "whoever."
Keep in mind that I don't have a banging social circle. I might only know 1-3 people at whatever event I'm showing up at. But when I make this play with a cold lead, amazing things can happen. My close ratio is through the roof whenever I try it. It really doesn't matter how "cool" my friends are, because I've already shown her how "cool" I am. All I am trying to do is get that "serial killer" edge off of her and prove that I'm normal.
I show up to the event, bringing my date and sometimes friends. I immediately show value to the other men in the room by showing up with a set of girls and delivering them to the other guys in the room. I've gotten lucky before and had girls bring friends who were 9s or 10s. It makes you look like a huge baller when you not only show up with hot girls, but you're willing to just hand them over to a stranger. Major points.
More importantly I show her that I'm a normal guy, who has friends who know him by name, who gets invited to events. My friends don't have to be good looking. They don't have to be wealthy. They just need to have some sort of pregame/party that I can bring girls to, win-win situation.
Assuming I effectively build attraction, this missing piece is what gets me the notch every time, because it takes that last line of defense a girl has: "what if he's weird" when she meets a guy off an app or on the street.
Would highly recommend the process to enhance your life.
1. Most guys on this forum lean towards the "lone wolf" side, without a pre-existing social circle from HS, work, or college
2. Developing a social circle is not worth the time if you are only doing it for new leads.
I won't be talking about how to mine your social circles for new leads or how to effectively make friends. I am just going to explain how social dynamics can completely change your results with existing leads.
The biggest fear that a girl has when meeting a guy from cold approach or dating apps is that he's "weird."
This means socially maladjusted, the ridiculous but famous "serial killer" label, unpopular, etc.
I have no friends from my past life and I am still able to fight this extremely effectively with my newer social circles. One thing I don't do is enter new social circles and try to pick up existing chicks, there's no need for me to do that with my level of cold game. It can creep the girls out, and thus lead to the guys turning on you, it's just not worth it.
First thing that I do is pick up a hot girl from one of my cold efforts. I don't waste time with phone numbers, I give her my instagram and start chatting with her on there.
My instagram does not have 10k followers and modelesque portraits. I try to show that I have a cool lifestyle, with other people involved, and keep some of my captions relatively normal. She immediately sees that I'm pretty cool and normal because of how I present it.
The next key thing that I do is meet up with her for a one on one date before a social gathering that I have. About 30-60 minutes into the date, I mention that one of my friends is having a birthday party/event/whatever. I invite her and tell her to bring "whoever."
Keep in mind that I don't have a banging social circle. I might only know 1-3 people at whatever event I'm showing up at. But when I make this play with a cold lead, amazing things can happen. My close ratio is through the roof whenever I try it. It really doesn't matter how "cool" my friends are, because I've already shown her how "cool" I am. All I am trying to do is get that "serial killer" edge off of her and prove that I'm normal.
I show up to the event, bringing my date and sometimes friends. I immediately show value to the other men in the room by showing up with a set of girls and delivering them to the other guys in the room. I've gotten lucky before and had girls bring friends who were 9s or 10s. It makes you look like a huge baller when you not only show up with hot girls, but you're willing to just hand them over to a stranger. Major points.
More importantly I show her that I'm a normal guy, who has friends who know him by name, who gets invited to events. My friends don't have to be good looking. They don't have to be wealthy. They just need to have some sort of pregame/party that I can bring girls to, win-win situation.
Assuming I effectively build attraction, this missing piece is what gets me the notch every time, because it takes that last line of defense a girl has: "what if he's weird" when she meets a guy off an app or on the street.
Would highly recommend the process to enhance your life.