4-year old virgin: Time to fix my life
12-04-2018, 01:00 PM
Just a quick introduction for those of you who haven’t read my 19 posts on this forum.
I’m a 24-year old virgin.
Have approached (what feels like) 1000 women since I first discovered game in 2013.
Most girls reject me right after my opener. It doesn’t matter if I open direct or indirect.
I mostly do lone wolf daygame, but I’ve done a bit of nightgame as well.
Gotten maybe like 100 numbers and only 6 dates.
Anyways, here’s what I think is wrong with my life:
Fitness
Currently, I’m 5’9, 138 lbs.
The main reason I’m so skinny is because I suffer from shoulder dyskinesis and piriformis syndrome.
I’ve been working with various health professionals for several years, but none of them can seem to help.
Right now, I’m working with an osteopath, and he’s been the most helpful so far, but I’m not sure if he can fix me 100%. I guess I just gotta keep working with him and doing his exercises.
Been trying to eat more and am slowly gaining weight (about 2 lbs a month).
I can lift light weights, but I find if I go too heavy, I start experiencing pain in my left arm and my left leg. Right now, I’m running a modified StrongLifts program and gradually pushing through my pain thresholds.
Fashion
I have a looks-maxing thread on another forum. Please PM me for the link. I’ve been gradually improving my wardrobe using the advice I’ve been given so far.
Work
So I graduated in 2017 with a useless bachelor’s degree in psychology.
Right now, I work random office jobs through the temp agency.
They always have work for me, and they always pay $15 an hour, which equates to about $2000 a month after taxes.
Put simply, I earn very little.
I’ve thought long and hard about what I’m passionate about, and of course, it’s reading and writing.
But how do you make money writing?
Well, I found out about copywriting.
So I completed a prestigious online course. Polished up my portfolio and created a website to showcase it.
Going to compile a list of advertising agencies in my area and start cold calling them to see if they need any freelance work done. Also been applying to some jobs on a copywriting Facebook group as well.
Pretty much going all in with my business. If it fails, I might go back to school for something stupid, but more employable, like digital marketing, tourism management, or public relations. I can also try applying to actual copywriting jobs, rather than trying to be a freelancer.
Because the way I see it is this: I suck at math and science, I can’t code, and I suck at working with my hands (trades). The only thing I seem to enjoy is reading and writing.
Logistics
I still live at home with my parents, which sucks, because they are super-religious and don’t approve of me bringing home random girls.
I’m currently in Vancouver, but am thinking of moving to a cheaper Canadian city like Calgary or Ottawa.
The problem is that I’m not sure if I could survive living on my own making $2000 a month. I would prefer a one-bedroom apartment downtown to ensure solid logistics and no cockblocking roommates.
So I’m conflicted now on whether I should move out ASAP, go back to school, or work on my business more. I currently have 15k saved up.
Social Circle
All my old friends just smoke weed and play video games, so I cut them off.
Now I have no friends.
Maybe if I had a social circle where I was constantly meeting hot girls every week, that would make my life easier than just grinding it out with cold approach.
But I don’t know how to become friends with the high-status kids.
My only plan is to force myself to go back to gaming in bars and clubs. But this time, instead of just focusing on talking to the hot girls, focus on talking to EVERYONE. This includes the hot girls, the groups of hot girls and guys, and the groups of just hot guys.
Pretty much just talk to EVERYONE, regardless of if they are girls, guys, or mixed.
Try to bring as much value as I can, like what Noir mentioned in Beer’s social circle thread.
I know I don’t have much value, so the only thing I can bring to the table is positive vibes and the desire to get to know someone on a deeper level (most people don’t care about “intellectual” conversation in nightlife though, they just want to have fun).
High standards
Another thing that’s holding me back from getting laid is my high standards.
I’m a delusional virgin with high standards. I pretty much only approach 6’s and up.
Also, I’m Asian, but I only approach white girls. I don’t find minority girls attractive for some fucked-up reason.
I’m currently trying to do nofap, but it's been hard as hell. My longest streaks have been 22 and 17 days. I find that when I don’t fap for awhile, girls start to look a lot more hotter, which is good because it makes me approach more.
Anyways, I’ve had an ugly girl offer me sex before, but I turned her down. She had purple hair, piercings, and tattoos. I will not give my V-card to a girl like that.
I rather keep working on my SMV until I can garner interest from the 6’s and up.
Because the way I see it is this: I’ve been approaching for so long. When I finally meet a girl who’s DTF, I want her to be at least decently attractive. I want the feeling of satisfaction that all my hard work has paid off. If I pay a hooker or nail a 4, what would’ve been the point of all that effort?
Anyways, I think that’s enough rambling for now. As you can see, I have many problems, but I hope that by posting here, I can sort my thoughts out and receive some actionable advice.
I’m a 24-year old virgin.
Have approached (what feels like) 1000 women since I first discovered game in 2013.
Most girls reject me right after my opener. It doesn’t matter if I open direct or indirect.
I mostly do lone wolf daygame, but I’ve done a bit of nightgame as well.
Gotten maybe like 100 numbers and only 6 dates.
Anyways, here’s what I think is wrong with my life:
Fitness
Currently, I’m 5’9, 138 lbs.
The main reason I’m so skinny is because I suffer from shoulder dyskinesis and piriformis syndrome.
I’ve been working with various health professionals for several years, but none of them can seem to help.
Right now, I’m working with an osteopath, and he’s been the most helpful so far, but I’m not sure if he can fix me 100%. I guess I just gotta keep working with him and doing his exercises.
Been trying to eat more and am slowly gaining weight (about 2 lbs a month).
I can lift light weights, but I find if I go too heavy, I start experiencing pain in my left arm and my left leg. Right now, I’m running a modified StrongLifts program and gradually pushing through my pain thresholds.
Fashion
I have a looks-maxing thread on another forum. Please PM me for the link. I’ve been gradually improving my wardrobe using the advice I’ve been given so far.
Work
So I graduated in 2017 with a useless bachelor’s degree in psychology.
Right now, I work random office jobs through the temp agency.
They always have work for me, and they always pay $15 an hour, which equates to about $2000 a month after taxes.
Put simply, I earn very little.
I’ve thought long and hard about what I’m passionate about, and of course, it’s reading and writing.
But how do you make money writing?
Well, I found out about copywriting.
So I completed a prestigious online course. Polished up my portfolio and created a website to showcase it.
Going to compile a list of advertising agencies in my area and start cold calling them to see if they need any freelance work done. Also been applying to some jobs on a copywriting Facebook group as well.
Pretty much going all in with my business. If it fails, I might go back to school for something stupid, but more employable, like digital marketing, tourism management, or public relations. I can also try applying to actual copywriting jobs, rather than trying to be a freelancer.
Because the way I see it is this: I suck at math and science, I can’t code, and I suck at working with my hands (trades). The only thing I seem to enjoy is reading and writing.
Logistics
I still live at home with my parents, which sucks, because they are super-religious and don’t approve of me bringing home random girls.
I’m currently in Vancouver, but am thinking of moving to a cheaper Canadian city like Calgary or Ottawa.
The problem is that I’m not sure if I could survive living on my own making $2000 a month. I would prefer a one-bedroom apartment downtown to ensure solid logistics and no cockblocking roommates.
So I’m conflicted now on whether I should move out ASAP, go back to school, or work on my business more. I currently have 15k saved up.
Social Circle
All my old friends just smoke weed and play video games, so I cut them off.
Now I have no friends.
Maybe if I had a social circle where I was constantly meeting hot girls every week, that would make my life easier than just grinding it out with cold approach.
But I don’t know how to become friends with the high-status kids.
My only plan is to force myself to go back to gaming in bars and clubs. But this time, instead of just focusing on talking to the hot girls, focus on talking to EVERYONE. This includes the hot girls, the groups of hot girls and guys, and the groups of just hot guys.
Pretty much just talk to EVERYONE, regardless of if they are girls, guys, or mixed.
Try to bring as much value as I can, like what Noir mentioned in Beer’s social circle thread.
I know I don’t have much value, so the only thing I can bring to the table is positive vibes and the desire to get to know someone on a deeper level (most people don’t care about “intellectual” conversation in nightlife though, they just want to have fun).
High standards
Another thing that’s holding me back from getting laid is my high standards.
I’m a delusional virgin with high standards. I pretty much only approach 6’s and up.
Also, I’m Asian, but I only approach white girls. I don’t find minority girls attractive for some fucked-up reason.
I’m currently trying to do nofap, but it's been hard as hell. My longest streaks have been 22 and 17 days. I find that when I don’t fap for awhile, girls start to look a lot more hotter, which is good because it makes me approach more.
Anyways, I’ve had an ugly girl offer me sex before, but I turned her down. She had purple hair, piercings, and tattoos. I will not give my V-card to a girl like that.
I rather keep working on my SMV until I can garner interest from the 6’s and up.
Because the way I see it is this: I’ve been approaching for so long. When I finally meet a girl who’s DTF, I want her to be at least decently attractive. I want the feeling of satisfaction that all my hard work has paid off. If I pay a hooker or nail a 4, what would’ve been the point of all that effort?
Anyways, I think that’s enough rambling for now. As you can see, I have many problems, but I hope that by posting here, I can sort my thoughts out and receive some actionable advice.