Quote: (02-15-2018 09:44 PM)AneroidOcean Wrote:
Quote: (02-15-2018 04:50 PM)the1element Wrote:
Good ideas for next time,
Went with enchiladas...
Let's see how this turns out.
Let us know how it turns out.
Frankly, if you're going to cook for a girl that can be a great way to bring her closer to you if you approach it right.
1. Make something you know how to make and have had good results with in the past.
2. Women love a man who can take charge. Take this opportunity to give her direction. Give her easy stuff to do that helps you. If there's only a couple things to help you with that's fine, but make sure to give her a few things to do so that she has buy-in but also so she is submitting to help you.
3. When you don't have anything for her to do, you have her sit and tell you about her day or about an experience she had that she enjoyed, or something like that. All the while she sips on some wine or something else you prepared for you both to drink. If either of you get low you can have her top you up (because clearly you're busy).
4. Listen to her, flirt with her, but don't be afraid to ignore her for a bit when needed in order not to screw up the meal.
5. There are many meals you can make that are simple yet have multiple courses. This can be as simple as starting with some crackers/cheese with your wine and ending with a simple scoop of ice cream or some dark chocolate, to as elaborate as you feel like.
Don't do it just for her, make something you enjoy and that you know you can cook well.
Man this fucking sucks to write about,
The dinner went fine, we watched a movie and had a good time but we didn't bang.
Made out, and that's it.
I feel like a failure as a man in some ways.
I tried to push further, you know pull her top off and so on...
No dice.
We made out after the movie and then she came to my bed and laid there while I made out with her a bit...
She then told me she needed to leave, and she said I hope you're not mad so I just told her it doesn't matter to me. Do what you want.
Eventually, she left...
Infront of the door we made out and I looked at her and said you know, it's a good idea you decided to leave. I wouldn't be able to keep my hands off you if you didn't.
Fuck man...
The worst part about this is she was telling me how she got fucked in a tunnel, church and so on.
I'm sitting here like, this fucking girl gets fucked in a church and you couldn't bang her
when she drove 40 minutes to your place...
This sounds stupid, but I just kind of feel like a failure as a man and wonder if girls just don't see me as a sexual person...
God damn.
I need to sit down and figure out the lessons learned from this. I wish I could unlock just the animal in me but I feel blocked...
Sexually blocked,
Even though I've banged I think 17 girls in my life.
She does think I'm a player though, so maybe she just doesn't want to get pump and dumped because she actually likes me...even though I told her I want nothing serious.
But for some reason, I just don't feel sexual as a man.
I hope this post hasn't turned into a whining fest and I definitely need to figure some shit out...
I'm not fronting over her, I have more dates lined up but I really feel like I should have been able to get a bang out of this and I'm sure I will next time we hangout.
Edit: Thinking this one over -- I need to just stop being so laid back, and go after what I want.
Edit 2: I think I get too focused on conversation...again. My fault. I try to have good conversation thinking good conversation, she laughs = time to kiss and then kiss more conversation and then sex. I need to just be more sexual overall...
I could feel I wasn't turning her on enough, I could tell when I was kissing her.
Edit 3: The above is why so many of the girls I do bang, are usually inexperienced. They take my game as "game" but when a girl whos had sex a few times is with me, they don't see me sexual and my game doesn't get them going.
I need to be more sexual. I feel like a sexual dud. Too much good conversation.
I'm thinking of one of my best achievements with game was when I banged a co-worker last summer. We went out for ice cream once with co-workers and the vibe was great. I wasn't trying to extract depp information out of her and then we planned a date which I ended up cancelling and telling her to come to my place. She came and we chatted, I definitely made sexual comments and was sexual here becase we were making out pretty quickly and soon banging.
I think I've gotten too caught up with focusing on deep conversation and getting to reveal her secrets and stuff. I can just feel, when I have girls over that there's just nothing sexual happening. I can feel that, I need to change that. Definitely.
I also think with this girl, I could have banged her if I went for it earlier not super late like I did.
Lot's of game lessons here....
Sucks....
But I feel if I can just keep learning and reflecting on my mistakes, I will get good and I will be the player I want to be.