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Going out Solo
09-13-2011, 02:40 PM
I still struggle rolling solo, and admitedly will often not go out certain nights when I don't have a wing, but this is often due to the fact that when I go out with a wing(s)/friend(s) I'm way more in a social mood, when you roll dolo you really got to push yourself sometimes, unless you're having some form of cabin fever and are super jazzed up about getting out the house and hitting the town.
Roosh's post on going solo is golden, read that, then re-read it accordingly. Some tips that I picked up from that post, plus other posts from threads on this forum I will share briefly:
Pick a spot and post up. Don't be the guy who walks around the bar/club aimlessly in circles, this will draw attention to you, makes it look like you're obviously alone, and "aimless", and awkward.
Maintain strong, confident body language, this is crucial. If you are constantly fidgeting, looking around the room, shifting your body, etc. You will look like that creepy guy, that everyone wants to avoid looking like. As Roosh says, "make slow, confident movements", like you're James Bond.
Don't constantly stare at your cell phone every five minutes, anyone who happens to notice you (lizards are kind of like social robots, constantly scanning), this will make you look insecure, and like you're uncomfortable.
It's okay to use your phone as a prop, I'm not a big fan of this, but I don't doubt it works. Pretend to have a conversation, you can even talk loudly about something that conveys social value ("Yeah man, I just got back from Vegas, and had the craziest night, you won't even believe some of the stories I'm gonna tell you.") Personally I prefer to send text messages to my other phone, so it looks like I'm communicating with someone.
Open people that enter your "orbit". Sit at the bar, and when girls stand next to you, when ordering there drinks, open them about how you like their "scarf, bag, ring, necklace, tattoo, etc." It can really be that easy sometimes... "Hey I like your bag, it looks like it might be from S. America...?"
As Roosh points out, when you post up and open people that enter your orbit, if you get rejected or the interaction doesn't go well, it forces THEM to walk away, so to the outside observer, you don't have to do the "walk of shame".
Personally, I don't smoke ciggs because I find them to be foul for the most part, but G-Man is right about ciggerette game. This is perhaps the easiest way to open a set when solo. Slide out to the patio, roll up and ask for a light, offer a light, ask for a smoke, offer a smoke. Smoking ciggs can be a bonding experience for people and a natural segue into convo.
Talk to bar staff, bouncers, etc. They work there, unless they are super busy, they will most likely be down to chat. I go to a local dive bar once a week, so at this point I know all the bartenders and bouncers and can bounce around making chat with all of them during low periods.
Try to infiltrate mixed sets. Some people might advise against this, but examine logistics for a good in. You meet a cool bro out with his GF and two of her single friends... Befriend that fool, buy him a drink, get introduced to the friends, charm the group, get approval, then isolate with your target.
Don't be afraid to buy a couple drinks. I think Roosh pointed this out on a past post. Personally I prefer to drink high end liquor over beer, and don't like that shwag beer shit. Right now PBR is back in because hipsters who like to look poor and thus "cool" like to drink it, and blue collar joe, I'm a "real man" like to drink it too. Shit is mad cheap like $2.00, if I buy a round for a few new friends, I'm not really breaking the bank.
Hope this helps!!