Seems like a bit of a disconnect here:
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I broke up with my first girlfriend
(my first girlfriend broke up with me)
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I planned on dumping her first week of college
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I got to attached and couldn't bring my self to dump her
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only to have her dump me a month and a half into school.
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It was honestly a shock to me because I thought we were doing really well
If you were planning on dumping her, it wasn't going that well.
There isn't much point in asking a girl why she got rid of you, she will likely sugar coat it to avoid hurting you more. I would go with the above advice and cut off communication. The reason she has dumped you is she thinks she can do better. If she thought you were the best she can get, she would have kept you.
Getting your act together with your direction is key. I know many people 10+ years older than you who never decided on any direction and just floated through life taking what morsels floated their way. They are utterly miserable and tend to have an aggressive attitude masking deep jealousy and hatred of those who have what they will ever have, things they had to fight for. I didn't really get any direction in any area until I was about 25 or 26 and the cost has been I don't have anywhere as much wealth as I should do. The same in the women department, but a later starting age.
Treat it as a learning experience and enjoy the trials and tribulations. Enjoy the pain. There are so many zeta-males out there who would die to have the the privilege of being dumped.
Find out what you want in terms of your future career, relationships with women, your body, your wardrobe, your friendships. Set your goals and keep moving towards them without constantly stopping and questioning yourself, doubting, caring what others might think of you. You may fail, or fall short, or have lopsided results; but if you've achieved 25% of your goals, that will probably be better than most people who don't know what they are doing.
This is a good program to find out more about who you are and set your goals:
https://www.selfauthoring.com/