Quote: (06-29-2017 09:36 AM)Skank_Hunt Wrote:
Who says I have given up? On the Anglosphere, perhaps; it doesn't offer a good enough ROI for me, nor does it for countless other men who choose to relocate. That's not giving up; it's smart. If you get a 10x better ROI on your efforts to improve yourself in another place/places, then it makes sense to seek to travel to those places. If I can't stand entitled social media addicted 49ers, fatties, and average girls, and there are places which provide the opposite, it makes sense to go there. Past a certain point, if you go out too many times, you can definitely become jaded, and even if you get a "notch" going out becomes a form of self-flagellation. If you find my writing a bit too much, check out some of Roosh's most popular articles. I am definitely pissed off about a lot of things from social media addiction to general political and social changes that have caused such rapid decline in quantity and quality of women in the US. I understand the perspective of "adapt", but again, past a certain point even the best and most innovative adaptations still produce poor ROI. You may go out in the Anglosphere and have a blast - more power to you. I personally don't find it enjoyable.
Your reasons for male improvement are not wrong: men are more into fitness and style than they used to be today than a few decades ago. You can dispute the reasons as to why that is, but one of them is the "arms race", where in real life (not online) men improve themselves even further to compete with the other men chasing even more scarce pleasant, attractive girls. Inflated attitudes due to social media aside, obesity itself essentially eliminates the large part of the eligible pool of young women, before you even begin to do anything to improve yourself as a man.
As for the "alternative" perspective of social media and dating apps making things "easier", that is simply not true. Attention whoring and inflated egos etc. and their effects are things that no longer need to be explained on here. I understand what you are trying to say but it just does not mesh with reality at this time. Men are overly reliant on online dating, but thirst in general has increased exponentially. Whether in real life or online, women will be approached. Add to this the fact that once women bang male model looking guys, and get repeatedly pumped and dumped by them (the top <1% of the guys on these apps), women will be more used, more jaded, and more expectant of similar quality at a club or bar. By the time the average guy approaches her, she has already been fucked by a number of male "9s" from Tinder, so what are you going to do? "Adapt" when she sees you are nowhere near a "9"? How do you adapt to "No" girls? In most cases, you just can't. No amount of game will change an unwaveringly unreceptive girl's demeanor.
So you "self-improve": you go to the gym and spend huge amounts of time, money and effort to get absolutely shredded, but your genetics have a limit; still only a small fraction of men can become "9". Your time, money and effort would have been better spent working hard, getting your shit in order, and living in places outside the Anglosphere where increasingly your average 6 demands a male 9 as a BF because she managed to get fucked by a few of them on Tinder. Doing this instead of entertaining the low quality women in the Anglosphere is an "adaptation" that can actually provide good ROI. If you want to stay put then no one else can convince you otherwise, but to say that it's become "easier" to approach and get with more and better quality girls as a result of Tinder/social media etc. is laughable and worse, it can mislead members who happen to read your post and actually believe it.
I've been going to clubs for almost 15 years, and it has 100% gotten easier to approach due to fewer males engaging in it. The males who do now are higher quality, yes (aforementioned fashion/fitness), but there are far fewer of them on average doing it. 15 years ago to get laid a man had to approach a woman in real life, now he can go on Tinder instead. And its much easier to do the latter for most men. This has had a huge effect in reducing the number of men who're out there engaging in approaches - making women much more receptive to those who do so.
Location arbitrage to improve your value is something most people on this forum, including myself, readily argue in favour of. But there are 230million women in the Anglosphere. If you can't find quality women in any of them, then you are definitely 'giving up'. Is it harder to find a good woman in NYC than Kiev? Absolutely. But is it impossible? No. Talking in terms of 'ROI' is pointless, if someone can easily movie their family and professional life to Bangkok to help them chase women then they absolutely should do so. But writing off the country you live in, because its "too hard", or you'd get a better ROI elsewhere is an excuse. Either move to that other country or get out there and approach women in your own.
You talk about self improvement as if its some mammoth task, that requires "huge amounts of time, money and effort". It doesn't. If a man does 5 hours of weightlifting a week for 18 months they'll be in better physical shape than 90% of their competitors. And they'll also be far fitter, healthier and happier in general - aside from any attention from women. Investing in a new, fashionable wardrobe takes a week and $1000 - hardly a high bar to entry. A fashionable man whos also in better physical shape than 90% of his competitors will get women anywhere in the world, presuming hes not socially retarded or facially disfigured.