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Please listen to me complain about my first world problems.

I travel a lot internationally. Last couple trips I've been gone 6 months each. When I'm home I visit and stay with family upstate for a few days to a few weeks.

Then I HAVE take off again. Any longer and I go crazy. There's nothing wrong with life up here per say. It's just isolating emotionally. I don't know why this doesn't seem to effect me nearly as bad when I travel to remote areas of the world?

I don't even bother with my mom. She's a flaming liberal I can't take for more than 5 minutes. My dads gf is better.

My dad is retired military and hard to deal with. We fight almost everyday about dumb shit. When I get home there's always a list of stuff my sisters have for me to help him with. Moving air conditioners, installing appliances, etc. I cook healthy, hit the gym, go for walks, sightsee, shop, get clothes tailored, head intro the city.

Except for my dad, I feel like I have no life at home. There's a few local yocal friends from high school a few towns away. but I try to avoid them. We never stopped being friends but...

The one local bar can have some quality but they are very young shy girls who are always in cliques. So at 35 and being here for a few days it's hardly worth it.

I grew up here but left for university in the city. Then lived there, westchester, NJ for several years afterwards. Basically anywhere but manhattan sucks if you want quality girls who will same night lay you.

Financially it makes no sense keeping my own place. It'd be a financial drain. I have free options to crash overnight in Manhattan with friends. However I have specific rules to stop bringing girls over. My friends work and are annoyed at me coming in at 3am to bang a girl on a Tuesday. And I'm 35. Crashing is not my style.

I've been on dates in Manhattan. Leas than half the girls are willing to go back to theirs. And it's usually Brooklyn or queens. Fuck that. Not worth it usually.

So yeah basically a few days at home I start to get really annoyed and frustrated. The logistics are OK for commuting to NYC. The bus in front of my complex goes to Port Authority. It actually takes less time than when I lived in upper Manhattan. And no transfers. Lastcone back is 1:40am. But it broke down and left me stranded.

It's not impossible to have a single life commuting. But it's difficult. There's no easy mode. I have friends who just use tinder to order college pussy to their overpriced studio in Harlem.

When I match with those girls on Tinder they wonder why I don't push for a meet in the convo. BC I'm actually 40 miles upstate! I take the bus in the next day, but the lead is dead.

Girls I game in person are not DTF until dangerously close to my last bus home. I don't have a daytime place in the Manhattan to take them. So its hard to lead.

Overall it's a good situation. I have a free room at my dads place. He's ok with me bringing girls there. But the local ones Ive picked up around the outlets were no prize. Even he was like don't bother. Just go to the city.

Other night I met a local girl and went back to her place. I had her in bed ready to fuck or at least blow me. I was on autopilot. I really had no interest in her sexually. She looked ok clothed. But naked she was gross. I left.

She texted me again last night. Asked me to come over and get a BJ. Even apologized for giving me shit. Her ASD and LMR were standard. But she's a New Yorker. Annoying as fuck. Couldn't help but give me a bit of insulting attitude during comfort to light kino. Gave her an excuse. A chubby girl with an annoying personality isn't even worth a free blow job to me.

Ive tried staying in the city. I've gotten decent deals on Airbnb but the host didn't want me bringing girls back. They usually have a room in the apt. Otherwise for the cost you should just get a hotel.

I recently split a hotel with a buddy. But didn't feel this was worth it. On the last day I stored my bags and finally took an offer to party with a female promoter I know. She has a harem of young blondes that do the dinner and lounge circuit. No of them are hot. They're OK. She's hesitant to allow guys to their table for free. But looking at my Instagram I seem pimp.

I get there and it's great ratios. Everything from coat check to drinks comp. The girls at her table are all young and bangable. The male promoter is giving me fuck you looks the whole night. He even tossed ice cubes at us whenever I isolate girls to the couch.

I hung back to work out the groups dynamics. I let him have the only 8 too. She pushed him off all night. She finally gave him a small makeout before they cleared out. He was wasn't even decently dressed. Not sure how they even let him in despite being a promoter.

It was after 2 and everyone was heading to a club with cover. Fuck that. I get another guy to wing me and pick up a girl who turned or to be a promoter. She says I can crash at her place. But she wants a threesome with some ugly couple. I'm tired so just go get my bags and call for a ride upstate.

Right now I'm torn between going on another trip and driving cross country. I found a place for the summer in São Paulo. But I want to get my van out of storage. It's a monthly bill I can eliminate. It'd be a worthwhile trip if I take the summer and see some national parks. But I'll barely get laid doing that.

[qwertyuiop]

Shit after 3 or 4 years of hard core going out I took some time off to work on my career.

Is your job remote? I have thought about renting an airBNB in south america for 6 months while working to reset my mind.

[Travel Museums]

Well I consider myself retired. So I'm just an investor now really. I make travel videos for fun.

[fucksong]

I've been wanting to move to NY for awhile but costs of Manhattan are crazy. Could you list the cities that are within a one hour ride of either ONE bus ride or train ride away from Manhattan?

Thanks in advance

[polar]

Google it or use Trulia commute planner.

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New York has three areas: the city, upstate, and Long Island.

But there's also the tristate area which includes CT & NJ. Some people argue PA.

Living in NJ sucks because you're taking the bus or path in. Since hurricane sandy the weekend service is nonexistent or seriously Impaired by the repair schedule. There's some nightlife in jersey city or Hoboken.

I lived in Bergen county NJ for awhile which I hated. The rent was FAR LESS than when I lived in Manhattan. So was the quality. I got a job there so I didn't have to commute. Then most weekends I stayed home doing nothing. Sucked.

I lived in Westchester for awhile. Slightly less annoying to get into the city but you have to walk to the train, wait, transfer from GCT to subway or walk across town. OK if you're married and have a family to hustle home too. Sucks if not. I had a good thing going raiding a college campus up there but that got old quick.

Living in Brooklyn as a student was tolerable. In financial district not so much. Total ghost town at night. Supposedly changing but not really.

Went to school in Long Island which I hated. Mostly because of the people and lack of culture.

I dated some girls in PA and took buses out there on weekends. You should just kill yourself rather than deal with that nonsense.

I had a divorced lady in Connecticut I would see on weekends for awhile. Nice estate and money. Boring as fuck. Felt like I was back home upstate. Unless you had some specific stuff to do planned out it wasn't worth the Sunday evening commute back.

Probably the best situation I had was living in a dump in Spanish Harlem. I could lie to girls that it was upper east side if they were scared. Or pump up SpaHa if they were trendy or goody-goody rebels. Use the 96th street subway then talk about gentrification pushing to 98th and distracting them until crossing a couple avenues and getting to 100th. It was also easy to take a cross town bus towards Columbia campus or walk down to hunter. Columbia had way better girls DTF.

A few years of that routine damn near made me lose my mind. I felt trapped and left the city. I now consider those years a total loss of life. Yeah I got laid but for the sacrifice of time and effort not worth it. I should have been backpacking. Then again that was back when I was concerned about things like jelqing my already more than adequate Dick size. Just a dumb point in my life.

Even then I felt completely locked down in the city. The winters are unbearable. Windows open and air conditioner on sweating balls hot. Summer grimy and humid AC pumping away. No one wants to leave their place to do anything. Well less of an issue nighttime in summer. At least the trains have AC.

I just don't think manhattan is worth the sacrifice unless you're not into traveling or you're a multi-millionaire. Whenever I consider the costs involved for doing it proper for even a month i say nope! That's equal to a trip to almost any country in the world. Why go back to manhattan for even a month?

I guess it's easy to say when you grow up in the area and have been there every season and seen all the sights etc.

Put off flying to LA for a week hoping the weather in NY would improve. Then today it's 90+ F and too hot. Just sat home with AC. I guess it's about right for may.

You get two nice weeks around now to mid June before it's consistently too hot. Same in sept-October before it's too cold.

Fuck it I'm turning down my place brazil. South America will have to wait. Flying to LA and getting my camper out of storage. Hitting the sierras then Pacific Northwest. Maybe some of Canada and down the Great Plains. Mostly areas of North America I haven't properly explored yet. Parking in lots and Walmarts. I'm going to barely get laid. The real challenge is showering everyday. I hope the son of bitch turns over. I haven't started it in 8-9 months!

Talk about a man going his own way. #MGHOW #NoPussyForYou