Something that has come up in Poland is a girl stating that she has a rule. (I don't remember getting this in the States.) There are two I've encountered:
1. "I don't kiss on the first night."
2. "I don't have sex on the first date."
When a girl states that she has a "rule" not to do something (using that exact word), I find it to be difficult to break. 90% of them stick with it to the bitter end. I've tried three tactics to overcome this:
1. Directly challenge the rule as being short-sighted, boring.
2. Ignore the rule like I didn't hear it.
3. Follow her rule and wait it out.
The first tactic doesn't work: she completely puts up her guard, ready to defend it until death. The second tactic works a bit better. I can get real close, but eventually the rule comes up. Last night I met a girl who had a "I don't kiss on the first night" rule. I broke her down so that we had a short closed mouth kiss on the lips, but this was unsatisfying to me. The third rule actually does work, but this guarantees I won't get sex for at least one night, maybe two.
Any other suggestions on what to try?
A tactic I want to use now is challenge the rule by using humor that doesn't trigger her defense (agree & absurdify). This is what I will say next:
"That's a great rule. It protects you from guys like me who want to use you for your body, but I read in the newspaper that an asteroid is going to crash on the earth tomorrow. Unfortunately, we're all going to die. So, do you want to come to my place now of after another drink?
"
I know it will get a laugh, but probably not more.
1. "I don't kiss on the first night."
2. "I don't have sex on the first date."
When a girl states that she has a "rule" not to do something (using that exact word), I find it to be difficult to break. 90% of them stick with it to the bitter end. I've tried three tactics to overcome this:
1. Directly challenge the rule as being short-sighted, boring.
2. Ignore the rule like I didn't hear it.
3. Follow her rule and wait it out.
The first tactic doesn't work: she completely puts up her guard, ready to defend it until death. The second tactic works a bit better. I can get real close, but eventually the rule comes up. Last night I met a girl who had a "I don't kiss on the first night" rule. I broke her down so that we had a short closed mouth kiss on the lips, but this was unsatisfying to me. The third rule actually does work, but this guarantees I won't get sex for at least one night, maybe two.
Any other suggestions on what to try?
A tactic I want to use now is challenge the rule by using humor that doesn't trigger her defense (agree & absurdify). This is what I will say next:
"That's a great rule. It protects you from guys like me who want to use you for your body, but I read in the newspaper that an asteroid is going to crash on the earth tomorrow. Unfortunately, we're all going to die. So, do you want to come to my place now of after another drink?
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I know it will get a laugh, but probably not more.
Roosh
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