Quote: (02-14-2017 10:56 AM)Moreless Wrote:
Quote: (02-07-2017 08:18 PM)weambulance Wrote:
The problem is women are indoctrinated to believe that if they ever rely on a man for anything, he's guaranteed to leave her in a shitty situation.
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I have found women are more willing drop everything and run at the first sign of trouble instead of working to make the situation better. Is this taught or is this biological reaction?
I won't say this applies in every situation, but women instinctively recoil from men who show weakness, because they don't want to be the mate of a weak man. Even if that weakness is something like an accidental injury. They have to be taught by their mothers and grandmothers how to control that instinct.
I doubt it's still available but Sunshine Mary had a good piece about that a few years back, how when her husband was badly injured in a skiing accident she felt instinctively repulsed and resentful at having to step up and take care of him. Even though she knew where the reaction was coming from, it was still real, and hard to deal with. That's how I remember the gist of the article, anyway.
I'm well into the weeds of educated speculation now but I think there are several factors that contribute to women being prone to cutting and running instead of sticking it out:
First, they mostly don't get that education from their elder women I mentioned above, even by just being around multiple generations of stable families and observing good behavior.
Second, and worse, they're taught from birth that men can't be relied on, so as soon as things look bad they're likely to bounce. Their natural instinct is just amplified by feminist indoctrination, making it much worse. It's no coincidence that women initiate ~70% of divorces.
Third, and related to the first point, because stable multigenerational families are often
spread out even if that support structure would normally be available, if they don't have the support and pressure of the rest of the family to do their duty by their husbands, it's a lot easier for them to just cut and run. For example, I have a very large family with just a single divorce in the last three generations. But we're spread out across three states. My nearest relatives are 30+ miles away and the next nearest are 60 miles away. What I see as the family core gets together a lot but we're not exactly having dinner together three nights a week. That family support and pressure that's desirable is not readily available most of the time.
There's probably more to it but this is off the top of my head, and I haven't thought about this in awhile. It's interesting to think about, though. A lot of women's shitty behavior really is built-in, and they need to be taught to control it. Unfortunately in modern society, they're taught to embrace their idiotic, self destructive impulses, which just leads to their common dyscivic behavior.