Quote: (02-02-2017 01:08 PM)birthday cat Wrote:
I think some guys over-estimate how easy it is to have a LTR where they can discreetly bang other girls but the girls aren't allowed to see other guys.
In my opinion, a logical solution would be to allow the girl to have platonic friends. The guy gets to bang other girls and the girl gets to receive attention but not bang other guys. This seems more realistic to me and it is based on the idea that men seek sex and women seek attention. What do you guys think?
Also, I am not suggesting that this solution would work for VV. The long distance aspect of his relationship makes it very difficult.
It's easier when she lives in another nearby city, but you see each other 2-3 times a week.
You have to be somewhat of a sociopath in order to enjoy an LTR and fuck on the side.
My former LTR had a few girlfriends, 1 or 2 coworker girlfriends, but mostly kept to herself and spent her time with her family at home. She never had guy friends that I knew of, and was protective of me anytime I said hi to a woman (gotta love that Latina sass).
Anytime I'm on a date with a woman and the subject of guy friends come up, I always say with a smirk and a Blowjob motion, "yeah LOTS of guy friends"
I blow the topic out of the water by asking one simple question, "If you gave them a pass to fuck you, they would take it wouldn't they ?"
The answers ranges from "well we've hooked up, but that was years before" to "well he did say he likes me, but I said I'm not interested", to silence or a laugh. Bitches know what's up.
They try to counter me asking me if I have any girl friends, I say no, any girl I'm hanging with, I'm interested in, any other girl is married, or in a social circle of friends that I'm not close to.
Most guys here are weary of guys "who are just friends" unless they're married or in a serious LTR. Like I said before any girl I was friends with, I wanted to fuck.
This is more of a problem of frame, reframing, only to have another problem rise up.
Reading about VV's past experiences with girl, I tend to see a pattern of this rising up, unfortunately they're way too far apart to manage a good LTR, she's pining for attention, Skype/Text/Phone Calls, can only go so far, you HAVE to be PHYSICALLY there and dick her down good so she only has gina tingles for you.