Met this girl at church last month and we have still been talking. We have gone out on four dates so far and she still initiates texts and calls with me.
Here is the thing: she does not like public displays of affection or any touch whatsoever. I have tried the holding hands, arm-in-arm, and makeout, but she is clear she doesn't want to make out with anyone until she is married. I do the arm-in-arm and hand holding, but she accepts it at times and at times she does not. In fairness, she did say on our first date even before we talked that she doesn't consider touching important to a relationship, she wants to take things real slow, and she did not makeout at all with her ex boyfriend who she dated for a year.
But I think I screwed up. She still agrees to dates and texts me from time to time but she does not seem as enthusiastic as she was when we first met. I will admit, I messed up badly. She asked me for the first time whether I was a virgin last week, and I told her "no" (I should've told her it was personal or waited sometime down the road to tell her, but you live and you learn). She said it was her dream to meet a guy who was saved until marriage, and will need to do some "praying" over the situation, but said it was not a dealbreaker and that her friend married a non-virgin and is happy. She at the same time revealed how she was hurt by her ex boyfriend, and wanted the whole time to take things slow and not rush into a relationship because of her past. However, she likes the fact that although I attend church, I am a regular guy who likes to have fun while her ex was a super-religious square (he didn't drink, was a virgin, and didn't listen to any other music than Christian music). I also do things such as holding doors, walking on the side closest to the street, etc., but like to bust her balls and be playful with her too. We have a date currently planned for next Friday she agreed to.
I eventually see myself getting more serious with her myself, but I am not there yet. However, I want to make sure she knows I am in it for the long haul, but not as friends. I am supposed to go gaming tonight with a friend, and want to have other girls in backup in case this goes nowhere. I am afraid I'll invest too much and get hurt. But I want her to get the enthusiasm back that she had for me before. How do I do this? Your help is appreciated.
Here is the thing: she does not like public displays of affection or any touch whatsoever. I have tried the holding hands, arm-in-arm, and makeout, but she is clear she doesn't want to make out with anyone until she is married. I do the arm-in-arm and hand holding, but she accepts it at times and at times she does not. In fairness, she did say on our first date even before we talked that she doesn't consider touching important to a relationship, she wants to take things real slow, and she did not makeout at all with her ex boyfriend who she dated for a year.
But I think I screwed up. She still agrees to dates and texts me from time to time but she does not seem as enthusiastic as she was when we first met. I will admit, I messed up badly. She asked me for the first time whether I was a virgin last week, and I told her "no" (I should've told her it was personal or waited sometime down the road to tell her, but you live and you learn). She said it was her dream to meet a guy who was saved until marriage, and will need to do some "praying" over the situation, but said it was not a dealbreaker and that her friend married a non-virgin and is happy. She at the same time revealed how she was hurt by her ex boyfriend, and wanted the whole time to take things slow and not rush into a relationship because of her past. However, she likes the fact that although I attend church, I am a regular guy who likes to have fun while her ex was a super-religious square (he didn't drink, was a virgin, and didn't listen to any other music than Christian music). I also do things such as holding doors, walking on the side closest to the street, etc., but like to bust her balls and be playful with her too. We have a date currently planned for next Friday she agreed to.
I eventually see myself getting more serious with her myself, but I am not there yet. However, I want to make sure she knows I am in it for the long haul, but not as friends. I am supposed to go gaming tonight with a friend, and want to have other girls in backup in case this goes nowhere. I am afraid I'll invest too much and get hurt. But I want her to get the enthusiasm back that she had for me before. How do I do this? Your help is appreciated.