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'Is this a Rejection?' Thread
09-08-2016, 09:35 PM
I recently had a situation where I am not sure if she is still interested or not..
Here goes the story.. I met this girl in a one day course at uni. IOIs were there and she even asked me what I was doing that night. Being unaware of much game, I didnt follow the lead. No numbers were exchanged at that point.
A few weeks later, I responded to some survey she was doing. Had one on one time with her and tried out a little game but kept it light hearted No kino done but I could have on hindsight. She asked me what I was doing that night and again I didn't take her up on it. Asked for her number but she said 'It was not necessary and I already have it' as she had called me earlier to set up the appointment. I didn't call her though.
Saw her in passing a few days later but her face was turned away, not sure if she was deliberately doing it.
A few days ago, she passed by my aisle at a department store. I approached and we talked about the survey she was doing and how it was going. Told her we can catch up. She said "I might have classes.' Pulled out Gio's ' We might never see each other again.' She replied ' Yeah,going back to my hometown in 2 months.' Then told her, I will call her this week.
Now, I have her number but my number is one of the many she has from her survey studies. I called her 2 days ago, she didnt pick up, there was no voice mail. Couldnt send her a text due to my phone service. Since it wasnt a proper number exchange, I am not sure if she thinks it seems too desperate to answer me or if she was simply not interested anymore.
My service is screwed up so I am changing my number. Do you guys think I should call her again with the new number and leave a text stating my name and asking her to call back? Or is it too late?
I am aware I messed up badly twice. Maybe I should give her some plausible deniability to make her feel better?
Your opinions and suggestions are welcome.
Thanks.
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'Is this a Rejection?' Thread
09-08-2016, 09:54 PM
Let me Understand, Do you like the girl? Or You are just desesperate because you can't find another girl. Just call her back and say you want to go out, Just missed some opportunities.
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09-08-2016, 10:50 PM
You have the decission to call her back if you want. I had a similar case,
But instead of investing my time or effort in a girl i don't like, i rather prefer to bang chicks who i am interested.
By the way, Seems that you really don't like her, just want some reasons from us to not call her. That's my humble appreciation.
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09-09-2016, 09:28 AM
Actually, I was wondering if the reason she didnt respond was because she lost interest or is it because she doesnt want to show too much interest. This is from a purely game point of view.
She could have called back or txted to ask who I am, if she suspected it was me given that I told her I will call her.
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09-09-2016, 04:01 PM
She opened you for plans twice and you didn't get the hint. Last time you actually talked to her and tried to make plans she rejecting you with an "I'm going to be busy" excuse.
You can text her you like. It's not going to kill you but it probably won't do anything either. Take it as a lesson to not pass up opportunities, especially easy ones, and go meet other women.
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09-28-2016, 12:41 AM
Another instance I would like to get some responses to:
There is this girl I know but not very well. Know her name but never really talked to her. Exchanged smiles a couple of times (introduced by some one first time, was on the phone the second time) before but thats it.
So, I happened to see her in a cafeteria she was inside and I was outside about to enter. There was eye contact but I didnt respond and neither did she. I went inside with a friend but she had pulled a newspaper and pretended to read it by then.
What just happened?
(a) Should I have waved or acknowledged her when I saw her? Would this have made a difference?
(b) Should I have opened her regardless of her reading the paper? Is this a test for me to approach?
© Is she just looking for attention?
(d)How should I respond the next time I see her?
This kind of thing has happened quite a bit in the past where girls I didnt know very well seem interested but before I got to know them well, they suddenly switch off.
Thanks guys.
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09-28-2016, 07:07 PM
At the very least you should have walked up to her and said hello since you know her name. Stop being afraid to approach, just do it, don't think about it.
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10-02-2016, 02:40 PM
With a little bit of common sense you don't need this thread.
Did she, in her interactions with you, either directly hint at or leave the door open to future interactions?
If so no. If on the other hand she closed the door on the interaction without giving you anything that you could reasonably be expected to follow up on then either she's extremely shy(good for LTRs, but if you have to ask you're either not looking for a wife or don't have enough game that you should even be thinking about marriage) or she isn't interested.
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10-05-2016, 01:30 PM
Whenever you get an opportunity to talk to a woman in person do it, the possibilities are so plentiful. Stop rationalizing not talking to this woman, just do it.
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09-16-2017, 10:35 PM
Hey guys, there is a situation where I am not sure if there is interest on her side or not. Approached a girl who had come alone to the grocery store, have seen her at uni and in stores before and even opened her once before but could not get the number due to situational constraints combined with hesitation when I was new to game. Anyway, she did see me this time and I think made it easier for me to approach, we talked about the item that she was buying and related topics, no indication that she wanted to leave, she almost did after my initial qn but I kind of managed to drag the convo, later she was sharing some of her experience etc. Suddenly, she said 'I better go now, my friends are there' and left, I looked around and there were 2 guys behind me quite some distance away looking in her direction, didn't really get to getting her contact info part yet, and I felt I didn't get to build enough convo time to get the number as she was leaving but I might bump into her again.
Not sure if she wanted to leave or if she was kind of shy being seen by a random guy by her friends or if she is into one of those guys. What do you guys think?
Appreciate your take on this.
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09-17-2017, 03:04 AM
You wanna be having enough numbers and options that if a girl doesn't take you up on your approach (other than analyzing your game) it doesn't phase you.
What I'm reading in your posts is girls are waiting for you to take control and they're picking up on your nerves.
That's a female bones shrinker.
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'Is this a Rejection?' Thread
09-17-2017, 10:57 PM
Someone once said that the difference that makes the difference is indifference.
I once had a wing man who when I said 'oh that girls so cute and fit, I feel nervous' would say 'let's go and get blown out'
He'd go over and 'I wanna invade your space, I wanna fuck up your night ladies, I'm your stalker' ... And of course they loved it.
It's getting to 'nothing means nothing'. Chicks love it.