Quote: (08-11-2016 11:23 AM)DimeBait Wrote:
I just turned 40, I have teenage boys in high school and I have slowly begun exposing them to the game since discovering they had become sexually active.
Mostly, I explain how women/girls have been programed with unrealistic expectations from men and unreasonable beliefs that they posses something of value in their pants by virtue of their chromosomal makeup. However, part of me feels like they should learn the hard way like most of us have, but part of me wants them to equally value themselves as opposed to building their social status with erroneous negative equity.
My dad, though I love him to death, in retrospect, had very beta dating advice for me and still does when it comes to LTR advice. Like any parent, I just want my boys to have a leg up, but I don't want to raise assholes either.
What are you, or will you be teaching your sons, nephews, little brothers, etc about the game? Is there such thing as too early?
I have to agree with WIA here. Game should be taught from the very beginning of a man's life. These are the key aspects that I'm talking about when I refer to game. I believe that game applies to everyone. Some people would call it a different kind of game, but I would call it a variation:
1. Listening - If you listen and truly process your thoughts before you speak (and use less words) you will be ahead of the curve.
2. Frame - Truly having your own direction in life, sticking to your guns, not letting others direct your world-view.
3. Teasing/Flirting - Even little boys learn to do this with each other (the teasing part) and can do innocuous/light flirting with women as well as girls their age.
4. Self-Improvement - As a kid you're always learning/improving yourself just by virtue of gaining experience and understanding the world, but instilling a hunger for knowledge and showing a child how they can learn things and do things themselves that most adults are too scared to do is huge.
5. Mindset - Understanding fear, rejection, and the negative side of the world and how you can choose to have things affect you positively or negatively. You can change your path with your mindset.
6. Social skills, body language, micro-expressions, etc... can all be built up in a kid so that they have a leg up in the world. They don't have to be the center of attention, but learning to be above average socially is a gift.
7. Motivation - How to motivate oneself but also understanding what motivations people have when they say things or do things. Not everything is as it seems. Some people in positions of authority don't necessarily have more knowledge or understanding than the average person with some self-education.
8. Physical Activity/Sports - Health benefits plus socialization and competition.
9. Success - How most people measure it, how you don't have to measure yourself by anything but against your own definition.
10. Networking/Providing Value - This is part of socialization, but if you can teach a young mind to understand that if they provide value to the right people and make the right connections, they can get far more than most people would ever realize in terms of experiences, opportunities, and access to things they would never be able to afford or make happen easily on their own.
There's more, but I imagine you get the idea now that there's a lot of game skills that can be taught (and other important life skills which help with gaming) or at least start to be introduced at a young age to give your boys a leg up in the world.