[JonnyOxford88]

Thanks all for the advice.

I definitely value my LTR, and whether you value it or not there will always be a level of temptation which I got over pretty damn quickly. She was at it again today... trying to instigate inappropriate conversation. I pretty much just kept quiet and let her do her thing. I will continue to do this till she disappears. I don't think going to HR would be wise, what with this being a new job and me generally feeling like a pussy about having to resort to that kind of thing.

Funny how her husband probably has no idea she's a flirtatious little cock tease in the work place.

"A ring don't mean a thing" as they say.

[kinjutsu]

(08-02-2016 05:44 PM)kaotic Wrote:  

(08-02-2016 04:46 PM)Kona Wrote:  

This just reads like an advice column from cosmopolitan to me.

Especially the "gather enough evidence then go to hr" that the guy says he does because he's "ruthless." Even the definition of ruthless has changed.

I fraternized with lots of women for nine years in the navy. Some of those bangs could have landed me in jail. I never had one single problem. I suppose it is because I used what we call "frame" properly.

Make sure its understood that nobody is telling anyone. Make sure the situation ends on a friendly note, also.

And the perfect quote in this thread above by kaotic: " when has shit that's almost fantasy like played out nicely"

Not very often. So when it does, capitalize. Don't complain to human resources.

Aloha!

I agree, no need to snitch or any of that shit, just hold your frame if you don't want her advances.

Stay cool and aloof.

Last thing you want to show a predatory female is any sign of weakness.

I second this. If you show weakness she'll get more bold and aggressive with her behavior.
Behind the scenes remember to gather evidence and keep a very detailed record of your interactions as well as audio/video recordings if possible.
In these recordings, make it clear verbally that you are not interested EVEYTIME she talks to you.

Also do not tell her ANY information about your LTR. This loose piece of garbage is trying to setup and angle to fuck your shit up behind your back.
I cannot stress this enough. Information blackout on your personal life from this point forward, especially around her.

A lot of people in this this don't realize the OP is not some OG Mack player of the year. He's trying not to have this crazy woman fuck up his shit. Fucking a female co-worker, who is married and coming on strong to you is a bad idea. There's a reason the general consensus is against fucking with co-workers, beyond the abundance mentality, is the ability for the girl to cause you all sorts of problems.

IF you are some kind of player and want to use her to your advantage. Get her to introduce you to her hot friends.

[Easy_C]

Everything you need to know about seeing women at work, especially AMERICAN women at work, is in this video


https://youtu.be/yBy6bhT-Awo

[Saweeep]

She is toying with you for sport.

She has no intention of fucking you.

Ignore her and she will eventually go away and find someone new to play with.

[Sewage2016]

^ Sage advice from the guys above. I work in a Fortune 100 company in management and have seen quite a few hookups amongst married people. Every one, yes every one, ended very badly. Every time the guy regretted it. Some chicks love toying with men. Some love to create drama. And some want to just fuck up other's lives, period.

And no guy I've seen ever got a severance package when they had to leave the company in disgrace.

[General Stalin]

Seems like OP has already got it figured out, but to add a little more reason to this:

The best case scenario is you have some sex. This is a situation where the risk likely outweighs the reward.

If she is a co-worker then just be professional with her despite her flirtatious and casual chatter. Make it obvious you intend to to treat your place of business as such and the people there are your colleagues/associates not your friends.

[puckerman]

I've lost count of the number of times it's come up on boards and in other discussion groups. It starts with something like this: "There's this girl at work...." The chorus of responses is always the same, too: "Don't shit where you eat." "Don't hit on women at work." The advice holds true:

IN THE USA, DO NOT GO AFTER WOMEN AT YOUR WORKPLACE.

[LeeEnfield303]

This is the golden chewy-caramel goodness in this thread:

Quote:

Be very suspicious of any girl tries to get into your life without any energy on your part.

Any woman who does this, particularly a married one, has an agenda. Be warned.

[Rhyme or Reason]

(08-07-2016 12:59 PM)LeeEnfield303 Wrote:  

This is the golden chewy-caramel goodness in this thread:

Quote:

Be very suspicious of any girl tries to get into your life without any energy on your part.

Any woman who does this, particularly a married one, has an agenda. Be warned.

This is indeed the most salient point of these types of posts, in addition to the numerous other reasons work pussy is a bad investment.


The OP here took the advice soundly, however there's been other cases in the newbie section where upon hearing this, they lashed out and took personal offense.

"how dare you! Just because girls dont hit on YOU doesn't mean they don't hit on other guys! YOU MUST BE UGLY/FAT/ A LOSER!"

[Mikan]

(08-05-2016 09:13 PM)Sewage2016 Wrote:  

^ Sage advice from the guys above. I work in a Fortune 100 company in management and have seen quite a few hookups amongst married people. Every one, yes every one, ended very badly. Every time the guy regretted it. Some chicks love toying with men. Some love to create drama. And some want to just fuck up other's lives, period.

And no guy I've seen ever got a severance package when they had to leave the company in disgrace.

You never hear about the ones that don't "end badly" because the key to a successful work hook up is that no one ever finds out about it. Kind of like how there are no successful famous smugglers and why the police think all criminals are stupid because they are the only ones who get caught. The world is full of successful intelligent criminals that will probably never even see the inside of a police car. You can successfully hook up at work, people do it all the time, it just isn't worth the risk. Almost this entire forum wisely counsels against it, as do I.

The only times I've known of a man successfully fishing in the company pond is when the woman outranks them and has more to lose. Its high risk, low reward.