Context really matters.
A chick you deal with at work is very different than your girlfriend or a chick you're approaching.
Work is far more political and tilted towards a woman's strengths that it is not wise to practice the full "rollercoaster" with chicks that will make your life hell if you close.
Before guys van really use game effectively, they need to be aware that there are social norms at play. Not being aware of those things is why 100 programmers build the app and some lightweight M.B.A. types make billions.
However, lemme home in on your concern.
As a new player trying to get his feet wet, what I thought was offensive or hurtful wasn't always.
More importantly, what was nice or fun, could be perceived horribly.
With your example, you're not okay with her walking off in a huff. At a bar, you should feel whatever. At work? That might get you sitting in HR.
In terms of an approach that is ice and fire, hell and heaven..The old term was push and pull.
Most new guys
Blah blah blah, so you guys look like you're having the most fun.
Cool great...
Lemme tell you a funny story
Lemme tell you a joke
Fun, fun, fun
^ the above is fine, but most chicks are immune to this. not that they don't laugh, they do. But you're the 5th entertainer that they've had tonight.
What you need is contrast. Not just to set you apart thematically, but it is the contrast that is getting her to react.
In a pickup situation, not a work conversation,
I am totally in love with you
Oh wait, you like mayonnaise on your fries, we're broken up. I hate you.
*back turn*
Or
I hate you.
Wait, you like the Strokes?
We're getting married
____
The prettier a girl is, the more Seth Rogen's she deals with. The more orbiters and ass kissers. No one dares to disagree. She can be quite mean, but no one puts her in her place.
A sweetie pie would obviously need less sharp treatment, she wants to feel the highs and lows. That's why women like to have a good cry. It's cathartic.
Men don't have that desire
WIA
A chick you deal with at work is very different than your girlfriend or a chick you're approaching.
Work is far more political and tilted towards a woman's strengths that it is not wise to practice the full "rollercoaster" with chicks that will make your life hell if you close.
Before guys van really use game effectively, they need to be aware that there are social norms at play. Not being aware of those things is why 100 programmers build the app and some lightweight M.B.A. types make billions.
However, lemme home in on your concern.
As a new player trying to get his feet wet, what I thought was offensive or hurtful wasn't always.
More importantly, what was nice or fun, could be perceived horribly.
With your example, you're not okay with her walking off in a huff. At a bar, you should feel whatever. At work? That might get you sitting in HR.
In terms of an approach that is ice and fire, hell and heaven..The old term was push and pull.
Most new guys
Blah blah blah, so you guys look like you're having the most fun.
Cool great...
Lemme tell you a funny story
Lemme tell you a joke
Fun, fun, fun
^ the above is fine, but most chicks are immune to this. not that they don't laugh, they do. But you're the 5th entertainer that they've had tonight.
What you need is contrast. Not just to set you apart thematically, but it is the contrast that is getting her to react.
In a pickup situation, not a work conversation,
I am totally in love with you
Oh wait, you like mayonnaise on your fries, we're broken up. I hate you.
*back turn*
Or
I hate you.
Wait, you like the Strokes?
We're getting married
____
The prettier a girl is, the more Seth Rogen's she deals with. The more orbiters and ass kissers. No one dares to disagree. She can be quite mean, but no one puts her in her place.
A sweetie pie would obviously need less sharp treatment, she wants to feel the highs and lows. That's why women like to have a good cry. It's cathartic.
Men don't have that desire
WIA