[HankMoody]

I just got blown out running Trump Game.

Chick stormed out of the bar and threw a drink in my face. Everyone was like "holy fuck." The bartender was like "Aren't Trump supporters the ones supposed to be violent and unruly?"

The night is young but I reek of booze. Good thing I didn't wear a suit today.

[Ensam]

(04-18-2016 03:03 PM)XPQ22 Wrote:  

(04-18-2016 02:46 PM)Dantes Wrote:  

Nothing dries up pussy more like politics. It is a topic best avoided if you are looking to get laid.

Or engineering. A lot of "geek" guys think they're going to game "geek" women with their nerd cred. But they don't seem to get that for many women in the sciences (at least many that I've encountered), even the really clever ones, their field usually isn't a "lifestyle" choice like it is for men. It's just their fucking job - even if they're good at it. After work they go home and do yoga and Pilates, watch Netflix and feed their cat like an ordinary girl.

And girls don't like guys who ramble at them about work when they're trying to kick back and have fun. Be prepared to just get accused of "mansplaining."

If you want to talk to a girl about science, tell it to a hairdresser. They're often pretty interested and impressed. Nerd girl will usually be off chasing the hipster butcher shop owner.

You can get girls with engineer/science talk but you gotta play to your audience. I've done it in two ways - the easiest is when someone else validates my value. I was on a date once while I was on a business trip and work called so I picked up. She heard me rattling off commands for them to enter into the control system off the top of my head and diagnosing a fairly complicated problem with no reference material. When she asked me what was going on I explained it to her in plain english - no words or concepts that a second grader wouldn't be able to understand. One of the easiest bangs I've ever gotten. I've also gotten laid after getting awards or other clear recognition of outstanding work by external sources.

The harder way is to weave concepts into your conversation but do it with emotion and passion. Women will get turned on by a guy who's passionate about floor tile. Here it actually helps to really be into what you do - it's hard to fake. Recently I pulled a girl home from a bar after telling her what I did in very vague terms. Didn't even say I was an engineer really, just described the kind of organization I work for. Then when we were sitting on my bed she asked me very earnestly what I did, so I told her in a sincere way. I also told her it's the best job I've ever had and that I feel like I'm doing what I was meant to do. Boom - I could see it in her eyes. She melted and the rest was easy.

[kaotic]

(04-19-2016 05:31 PM)HankMoody Wrote:  

I just got blown out running Trump Game.

Chick stormed out of the bar and threw a drink in my face. Everyone was like "holy fuck." The bartender was like "Aren't Trump supporters the ones supposed to be violent and unruly?"

The night is young but I reek of booze. Good thing I didn't wear a suit today.

Can't wait to hear how the convo went with this classy lady

[Delta]

(04-19-2016 07:06 AM)XPQ22 Wrote:  

(04-18-2016 07:33 PM)Delta Wrote:  

I have to disagree with you though about talking science to your hairdresser. Girls are repulsed beyond belief by guys smarter than them. I still haven't had any success gaming girls that aren't STEM majors with straight A's, because I can't dumb myself down enough for regular girls to not be weirded out by everything I say.

Guess they must be repulsed by so many guys then, eh?

I think it depends not exactly on what you say as to whether they see it as a DHV or "weird smart", but how you say it. If you come at them full bore talking about the Schrodinger equation or something, well yeah it's going to be the latter.

I think one problem is many girls, even liberal college educated ones, have spiritual/quasi-mystical beliefs, and scientific minded men make the mistake of arguing with them, rather than just having "discussions." Maybe laywer OP can argue his way into a girl's pants, but as far as I can recall it's never worked for me.

I never try to get into super academic topics with anyone, let alone the girls I'm gaming. The problem is at a deeper level than that. The language I use, and the level of insight I go into, in discussing the same topics everyone else discusses tend to make all but the smartest girls look confused and bored. The people I hang around with at work are also quick/deep thinkers whose minds are always a few steps ahead, so I'm used to talking a certain way day in and day out. I believe you said you're an engineer, so surely you can relate to this.

When I see that a girl has some finance or hard science job with an Ivy League degree, I actually breathe a sigh of relief that I can just be myself with her and she'll probably appreciate it. These are the dates I look forward to. When I see that a girl is some typical female profession like a nurse or a teacher, I think "Fuck, this is going to be exhausting," because I know I'll have to play a character to relate to her. Lower intelligence occupations like hairdressers I don't even bother with, because I feel like the gap would be insurmountable.

Oddly enough, I don't have this problem to nearly the same degree with other men. Most of my hometown friends have nothing in the way of academic or professional achievements, and it still feels like we "get" each other. I can't relate to complete fucking morons, but your average guy I get along fine with.

[AneroidOcean]

(04-18-2016 03:22 PM)kaotic Wrote:  

<SNIP>
Sometimes I'll show up to the bar in work clothes and regulars ask me if I'm going somewhere or have a special event, I shrug and say I just got off work, and leave it at that.

People get intrigued because you never know what you'll get with me.
<SNIP>

I'm the same way. You might run into me with sunscreen/zinc/sand all over my face/facial hair, plain long-sleeve t-shirt, trunks, sandals, covered up in sunglasses and a hat (or hat hair if I take it off) OR some plain black sneakers, dirty jeans, and a recently dirt stained shirt OR a tuxedo shirt with french cuffs, bow-tie, vest, slacks/dress shoes and facial hair freshly groomed and hair done just right.

Usually I get the "were you in a wedding/special occasion?"

Or I get the "wow, you look so...different" and if it's a girl she'll have a little doe-eyedness going on.

I have millionaires and higher as clients at work, but I also sometimes hang out with people that some would consider homeless.

Knowing how to function well between two extremes can be a very useful skillset and can completely shock/awe girls.

[XPQ22]

(04-19-2016 03:24 PM)HankMoody Wrote:  

It's sort of a push-pull thing. I start out by being a dick, and then I gradually become more interesting and communicative.

Phone conversation with online dating girl this afternoon:

"So what did you think of my profile?"

"Frankly, it was a bit incoherent in places, and definitely way, way too long."

"Grrrrr....You know a bunch of people have told me I should help write profiles as a side gig."

"Heh, for the moment I'd definitely keep your day job."

Then she asked me if I liked to smoke weed, and then we made the date for Thursday night.

(04-19-2016 08:11 PM)Delta Wrote:  

When I see that a girl is some typical female profession like a nurse or a teacher, I think "Fuck, this is going to be exhausting," because I know I'll have to play a character to relate to her. Lower intelligence occupations like hairdressers I don't even bother with, because I feel like the gap would be insurmountable.

Why you worry what hairdresser lady thinks about quantum cosmology? I definitely fall into the same trap sometimes, worrying about what role I'm going to play to "appeal to the demographic." Maybe that's a good strategy if you're just looking to hit it and quit it, but if you want a regular thing "playing the character" is going to wear you to pieces. You're right, it's exhausting. So why bother? I definitely don't pretend to love metal to get laid with tattooed rocker chicks, or to love craft beers to get laid with hipsters, or to be really into the "poly" lifestyle to get laid with "poly" girls. Many definitely don't give a shit if you seem like you're a charming yet genuine "something else."

I hooked up with a nurse a while back. One of my current FB's is a humanities professor at a major university. The nurse was hot, the professor is average but really puts in solid effort to make up for it in the "domestic area." I talked to them about science plenty soon after we first met, on the first date. Both first date lays, no problem at all.

It's definitely impossible to please all of the people all of the time. It's okay if you turn some people off - it often means you must be doing some things right...for yourself. If she doesn't like it gtfo. I thought that was what "abundance mentality" was supposed to be about.