Quote: (07-11-2018 02:03 PM)gringoed Wrote:
@EndsExpect:
I dont think we disagree with each other. Emotional investment is related to scarcity mentality. If you're emotionally invested, you're letting your emotions guide you. Emotions are irrational. The strongest emotion is fear, which will certainly trump your rational thoughts of knowing that you have options outside of her.
@Feld
I understand everything you're saying. And you're right. When that happens it's sad for the soyboy.
What I'm trying to point out is that polyamory is a wide umbrella, and that those cases are not the typical ones. You are thinking that polyamory is just about average women getting more sexual options while her beta husband provides for her. In my experience, those cases are extremely rare. Perhaps the people on this forum have a skewed view since the exposure you get if you're not poly is the chance to fuck married poly women. Maybe that's your only exposure. How would you be exposed to a poly relationship where the man is out fucking other women with permission, while his wife is taking care of the kids? How would you be exposed to a poly relationship where a man is living with multiple girlfriends?
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nD1fcskY9sw
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FvYc5XO5KPs
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=U2ieQgHBJpQ
In my experience, polyamory is generally just as much about a man's needs, if not more. In those videos above, do you still feel the man in the situation is pathetic? I don't, I see them as being true masters of game and emotional intelligence.
If this thread is supposed to be about ranting about the downfall of western civilization and how we're all victims to it, then go ahead and keep venting. This thread could also be an opportunity to open your mind a little to options that provide a man with getting all his needs met while being in alignment with his higher values.
Sure, the cuckstream media can highlight cases where a guy ends up getting a piece of side pussy as a result of that sidepiece being into his girlfriend, but don't be blinded by this. In the overwhelming number of cases the guy is going to be the one losing out, in terms of having - or rather, not having - the optionality to utilize this arrangement to his advantage. Sure, he's theoretically "free" to fuck as many women as he wants, but only if he's in the top 5% of guys in terms of looks, money and social status. Let's not forget: The number one reason why the overwhelming number of men enter into LTRs is to secure a steady supply of sex that they otherwise would have only very sporadic access to.