[asdfk]

Having sex is awesome. I'm a huge fan.

However, I'm also a fan of doing fulfilling things with my life.

I'm in my twenties and I've come to realise that when I cross my horniness threshold, I start making bad decisions.

For example:
- fucking girls I don't like as human beings - which makes me feel used (I know, I know)
- ignoring the bad points just because I want to fuck, no matter how the woman who's attached to it looks or behaves.
- putting an incredible amount of time and attention in pursuing girls and becoming better at it

To be honest: it's just a direct result of a high sex drive which I haven't mastered. It controls me, instead of the other way around.

The results are pathetic. I have to find a way to able to channel this energy into building an awesome life.

Which I have done a lot of times in the past. But after 2-3 months of hard working and doing great stuff - I get too horny. And then it's of you go, to the nightclubs or on Tinder, raw dogging everything that's in sight.

This cycle has to stop. Anyone who had the same problem who found a solution?

Bear in mind that willpower alone doesn't cut it. I'm thinking of finding a great tantra teacher. All experiences and advice by people who have had the same problem and solved it is very much appreciated.

[Phoenix]

Having a high one myself, it's true that being preoccupied with sex, and desiring it above all else, distracts from self-improvement. In feast, banging yourself to exhausting. In famine, being pissed or down or obsessed with getting the next lay etc.

Meditation can help. It helps bring your mind back to calm. Like with other emotions, just accept that it is there, and manage it. Also, like the monks do, remove any and all forms of feminine stimulation. Do your work somewhere where there isn't a woman in sight or earshot. When working on your computer, be careful not to stray onto any websites that might have pictures of women.

[Filbert]

I guess one of the key solutions is to look at your diet.
Exclude meat and fish, which are major stimulants, they agitate the lower vital.
Also, exclude alcohol, tobacco, coffee, and tea.
If you are too addicted to these, try reducing them gradually.

It also helps to understand that the sperm is very valuable.
A quote from a text on the value of continence:
"`You eject the substance of the synovial fluid. You send forth, to gratify a moment's passion, the very material of which the brain is made. This is a fact which you will acknowledge when you consider that all this semen is the material of which all these substances are made and supplied, and when the semen is ejected you have selected the best part of the body to go out and become to you a useless inert mass, which can never be restored to you under any circumstances. It is lost and gone. Then, the semen being out of the body, the sexual penalty comes apace. The penalty for this loss of semen is so far reaching and so concealed from the body of people of the present day that we do not know the exact spot to look for it. But we tell you, when you see paralysis, palsy, apoplexy, rheumatism, brain softening, bent shoulders and haggard face; when you observe a young old man and the dried up young lady, in all of these cases, and in dozens of others, you may set it down that there have been sexual losses and a waste of the bodily substance from the sexual orgasm."

As mentioned above, try meditation, it helps to sublimate sexual energy from lower centers to the brain.
Understand that the sexual urge is momentary.
If you don't respond to it and just observe it, it goes away.

And you will be happier, if you preserve this energy.
Happines is in preserving energy, not in spending it.
The emptiness that pervades the western mind is the result of spending this valuable energy.

Google and read this stuff: Physiological value of continence

If you slip, don't get down on yourself.
Compare it to a gatherer of cherries. If you drop couple of cherries, don't regret it.
Just continue.

Also, try to avoid the company of sexually active people.
If you lie down with dogs, you'll get the flees,
i.e. you can get infected with their sexual vibes, just by talking with them or being in their presence.

This is quite a controversial advice mostly from a SEA point of view, which is focused more on the importance of preserving vital energy, be it for martial arts, developing creativity or for occult capabilities.

If you want to learn to meditate, try to find a meditation group in your area with a realized master, who can be even disembodied already.
A real master does not die, he just leaves the earth plane.
Such a group can instruct you. Meditation is actually the only means to transform your lower energy.
One of the easier meditation methods is japa. Look it up.

[Sonoma]

You're obviously not that horny if you can't rationalize all the ugly beasts you slay.

I've found the solution is to just bang until you're bored or your dick falls off due to HPV/Herps/other infection

[Prof. Ligate]

Read Napoleon Hill's "Think and Grow Rich". Costs like $1 on Kindle.

The best chapter in the book is dedicated to your question: sexual transmutation to succeed in business/ finance.

Here's a super dumbed-down version for you: https://boldanddetermined.com/how-to-har...al-energy/

[Prof. Ligate]

(03-15-2016 07:00 AM)Filbert Wrote:  

I guess one of the key solutions is to look at your diet.
Exclude meat and fish, which are major stimulants, they agitate the lower vital.
Also, exclude alcohol, tobacco, coffee, and tea.
If you are too addicted to these, try reducing them gradually.

It also helps to understand that the sperm is very valuable.
A quote from a text on the value of continence:
"`You eject the substance of the synovial fluid. You send forth, to gratify a moment's passion, the very material of which the brain is made. This is a fact which you will acknowledge when you consider that all this semen is the material of which all these substances are made and supplied, and when the semen is ejected you have selected the best part of the body to go out and become to you a useless inert mass, which can never be restored to you under any circumstances. It is lost and gone. Then, the semen being out of the body, the sexual penalty comes apace. The penalty for this loss of semen is so far reaching and so concealed from the body of people of the present day that we do not know the exact spot to look for it. But we tell you, when you see paralysis, palsy, apoplexy, rheumatism, brain softening, bent shoulders and haggard face; when you observe a young old man and the dried up young lady, in all of these cases, and in dozens of others, you may set it down that there have been sexual losses and a waste of the bodily substance from the sexual orgasm."

As mentioned above, try meditation, it helps to sublimate sexual energy from lower centers to the brain.
Understand that the sexual urge is momentary.
If you don't respond to it and just observe it, it goes away.

And you will be happier, if you preserve this energy.
Happines is in preserving energy, not in spending it.
The emptiness that pervades the western mind is the result of spending this valuable energy.

Google and read this stuff: Physiological value of continence

If you slip, don't get down on yourself.
Compare it to a gatherer of cherries. If you drop couple of cherries, don't regret it.
Just continue.

Also, try to avoid the company of sexually active people.
If you lie down with dogs, you'll get the flees,
i.e. you can get infected with their sexual vibes, just by talking with them or being in their presence.

This is quite a controversial advice mostly from a SEA point of view, which is focused more on the importance of preserving vital energy, be it for martial arts, developing creativity or for occult capabilities.

If you want to learn to meditate, try to find a meditation group in your area with a realized master, who can be even disembodied already.
A real master does not die, he just leaves the earth plane.
Such a group can instruct you. Meditation is actually the only means to transform your lower energy.
One of the easier meditation methods is japa. Look it up.

Strong troll post.

Don't hang out with sexually active people and stop eating meat? Why are you on this forum mate?

[Constitution45]

I know this is related to nofap. But if people could post links similar to the one posted above related to Napoleon Hill, then that would be great. In my personal life, I just get a rawness and more energy after avoiding masturbation. Also it's important to take in mind that the vast majority of men are controlled by their sexual urges. Aside from the food and ego flattery this probably ranks at the top. Use that ego motivation to push you I suppose.

Problem with chasing pussy all the time, is that it results in a man behaving a lot like a dog chasing it's own tail. I am in my mid 20s now and feel the same way as the op. Once you have been with very attractive women in your life and you have dealt with them. You start to realise that the sex is never worth being the master of you.

[Stimulus]

(03-14-2016 09:52 PM)asdfk Wrote:  

...thinking of finding a great tantra teacher.

Can't help myself from thinking about American Pie..

[Filbert]

(03-15-2016 09:38 AM)Prof. Ligate Wrote:  

(03-15-2016 07:00 AM)Filbert Wrote:  

Strong troll post.

Don't hang out with sexually active people and stop eating meat? Why are you on this forum mate?

As I said, it's not my personal opinion. It's what I've read.

[TigerMandingo]

Just out of curiosity, why can't you jerk off?

[jamaicabound]

A high sex drive isn't a problem self control and not controlling your own situation is however. I can relate to what you said, in my teens and even 20's any shot at getting some ass I'd drop whatever I was doing and go after it. Half the time things don't even pan out and I passed up some other activity to try to get some ass. I'ts more about not giving a shit, get ass on your downtime and don't put off other more fulfilling or important things to get some ass that you could always get later anyway.

[TooFineAPoint]

Get into a LTR with a sexy girl, fuck at least once a day. Fulfills your drive but removes the time wasted in the chase. Roll that extra time into your projects, and if she is sharp enough see how you can involve her or get her to help out (could be organizing, networking, various social or emotional things that women are intuitively good at).

[Chevalier De Seingalt]

(03-14-2016 09:52 PM)asdfk Wrote:  

Having sex is awesome. I'm a huge fan.

However, I'm also a fan of doing fulfilling things with my life.

I'm in my twenties and I've come to realise that when I cross my horniness threshold, I start making bad decisions.

For example:
- fucking girls I don't like as human beings - which makes me feel used (I know, I know)
- ignoring the bad points just because I want to fuck, no matter how the woman who's attached to it looks or behaves.
- putting an incredible amount of time and attention in pursuing girls and becoming better at it

To be honest: it's just a direct result of a high sex drive which I haven't mastered. It controls me, instead of the other way around.

The results are pathetic. I have to find a way to able to channel this energy into building an awesome life.

Which I have done a lot of times in the past. But after 2-3 months of hard working and doing great stuff - I get too horny. And then it's of you go, to the nightclubs or on Tinder, raw dogging everything that's in sight.

This cycle has to stop. Anyone who had the same problem who found a solution?

Bear in mind that willpower alone doesn't cut it. I'm thinking of finding a great tantra teacher. All experiences and advice by people who have had the same problem and solved it is very much appreciated.

Don't live in NYC, especially when the weather gets warm. I can't go to my closest coffee shop without seeing 2-3 attractive girls which then gets the sex drive up. It's incredibly distracting.

After a week in a place where I'm not seeing hot girls all over the place, I've noticed that my sex drive goes down significantly.

[RatInTheWoods]

The hairy lasso has been the undoing of man since time immemorial.

Try wanking or getting into a LTR son.