I'm using this thread to keep a track record of my approaches and status with other parts of my life providing they change. I'm a hardcase newbie, and I've finally starting approaching more girls and making myself talk to everyone to bypass my social anxiety. I'm working towards becoming more social to anyone, so I can build connections. I need to watch for opportunities when they show up.
Age: 21
Weight: 120 lbs.
Height: 5' 7''
Notch Count: 0
Body Type: Scrawny Pencil
Occupations: Front Desk Assistant, Math Volunteer, Math Tutor
Hobbies (on hold. college and work eat up most of my time): Guitar, drawing, singing, reading
Gym: I've signed up for a membership and I'm going three days a week. Monday is chest, Wednesday is back, and Friday is legs.
I haven't kept track of all the approaches I'm made so far, but I'll write down the ones I do remember.
[D] = Day Approach
[N] = Night Approach
Approaches:
Breakdown: I've done most of my day approaches at my community college. I'm usually at work or class all day, so I make it a habit to meet people between breaks. I usually run indirect approach on an area where most students sit down at tables. It's a small college, so there aren't tons and tons of cute girls around which makes logistics trickier than a university. My next option would be to approach girls in the hallway, but it's a rough bet of whether they'll be rushing to class soon which makes it hard to build attraction in that amount of time. I'm thinking I might start including going to local bars at night, but my town is mostly older folk while most of the younger ladies are in the city next to me.
Before I go after phone numbers, I want to work on my game first and foremost. My goal is to get to the point where a girl will be attracted enough to ask for my phone number, and be able to maintain interesting conversation for 15+ minutes.
I also met a cool guy from one of my classes who's willing to take me out to a few bars up in Boulder to meet and hit on girls.
1. [D]: Tall brunette sitting at a table by herself. Average face but great looking legs. She has earbuds in, so I ask her if she minds if I bug her for awhile. There are a lot of students who study for exams or work on last minute assignments, so I figure it's in my best interest to make sure I'm not keeping anyone from working on import classwork. I get the conversation going. I notice she has sunglasses, so I ask to check them out and wear them. They were blue-tinted which I thought was pretty cool. We go back and forth for awhile between asking each other questions. She says she smokes weed and I tell her I don't talk to hippies and I pick up and my turn my chair away from her. She giggles. I ask about her parents and she says they're not close. She doesn't go too much into it, but mentions she leans towards agnostic while they're either Christian or Catholic. I know a few veterans from the college, so they come over and ask me some math questions. She sticks around for a bit, then says she has to go to class and leaves.
2. [D]: I'm taking an Intro to Java class. There's only one cute girl in the class, she was either asian or latina, so I ever so subtly sit next to her. I chicken out from talking to her much in the first few classes, but I manage to talk to her once. I can hear the nervousness in my voice and trail of weakly by the end of it. She apparently dropped the class when I went next time. I realize I missed a prime opportunity to suggest studying after school, but it didn't cross my mind when I was bumbling through the conversation.
3. [D]: Cute blonde who talks like she's injected marijuana directly into her cerebellum and never escaped the high. Bullshit for awhile and she talks about how much she likes dirt. Tell her there's a Red Hot Chili Peppers song perfect for her. She asks for my name at the end of the conversation. She leaves soon after.
4. [D]: I decide to attempt direct game. I hesitated initially and it lead my heart rate to spike tremendously. I walk up to a cute Indian looking girl and tell her I think she's cute and to have a good night (the sun was almost down, but I still consider this day game.). I lasted about a millisecond before straight up walking away. Another guy was watching me do it. He gives me a thumbs up, waits for me for a bit, then gives me a high five saying that was pretty awesome.
5. [D]: I'm on a stairway at my local library talking on my phone, and I see a pretty black girl. I pause my phone conversation and stop her as she's walking down and tell her I think she's cute. She gives me a "this is kind of weird what are you doing" look and keeps walking. I start to say I know it's a weird place to do it as my voice trails off. Not the best time to make a move, but I figured I'd give it a shot just in case she showed interest.
6. [D]: I'm walking past the bus stop and notice a cute girl reading a book. I'm passing her, but then I make a conscious decision to back and talk to her. Ask her what book she's reading, and she seems receptive to starting a conversation. I notice she moves to where I'm at and is imitating some of my body language. She keeps taking the conversation towards racism and black people. Shows me a video of a fat black woman being pushed around at a Trump rally and says they're all racist but admits she was probably egging on the crowd. Starts talking about a Neo-Nazi wife and husband where the husband is sterile. They go to a sperm bank and inject the white magic into her womb, but the baby comes out half-black. The husband divorces her because he doesn't want a monkey for a child. I thought about, and I'm pretty sure the wife fucked a black dude and then pushed for the sperm bank option. From what I've seen, sperm banks are thorough about which sperm goes into whom and the physical characteristics of the donor. Most likely, the whole story is bullshit. She then went on to complain about not liking rap music about big booties despite going clubbing before, being taken advantage of by two black dudes (or as she calls them "african americans") in a club, and mentions nigger at least once during the conversation. I was getting the distinct feeling she likes large black objects inside her. She also talked shit about asian women being treated as sex objects. Deciding I had enough crazy red flags, I excused myself saying I had to get lunch. Looking back, she said she had an hour until the bus arrived. I think it might've been possible to escalate, but I have not navigated crazy girls before.
7. [D]: Back at college an hour before noon. Sit down next to a moderately attractive asian milf. Conversation is dead in the water as soon as I try engage. She ain't having it and says she has to go to class soon. Her friend comes by (even hotter), looks at me then gives her a funny look, and they both leave. I can only laugh at myself and shake my head. I bombed but it wasn't as I bad as I thought it would be.
8. [D]: I talk to another cute indian-ish looking girl with an okay nose ring. I ask if she's too busy to talk, she says she can't but recognizes me from the Math help center. Shakes my hand and introduces herself. We talk for a bit, and I make a bad joke that makes zero fucking sense. I don't want to say it. It was a case of trying too hard to come up with a joke, and it did not land. Talk a bit more, then I slam the eject button and start talking with a guy sitting by himself one table over. He's a cool dude. Really into engineering. He said he's usually shy, but had an easy time talking to me. My ego boosts back up. I think talking to other people after a rejection helps me rebound faster.
Age: 21
Weight: 120 lbs.
Height: 5' 7''
Notch Count: 0
Body Type: Scrawny Pencil
Occupations: Front Desk Assistant, Math Volunteer, Math Tutor
Hobbies (on hold. college and work eat up most of my time): Guitar, drawing, singing, reading
Gym: I've signed up for a membership and I'm going three days a week. Monday is chest, Wednesday is back, and Friday is legs.
I haven't kept track of all the approaches I'm made so far, but I'll write down the ones I do remember.
[D] = Day Approach
[N] = Night Approach
Approaches:
Breakdown: I've done most of my day approaches at my community college. I'm usually at work or class all day, so I make it a habit to meet people between breaks. I usually run indirect approach on an area where most students sit down at tables. It's a small college, so there aren't tons and tons of cute girls around which makes logistics trickier than a university. My next option would be to approach girls in the hallway, but it's a rough bet of whether they'll be rushing to class soon which makes it hard to build attraction in that amount of time. I'm thinking I might start including going to local bars at night, but my town is mostly older folk while most of the younger ladies are in the city next to me.
Before I go after phone numbers, I want to work on my game first and foremost. My goal is to get to the point where a girl will be attracted enough to ask for my phone number, and be able to maintain interesting conversation for 15+ minutes.
I also met a cool guy from one of my classes who's willing to take me out to a few bars up in Boulder to meet and hit on girls.
1. [D]: Tall brunette sitting at a table by herself. Average face but great looking legs. She has earbuds in, so I ask her if she minds if I bug her for awhile. There are a lot of students who study for exams or work on last minute assignments, so I figure it's in my best interest to make sure I'm not keeping anyone from working on import classwork. I get the conversation going. I notice she has sunglasses, so I ask to check them out and wear them. They were blue-tinted which I thought was pretty cool. We go back and forth for awhile between asking each other questions. She says she smokes weed and I tell her I don't talk to hippies and I pick up and my turn my chair away from her. She giggles. I ask about her parents and she says they're not close. She doesn't go too much into it, but mentions she leans towards agnostic while they're either Christian or Catholic. I know a few veterans from the college, so they come over and ask me some math questions. She sticks around for a bit, then says she has to go to class and leaves.
2. [D]: I'm taking an Intro to Java class. There's only one cute girl in the class, she was either asian or latina, so I ever so subtly sit next to her. I chicken out from talking to her much in the first few classes, but I manage to talk to her once. I can hear the nervousness in my voice and trail of weakly by the end of it. She apparently dropped the class when I went next time. I realize I missed a prime opportunity to suggest studying after school, but it didn't cross my mind when I was bumbling through the conversation.
3. [D]: Cute blonde who talks like she's injected marijuana directly into her cerebellum and never escaped the high. Bullshit for awhile and she talks about how much she likes dirt. Tell her there's a Red Hot Chili Peppers song perfect for her. She asks for my name at the end of the conversation. She leaves soon after.
4. [D]: I decide to attempt direct game. I hesitated initially and it lead my heart rate to spike tremendously. I walk up to a cute Indian looking girl and tell her I think she's cute and to have a good night (the sun was almost down, but I still consider this day game.). I lasted about a millisecond before straight up walking away. Another guy was watching me do it. He gives me a thumbs up, waits for me for a bit, then gives me a high five saying that was pretty awesome.
5. [D]: I'm on a stairway at my local library talking on my phone, and I see a pretty black girl. I pause my phone conversation and stop her as she's walking down and tell her I think she's cute. She gives me a "this is kind of weird what are you doing" look and keeps walking. I start to say I know it's a weird place to do it as my voice trails off. Not the best time to make a move, but I figured I'd give it a shot just in case she showed interest.
6. [D]: I'm walking past the bus stop and notice a cute girl reading a book. I'm passing her, but then I make a conscious decision to back and talk to her. Ask her what book she's reading, and she seems receptive to starting a conversation. I notice she moves to where I'm at and is imitating some of my body language. She keeps taking the conversation towards racism and black people. Shows me a video of a fat black woman being pushed around at a Trump rally and says they're all racist but admits she was probably egging on the crowd. Starts talking about a Neo-Nazi wife and husband where the husband is sterile. They go to a sperm bank and inject the white magic into her womb, but the baby comes out half-black. The husband divorces her because he doesn't want a monkey for a child. I thought about, and I'm pretty sure the wife fucked a black dude and then pushed for the sperm bank option. From what I've seen, sperm banks are thorough about which sperm goes into whom and the physical characteristics of the donor. Most likely, the whole story is bullshit. She then went on to complain about not liking rap music about big booties despite going clubbing before, being taken advantage of by two black dudes (or as she calls them "african americans") in a club, and mentions nigger at least once during the conversation. I was getting the distinct feeling she likes large black objects inside her. She also talked shit about asian women being treated as sex objects. Deciding I had enough crazy red flags, I excused myself saying I had to get lunch. Looking back, she said she had an hour until the bus arrived. I think it might've been possible to escalate, but I have not navigated crazy girls before.
7. [D]: Back at college an hour before noon. Sit down next to a moderately attractive asian milf. Conversation is dead in the water as soon as I try engage. She ain't having it and says she has to go to class soon. Her friend comes by (even hotter), looks at me then gives her a funny look, and they both leave. I can only laugh at myself and shake my head. I bombed but it wasn't as I bad as I thought it would be.
8. [D]: I talk to another cute indian-ish looking girl with an okay nose ring. I ask if she's too busy to talk, she says she can't but recognizes me from the Math help center. Shakes my hand and introduces herself. We talk for a bit, and I make a bad joke that makes zero fucking sense. I don't want to say it. It was a case of trying too hard to come up with a joke, and it did not land. Talk a bit more, then I slam the eject button and start talking with a guy sitting by himself one table over. He's a cool dude. Really into engineering. He said he's usually shy, but had an easy time talking to me. My ego boosts back up. I think talking to other people after a rejection helps me rebound faster.
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