Quote: (02-15-2016 07:09 AM)Phoenix Wrote:
Quote: (02-15-2016 05:48 AM)whateverfuckit Wrote:
Let's act like MEN and stop the holier than thou crap.
You keep expressing this sentiment, but I don't think you've thought it through. Men are the leaders of morals, not women. And pressing a moral argument serves a purpose, it isn't just moral high horsemanship. It's just a fact that abortion constitutes killing a human life. It's also true that no one will punish you. But that doesn't mean it can't affect you. Have you never seen an old lonely man? Out drinking all the time. Knowing that he'll die soon enough and no one will give a shit.
OP is forgetting one great advantage -- the kid will be out of the house by the time he's 40. Everyone else will look like Sanders while their kids are still young adults. I met a guy once who'd gotten a chick pregnant when he was 18, married her, had more. He was like 36 by the time they were leaving home. Then it's done and you can do whatever the hell you want.
I agree with the fact that some people haven't thought it through. It's because some people are smart but not experienced, for example in raising children. Yet they will compare this something they are not experienced in to something else they "may be" experienced in or have some experience in. To me that's akin to taking what may be characterized as a high moral ground just the same. Not to mention, it's opinion that is likely not based on fact due to a primary basis in perception rather than experience. I don't understand how perception is characterized as great whereas experience can be characterized as "subjective." I go back to my issue with credibility. If you have no experience in it, it's cool to have opinions but your opinions against those with experience and hence more credibility, have no value, at least to me.
Suggesting (through experience in some cases/posts) moral actions directly beneficial to another human life (no matter how little by the way) constitutes a moral high ground. However, suggesting banging women until your dick loses its magical powers constitutes something equal or better? I don't buy it.
I also don't buy the "as a man, do whatever you want and makes you feel good" philosophy. What that's saying is "satisfy your dick, fuck everything else," including your obligation to yourself to be a better man. Be clear on the fact that they are not one and the same. Not at all.
To reiterate time and again, don't we need fathers? Good ones. Some of the men on our forum are best suited for this. Yet, a portion of them are the same ones that complain about the state of men being cucks, betas and pussies. I've done it myself and will include myself in this; only difference is that I realized it eventually. Those gentlemen have a chance to make things right practically by becoming good fathers. Otherwise, why complain? It's like watching a horde of invaders rape and pillage your town and you stay back and say "oh that's fucked up," then go back to your bonfire to talk about how the hordes fucked their women and made them angry. And women, we give them shit about not being feminine and motherly and turn right back around and act like we don't want to contribute by being both masculine and fatherly. Do we not have any responsibility as men anymore?
Given all the subjectivity that morality is mis-characterized with, let's move on to being objective instead for a minute lest someone bring moral superiority back up. As far as the comment regarding guys 30+ having an opinion that errs towards responsibility rather than getting their dick wet, I'll say this. Experience, again. Plain and simple. The older guys can be assumed to have more experience. So it can be deduced that you are getting more credible advice from these men that maybe fucked around but then took responsibility later as men. Age correlates with experience. These men are most likely better able to compare the benefits of raising a child to those benefits of the "playboy" lifestyle. OP, if you don't want to take their advice, it's on you. You can't blame them for shaming you, or worse, not take their advice because you felt like you got shamed.
And don't get me started on science versus emotion. Without emotion, we wouldn't be human. Humanity has a foundation built from our ability to be emotional, whether it's anger, joy, concern or sadness. Be my guest if you want to leave all of this and become mowgli instead. Maybe Baloo won't rape you, but maybe he will. It sure as hell won't be because of mercy or compassion if he doesn't. Maybe a silly example but what I'm trying to say is that we are not animals. Science can go only so far in making us masculine yet human men. We don't discard emotion because we're men rather than women.
While it may be beating a dead horse, as far as you being shamed again OP, welcome to being a man. No one here is shaming you. No one's opinion should matter more to you than yours. If someone saying something abrasively makes you feel like they are trying to shame you, remember that it's happening because of your feelings, not because of their words. That's more a life lesson than something for this post. I assume I was one of the people you referred to when you said people are taking the moral high ground for "likes," especially since I wrote the first response. I am sitting here writing this long ass post for you and the forum even though I have other things to do. I truly believe it's a worthwhile use of my time and even if you get a shred of advice from it, I'll be happy. It does not tangibly benefit me in any way because I have all the likes and reps I need.
We talk about how we thought we were right for 95% of history and how feminism has made it so people think the recent 5% is better due to the progressive liberal bullshit. Yet at the same time, we're ready to discard that 95% of history that shows responsibility and masculinity for the purpose of trading that in for a marginal amount of freedom and a few extra bangs. Again, I don't get it.