[BambiNotForLong]

Hey all.

I met a chick on an online game (DayZ if you wish to know the name, what are the odds?) and I think she may like me.

She lives like 2 hours away and as a virgin 20 year old I'm tempted to make the trip. She's a 5.5/6.

I have a friend in that lives in the area so I could make an excuse to see him and then go meet her without looking desperate.

Do you think it's worth it? I also don't know how tall she is and I'm quite short at 5'7. Now I think it would be dumb to ask her height but at the same time I don't want to drive 2 hours and then get a disappointed look from her.

I'm thinking to phrase a message like this "Hey ____ I'm passing through _______ in a weeks time, let's grab drinks."

I'm terrible at text game.

Apologies for this, I realise this is extra newbie stuff.

[kaotic]

(01-19-2016 02:31 PM)BambiNotForLong Wrote:  

Hey all.

I met a chick on an online game (DayZ if you wish to know the name, what are the odds?) and I think she may like me.

She lives like 2 hours away and as a virgin 20 year old I'm tempted to make the trip. She's a 5.5/6.

I have a friend in that lives in the area so I could make an excuse to see him and then go meet her without looking desperate.

Do you think it's worth it? I also don't know how tall she is and I'm quite short at 5'7. Now I think it would be dumb to ask her height but at the same time I don't want to drive 2 hours and then get a disappointed look from her.

I'm thinking to phrase a message like this "Hey ____ I'm passing through _______ in a weeks time, let's grab drinks."

I'm terrible at text game.

Apologies for this, I realise this is extra newbie stuff.

2 hours is a mission dude, especially for a girl that isn't even close to a 7.

First, have you gotten a selfie to confirm who she is (outside of the app) ?

What kind of conversations are you guys having ? Figuring out a meet ? Or are you connecting with her in general ? Have you talked on the phone ? etc

More details are needed.

If you haven't received a pic of her after texting her, during a conversation jokingly drop a line such as "So how do I know you aren't some 6'4 300 man named Bubba?" or something like that.

Have her send you proof first, make sure you aren't getting SIF'ed and she's actually decent looking.

By proof I mean have her send a mirror selfie of herself doing something unique like, middle finger, peace sign with her tongue out, etc.

Once you've confirmed she's okay and not fat, then you can proceed with asking about her week availability.

Frame that, with "great, I'll actually be in your town visiting my mate, so we can hangout a bit"


Notes:

-You're being self defeating about your height
-Who gives a fuck if she's dissapointed, if she is, fuck her, go hangout with your buddy.
-You don't sound like a man with many options, this brings about scarcity mentality.
-Start approaching, start getting other options and resources for pulling girls numbers.
-Usually a sub 7 girl isn't worth a 2 hour drive, let alone 45 minutes.

[262]

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Notice that kaotic did not mention your virginity. Don't be so desperate for notch number one that you do something rash.

Also, try to do something cool with the friend that lives in the area. Make it so that really is the primary reason you're taking a two hour trip, with the girl really being a mere sideshow.

[BambiNotForLong]

Thanks for the responses guys.

I have her Skype and we have chatted in general with some sexual innuendos. She asked me to add her on facebook but I don't have it but I checked her pics out anyway. Can confirm she's not a whale. Also not a gamer nerd, virtually every pic is her in heels. Eastern Europeans ftw. Come to think of it though she's only seen 1 pic of mine which is on Skype and not that clear hmm :/


Haven't talked on the phone but via mic on Skype while playing that game.

Last thing she messaged me on Skype was like 11 at night, she said out of the blue "baby, why are you so cold"

I replied "I have a busy life hun" and then rambled a bit more then nc.

I know I have very little options. Social circle is dead and I hardly approach. I've been working on my inner game via fashion and I've just begun some Muay thai classes and I'm having surgery soon to fix my overbite, so I'm not too defeatist at the moment, 2016 should be a turning point for my life.

[kaotic]

(01-19-2016 04:22 PM)BambiNotForLong Wrote:  

Thanks for the responses guys.

I have her Skype and we have chatted in general with some sexual innuendos. She asked me to add her on facebook but I don't have it but I checked her pics out anyway. Can confirm she's not a whale. Also not a gamer nerd, virtually every pic is her in heels. Eastern Europeans ftw. Come to think of it though she's only seen 1 pic of mine which is on Skype and not that clear hmm :/

Ok good news is, she sounds okay. As far as height, don't worry about that. IF it does come up, and she asks, state it plainly and add, "you aren't one of those girls who are insecure about height are you ?" Then tell her you've dated taller and shorter, or whatever.

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Haven't talked on the phone but via mic on Skype while playing that game.

Last thing she messaged me on Skype was like 11 at night, she said out of the blue "baby, why are you so cold"

I replied "I have a busy life hun" and then rambled a bit more then nc.

I know I have very little options. Social circle is dead and I hardly approach. I've been working on my inner game via fashion and I've just begun some Muay thai classes and I'm having surgery soon to fix my overbite, so I'm not too defeatist at the moment, 2016 should be a turning point for my life.

Sounds like she wants more of your attention which is good, don't give into it and plan on meeting up.

Inner game is more than fashion or muay thai classes. Yes doing both those absolutely helps.

It's a personal mantra you need to embrace, being confident in yourself, having no fear, having a strong mindset, putting the work to get where you want to go.

You can build social circles, Datasheet: Social Circle Game A How To

You CAN STILL approach, The Approach Thread

You have MANY options, you just choose to limit your options.

Once again a self defeating attitude, you can conquer all of this, but it's starts from inside of you and spreads throughout your daily life and future.

It's up to you.

[BambiNotForLong]

That's some great advice about the height. I'll be sure to memorise that.

When you say she wants more of my attention don't give in and plan on meeting up, what do you mean by that?

God damn I love this forum. You guys really see through the bull shit.

I forgot to say, after she sent "why are you so cold?" And to which I replied "I have a busy life hun" she then said "Even in the night?" I was a bit taken back by this and didn't really know what to say so I just agreed and said "Yes, even in the night".

Not sure wtf that means.

My friend also said he's down to hang in like 2 weeks in his city. So I've now got a real excuse. Go smoke some blunts with my boy and then go meet this chick in a bar or whatever, (if she agrees)

[kaotic]

(01-19-2016 05:07 PM)BambiNotForLong Wrote:  

That's some great advice about the height. I'll be sure to memorise that.

When you say she wants more of my attention don't give in and plan on meeting up, what do you mean by that?

She asked why you're so cold aka "Why aren't you texting me all the time"

You cooly said you're busy, which is awesome. Don't constantly text her, put gaps between replies.

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God damn I love this forum. You guys really see through the bull shit.

I forgot to say, after she sent "why are you so cold?" And to which I replied "I have a busy life hun" she then said "Even in the night?" I was a bit taken back by this and didn't really know what to say so I just agreed and said "Yes, even in the night".

Not sure wtf that means.

Exactly you said you're busy, even better is you're busy in the night. Sarcastically you could say, "well yeah I've got to get my 8-9 hours of sleep lol" or some shit like that.

Ignore what she said, she's just looking for your attention. Let her chase you.

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My friend also said he's down to hang in like 2 weeks in his city. So I've now got a real excuse. Go smoke some blunts with my boy and then go meet this chick in a bar or whatever, (if she agrees)

Eh 2 weeks is a very long time in the world of online dating dude.

It would be cool if your boy can chill earlier but if he can't, he can't.

Why don't you have her drive to you or meet somewhere in the middle for the first meet ?

I've gotten a girl to drive over an hour to me to hangout, it is possible.

I just think driving 2 hours to meet a girl - I'd need to be guaranteed a few good fuck sessions in writing.

You're winging on the hopes she'll meet up, which sounds to me a solid connection hasn't been entirely made yet. Like I said it sounds like she's vying for your attention....or she's just an attention whore.

[BambiNotForLong]

Yeah I think my answers were solid by accident haha.

Yeah I rarely text her, last time I initiated convo is when I said happy New Years, she then replied the same and then said "I got out of the bath" as she went nc on a previously boring conversation that she initiated.

I said "congrats" "I'm off out, see ya"

Then she sent a <3

She doesn't live a busy life and I'm flat out broke right now, pay day is at the end of the month. So I have to wait until then unfortunately. I'll message her closer to when we meet.

My logistics are horrible right now. Living with parents atm until my mum goes back to Turkey. And I live pretty far from central London which is bad as it takes like an hour to get there and another hour back to my house.

You're correct about vying for my attention or being an attention whore. So should I wait longer and let her initiate contact? Or just strike now?

She iniates convos really slowly so it could take like 2 months to just have an idea if she wants to meet up or not as you said, a solid convo hasn't been made yet.

[kaotic]

Focus your efforts on closer more local girls.

With this girl specifically, just do maintenance texts to keep her on the radar, hopefully you can string her along until you can finally meet her.

[Irenicus]

I did not read all the details past the first post, but still, I will give my two cents.

I will start with a story of mine.

Not too long ago, I went to a club with my wingman. While we were sitting, and watching for our targets, several girls sat next to us. Quite ugly ones (6/10, some even lower if I can remember). Only one was somewhat bangable (6.5/10) and she gave us some IOIs. Since it was a sausage fest that night (for those who do not know, this is when there are many more guys than girls in a specific spot), I considered approaching her (the 6.5/10 girl), but I gave up. Why? First of all, my wingman did not want to have anything to do with her friends - he has some standards, and I did not want to entertain her fugly friends, because I would waste way too much energy for a girl that is below my standard ( i date 8+ only, no hard feelings girls, if you happen to read this). Basically, it is like going to a war, in which you will lose a lot of men, money and equipment, and gain very little, or nothing.

The point of my story is this - why would you spend resources (time and money), with a girl who you may not like? Keep looking and find a girl that is worth spending your resources.

I will rant a little bit now. SO FUCKING WHAT IF YOU ARE A VIRGIN. FOR FUCKS SAKE!!?!? Go to the gym, do your Muay Thai (or whathever it is called), keep working on you inner and outer Game, and everything will be OK in time.

Good luck.

[Silver_Tube]

I don't think 2 hours is a big deal, then again I'm in the middle of nowhere and am used to driving to get to fun.
4 hours is my "it better be awesome or I'm not going" threshold.

Now that I've read your situation I'd say don't bother, I wouldn't be taking frequent road trips while broke, and I've been there.

[BambiNotForLong]

I'm not broke I just had a few big payments this month. Once pay day hits I'll be good for cash so in like 9 days.

[Silver_Tube]

Having to wait for pay day before you can spend money means you are broke. Save up a buffer for surprise expenses, set that aside, then think about spending money on road trips.

[southern120]

(01-19-2016 04:22 PM)BambiNotForLong Wrote:  

Thanks for the responses guys.

I have her Skype and we have chatted in general with some sexual innuendos. She asked me to add her on facebook but I don't have it but I checked her pics out anyway. Can confirm she's not a whale. Also not a gamer nerd, virtually every pic is her in heels. Eastern Europeans ftw.

Not to be offensive to the girl you may end up marrying, but something about this sounds not right. Be very wary about anything that she could use to blackmail you with. No dick pics and hide your FB friends list if you do add her.

[BambiNotForLong]

Don't have FB and I doubt it. She's been on my Skype for nearly a year now and we've had long convos via microphone. And I never send dick pics, ever.

Btw never ended up messaging her and she hasn't messaged me either. Not sure what to do.

[Deepdiver]

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May even get some milf divorcees looking to be your sugar momma... think out of the box and into the bedroom...

NO Two Hour Gamer Girl SIF Safari needed.