This in not much about no contact, but it involves my ex-fiance and I want to know opinion of somebody else.
Me and my ex broke up this March. It was because she was suspicious on me for acting longer time weird. So she looked to my phone and the rest you can gues..
Few months before, it was Autumn, she got into financial problems. I must say, she never sucked my money, willingly was paying 50/50 and sometimes invested even more. But she got a new job and didn´t earn normal money for months. She had a stable income at insurance company and changed to company, where were different terms and she couldn´t get into it. So she told me, and we started to immediately think, what to do. She could go back to previous company, but her boss offered her some "change" and she decided to try it for some months more and she accepted, because she has this attitude and would feel like giving up. When she finally changed the job, she got girls problems and had to go to surgery.
During these few months, she humiliatedly asked me for money she needed to survive. But at this phase, I was preparing to leave my military job job and was stacking up money for survival. I decided to do so in September and had 5 months to build some base money. I was living almost like a monk. I was sleeping in sleeping bag on the old folding armchair in my office, minimalizing spent money and eating only food on discount. I´ve stacked nice money, but big part went to support her.
It´s important to say, that since beginning she always talked about taking a loan from me, precisely tracked every unit of the money. I was always telling her, that I don´t want the money back, I said "once you don´t have, next time it can be me". And the most importantly, I counted on her as a future mother of my children and wife and I didn´t have need to take money from her.
Even after breakup, she started to talk about giving me my money back. Honestly, I was thinking, that break-up would be just temporary thing.
Now it will be 9 month since breakup. We have been meeting each other, but now it had faded, from her side. When we met, she always acted like perfectly she lives, but as I know her and there were still some emotions between us, she always confessed, that she still struggles with money.
I got proper job since June and until June I spend significant amount of saved money to survive. Now I have stable income, not really bad, but I have struggle to save something. In comparison to what I saved before, it´s nothing and in case of losing or changing job, I would barely survive.
And I started to think about asking for my money. I like her, she have always been good partner and it was me, who caused the end (I had really issues back then and beside compensating my broken ego with other girls, I also wrote bad things about her to my former best friend). And I wouldn´t want to cause her another problems by demanding money from her........ but in case she have new fucker, let him to take care about her.
Me and my ex broke up this March. It was because she was suspicious on me for acting longer time weird. So she looked to my phone and the rest you can gues..
Few months before, it was Autumn, she got into financial problems. I must say, she never sucked my money, willingly was paying 50/50 and sometimes invested even more. But she got a new job and didn´t earn normal money for months. She had a stable income at insurance company and changed to company, where were different terms and she couldn´t get into it. So she told me, and we started to immediately think, what to do. She could go back to previous company, but her boss offered her some "change" and she decided to try it for some months more and she accepted, because she has this attitude and would feel like giving up. When she finally changed the job, she got girls problems and had to go to surgery.
During these few months, she humiliatedly asked me for money she needed to survive. But at this phase, I was preparing to leave my military job job and was stacking up money for survival. I decided to do so in September and had 5 months to build some base money. I was living almost like a monk. I was sleeping in sleeping bag on the old folding armchair in my office, minimalizing spent money and eating only food on discount. I´ve stacked nice money, but big part went to support her.
It´s important to say, that since beginning she always talked about taking a loan from me, precisely tracked every unit of the money. I was always telling her, that I don´t want the money back, I said "once you don´t have, next time it can be me". And the most importantly, I counted on her as a future mother of my children and wife and I didn´t have need to take money from her.
Even after breakup, she started to talk about giving me my money back. Honestly, I was thinking, that break-up would be just temporary thing.
Now it will be 9 month since breakup. We have been meeting each other, but now it had faded, from her side. When we met, she always acted like perfectly she lives, but as I know her and there were still some emotions between us, she always confessed, that she still struggles with money.
I got proper job since June and until June I spend significant amount of saved money to survive. Now I have stable income, not really bad, but I have struggle to save something. In comparison to what I saved before, it´s nothing and in case of losing or changing job, I would barely survive.
And I started to think about asking for my money. I like her, she have always been good partner and it was me, who caused the end (I had really issues back then and beside compensating my broken ego with other girls, I also wrote bad things about her to my former best friend). And I wouldn´t want to cause her another problems by demanding money from her........ but in case she have new fucker, let him to take care about her.
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