[Anabasis to Desta]

@ Anabasis To Desta

Great minds think alike.

I've already cleared &/or blocked all digital evidence of her from my phone.
(numbers, pictures, videos, WhatsApp contact, text history, shit even call history)

Pictures & videos are stored away in a black folder I use for all past flames.

Secretly left my watch (Christmas 2014 present from her) underneath her pillow the day I ended things, when she was leaving for home.

I'll enjoy some satisfaction knowing that come month end, on her return she's gone be in for a rude surprise - & I'll be nowhere in sight.

Have no fear my brother. I'm never turning back.

She's a lifetime member of the No Contact Thread.

[Going strong]

(12-23-2015 03:26 PM)1026 Wrote:  

@ Anabasis To Desta

Great minds think alike.

I've already cleared &/or blocked all digital evidence of her from my phone.
(numbers, pictures, videos, WhatsApp contact, text history, shit even call history)

Pictures & videos are stored away in a black folder I use for all past flames.

Secretly left my watch (Christmas 2014 present from her) underneath her pillow the day I ended things, when she was leaving for home.

I'll enjoy some satisfaction knowing that come month end, on her return she's gone be in for a rude surprise - & I'll be nowhere in sight.

I'd say she's gonna be in for a nice surprise: getting back her watch.

Giving back a costly gift, my friend, is a (somewhat beta) mistake. What is yours is yours:

Your ex-gf will give this watch tomorrow to her next Tinder lover or the swimming-pool cleaner guy, and meanwhile your wrist is watch-less

[OGNorCal707]

(12-22-2015 05:10 PM)CleanSlate Wrote:  

A few months after the divorce was final, she tried to lay a guilt trip on me about her son having a hard time with the divorce (not my biological kid). I basically told her to piss off, she was the one who cheated. That was the only time I responded.

That pissed her off and she fired back with a nasty email. But then a few days later, she sent me another spurt of emails practically begging for a second chance.

If a girl basically shat on you like my ex wife did me, the correct thing to do is harden the fuck up, kick her to the curb, and don't look back. No mercy.

Amen brother!

[roberto]

To add more info.

It wasn't an expensive watch, but it wasn't a rusty bolt either.

It's real value was sentimental, it's monetary value to me was negligible.

It would only serve to be reminder of her. (an constant one at that)

Yes my wrist is watchless.
But my conscience is all the better for it.

[Going strong]

Edit: Like her, it needed to go.

[Lizard King]

(12-22-2015 07:50 PM)XPQ22 Wrote:  

(12-22-2015 07:42 PM)Tigre Wrote:  

This is a textbook situation where you shouldn't break contact. Keep her on the reserve list.

Female feelings come and go. In a week, she might feel something completely different about you.

I considered that, but I'm unsure. If she has a past of poor decision making and possible mental health issues (which I believe now to be the case), as I mentioned in another thread, instead of her texting me "I felt bad" the day after sex, it might be "I feel like you raped me."

And nothing is worth that.

I don't mind a woman who just wants me essentially as a booty call at this point, but it would be great if she were like, relaxed about it. I understand that female feelings come and go but it's hard to deal with this "yes no yes no yes no" shit all the time over the course of just a couple months.

I'm just going to tell her she's a lovely person and fade out.

You're expecting her to think about it the way you would. It won't happen.

I had a similar experience with a fuck-buddy recently. She flaked majorly on a fuck date we had arranged. The flake wasn't a great inconvenience because I was waiting at home and plenty to do there. She texted me about 7 hours after she had meant to arrive and said she had an accident and damaged her foot/ankle!!! Yesterday, about 10 days later, I saw her walking along the street with her boyfriend. I chuckled to myself, and realised why she flaked.She had recovered surprisingly quickly from her foot injury!

A small part of me was like you, and thought "why didn't she just say she was seeing someone and didn't want to get banged out again". I had banged her couple of times in previous few weeks. I think as thinks got more solid with her new boyfriend, she felt less comfortable getting banged by someone else.

She'll be back, I know for certain, but I'm not going to contact her. It's easy to fool ourselves that it might speed things up but in some situations it won't, you just have to wait for when they're sexually available again. I think you should break contact in most situations, especially one like this.

[Going strong]

(12-23-2015 11:45 PM)1026 Wrote:  

To add more info.

It wasn't an expensive watch, but it wasn't a rusty bolt either.

It's real value was sentimental, it's monetary value to me was negligible.

It would only serve to be reminder of her. (an constant one at that)

Yes my wrist is watchless.
But my conscience is all the better for it.

Yes my wrist is watchless.
But my conscience is spotless.
This bitch her watch can repossess:
Over bitch-and-watch I'll no more obsess!

[xxMarco]

Recently broke it off with this girl I was seeing for a few months. She was hot but she had a shitty attitude that caused us to fight everyday. She threw temper tantrums and they became more frequent so I kicked her to the curve.

Now the holidays are here and I'm having second thoughts. Maybe I should've gave her another chance. It's fucking lonely being a player on Christmas. Friends are with their girls, family is kind of doing their own thing and done for the day.

I keep thinking about calling her up and patching it up but at the same time I know I made the right decision. If we do patch it up I guarantee she'll act right for a short period, return to her old ways and possibly get worst.

Doesn't help my 2 other plates are out of town with their families and another girl just dropped off my rotation.

[HankMoody]

It all depends on the situation.

I'm still cool with my ex-wife. I talk to her from time to time, and wish her a happy birthday, Merry Christmas, and all that jazz. We were together for 9 or 10 years, and you sort of build a history with someone. I wish her all the best.

That's how I am with most of my exes. They describe our relationship as fun, exciting, and disappointing. "If you weren't so self centered it could have been great. I'll never forget that weekend we spent in Cabo. I could have loved you. But I know deep down inside all you care about is your business, your writing, and yourself. I was never a priority in your life." Every single fucking relationship, including my ex wife. They hang on for about 8 months, give or take, and then realize that women truly aren't a major priority for me. No matter how good the sex, no matter how caring.

Of course, there's, my BPD ex. The one woman who got under my skin. It was the only relationship where I put someone ahead of myself, and my feelings into her hands. That was the relationship that got me into game, and it's one that nearly broke me. I'd break things off with her, and then she would show up at my house or my office, and I couldn't resist getting the band back together. It was almost like a mental illness. Eventually I had to cut her off completely.

A year after we broke up, she got married. Just this year she got pregnant and lost the child. When I heard news that she lost the child, I almost picked up the phone to express my condolences. But I decided not to. Not because I'm a jerk who doesn't care, but because I want to leave no avenues open to let toxicity back into my life.

[Anabasis to Desta]

I'm surprised this great thread has not had a post since Boxing Day.

Anyways, I'm treating this as a secure hard drive of exiled bitches.

I've got a new entry for the Official RVF No Contact Thread.

On again, off again flame.

Basic Summary goes like this...

Girl on a rebound, re-enters my life (her ex dumped her)

My lay-up tingle is activated.

But alas, I don't get further than sucking face & ass grabbing.

When I was around her side, she side stepped the bait to go to hers.

Now over text, with regards to her coming to me her exact quote is:
"I shall see"

My reply was: Lol".

Welcome to the Official RVF No Contact Thread baby.

[General Stalin]

I flew back home for the holidays and hit up a handful of old bangs and even an old ex who I had recently started chatting with again for the sole reason of possibly re-banging when back in town.

All of them flaked out the week I was in town. Fuck em. Lesson reaffirmed.

Never go back to a bitch.

[InsertNameHere]

Shortly after discovering the RP, one of my first street approaches was an elegant, somewhat mysterious women whom I really hit it off with. Despite everything I'd read about and the mindset shifts I'd had, I decided to pursue a relationship with her - I told myself that coming from a better awareness of women, I'd be in control (I wasn't, and I'd be willing to bet a lot of guys make this same mistake shortly after half-swallowing the RP - maybe I should post the whole story sometime as a cautionary tale).

She lived a bit outside my city, so she'd come visit me on the weekends, we'd spend the whole time banging and going out for a drink before having crazy sex again. She was hyper-feminine, showered me in affection and gifts (the latter of which should have been a possible warning sign), and basically treated me better than any girl I'd been with. I took it hook line and sinker, but a few months later my gut started churning and I could tell something was off. It turned out that she was married to a guy who traveled a lot, and was stepping out on him with me every weekend. Apparently homeboy is a premature ejaculator, so she had a lot of pent-up frustration she needed to work out with me.

It tapered off and died after that (I initially proposed just being the fuck buddy, but you can't really immediately downgrade to that after an actual relationship), but that sucked for a while. In retrospect it was a good lesson, I needed something to wash down the RP and burn the last blue pill traces out of me. Still, I'd rather be in my place than his - I even debated telling him at some point, as far I know he's paying for her studies and she's really taking him for a ride.

I recently moved back to the city I met her in, which I was aware she had intended to move to. Made the mistake of texting her to see if she was in town or not - rationalised it by telling myself it could be an easy fuck before I establish other plates. She was clearly not pleased to hear from me, and essentially told me that she was indeed in town but she has no desire to hear from me. Clearly, as I should have known from the start : recontacting is pointless, and I regretted it immediately. I don't need that kind of drama anyway.

[Anabasis to Desta]

My ex-fiancee texted me again.

Her: Me? I'm scared of everything. I'm scared of what i saw. I'm scared of what i did and who i am but most of all am scared of living this life and never feeling whole. The way I feel when i am with you.

I should have ignored her. But i could not.

Me: Cool story bro.

Her: ??

Her: Making fun of me? Classy. Very classy!

How should i respond for maximum Alpha disrespect?

I still love her but want to hurt her as much as i can.

[Ensam]

(02-04-2016 08:11 PM)Anabasis to Desta Wrote:  

My ex-fiancee texted me again after over a year.

Her: Me? I'm scared of everything. I'm scared of what i saw. I'm scared of what i did and who i am but most of all am scared of living this life and never feeling whole. The way I feel when i am with you.

I should have ignored her. But i could not.

Me: Cool story bro.

Her: ??

Her: Making fun of me? Classy. Very classy!

How should i respond for maximum Alpha?

You're done with her right? No response necessary, just forget about the whole thing.

[Anabasis to Desta]

^I am. Just trying to find out if there is any other way of hurting her.

I'll ignore her though which is why i posted in this thread in the first place.

[realologist]

(02-04-2016 08:11 PM)Anabasis to Desta Wrote:  

My ex-fiancee texted me again.

Her: Me? I'm scared of everything. I'm scared of what i saw. I'm scared of what i did and who i am but most of all am scared of living this life and never feeling whole. The way I feel when i am with you.

I should have ignored her. But i could not.

Me: Cool story bro.

Her: ??

Her: Making fun of me? Classy. Very classy!

How should i respond for maximum Alpha disrespect?

I still love her but want to hurt her as much as i can.

Don't. This is the no contact thread after all. You may think you can handle it and control how much you talk to her and you probably can for a while. That simple text back opens the door for another text back in 6 months, maybe on a holiday or her birthday. We know you still remember it. It was your ex fiancé.

It's like an addiction. Every addict thinks they can control the drug, control how much they take
.. only just take one little hit. That one hit becomes 2 next time, then three, next thing you know its completely out of control and it takes over your life affecting it in another way.

She is your drug, she is your addiction. You love her the way addicts love drugs. They love them even though life is better without it but still miss that one thing that made you love it so much. If you didn't feel this way and still didn't have at least a little love for her you wouldn't care what the most alpha response would be because you wouldn't give a fuck.

I don't blame you. Each girl I've ever loved has a piece of my heart but that doesn't mean my life isn't better without them and that I ever want to talk to them again. It just means I'm in a better place now and plan to keep getting better and if they weren't helping that then they are gone.

So how do you respond? What do you say?

NOT A DAMN THING!

[General Stalin]

(02-04-2016 08:11 PM)Anabasis to Desta Wrote:  

My ex-fiancee texted me again.

Her: Me? I'm scared of everything. I'm scared of what i saw. I'm scared of what i did and who i am but most of all am scared of living this life and never feeling whole. The way I feel when i am with you.

I should have ignored her. But i could not.

Me: Cool story bro.

Her: ??

Her: Making fun of me? Classy. Very classy!

How should i respond for maximum Alpha disrespect?

I still love her but want to hurt her as much as i can.

Nyet!

Get some beers with Rockhard and I instead forget that broad. Do NOT text her back.

Team Ghost.

[DMario]

I was once dumped while I was in Afghanistan. Gave her a few choice words, then left it alone.

[spygoat]

No-contact is hard. Especially if you had feelings for the chick. I been out of LTR for six months, had no-contact for a long time. Every now and then we all reminisce about this or that....but then you go and have a good week and take down 5 new girls in 7 days. I had a good week. No-contact forever baby haha.

[TornadoByProxy]

Every time you want to contact her, just hit the gym instead. I know, easier said than done, but you will replace the bad habit with a good one.

[Sam Malone]

Because of the kids, I've got an ex I have to deal with. So for her, no contact at all isn't an option, although I do regulate the conversations to kid-related issues.

Every now and again, the ex goes off on some tangent about this or that, about why she can't take the kids on her night. I really don't care why, but for some reason she feels the need to inform me.

I usually just ignore after confirming the important details. But "Cool Story Bro" ?



Great response. I'm keeping that one in my arsenal.

[Ensam]

(02-05-2016 06:26 PM)TornadoByProxy Wrote:  

Every time you want to contact her, just hit the gym instead. I know, easier said than done, but you will replace the bad habit with a good one.

Solid advice. I still occasionally have a strong urge to call up my ex and yell at her but I channel that rage and go to the gym instead. Ran into her a few days ago while I was out on the town and I got another chicks number in front of her. She put herself between me and the door so I just gave her a, 'hey.' and walked by before she could open her mouth.

[vinman]

I got out of a LTR in May. What worked for me when I wanted to make contact was either working out, or listening to The Black Philip Show. Patrice asked a question, "what is it that you miss about her"? The answer is usually nothing.

[Anabasis to Desta]

It's my ex's birthday on the 18th.
I thought of weakness crossed my mind.
Irrationalization at it's best.

I about 5 weeks from our split, the depression phase is done. But the thoughts are daily & numerous.

Anyways on better news, come this month end my income is increasing 100%.
The month after that, 100% again on the increased amount.

It's a new day, my turn to shine...
It's a new day, my turn to ball... (The Game)

[Cumulonimbus]

So my 3rd last ex gf got married about a month ago. I know that because I'm still friends with her on FB. I haven't been in touch with her since the breakup 2 years ago. I haven't been in touch with her friend that introduced us for more than 1.5 year. I'm friends with her too on FB. My FB has been dead silent for more than 1.5 years. I got an unexpected email from friend writing me in 2 sentences what was going on with her own life (she got married and also had a baby) and asking what have I been up to.
Now, I've had an other ex reaching out at me before but I've never had exes' friends doing that. I'm puzzled because don't know what to make at this email.
Is she genuinely interested what's going on with me after such a no contact time? Not sure that's the case. Is it her passive aggressive way of rubbing it on my face that she got married and my ex too? Might be the case. What should I make out of if?
Any insight on the matter would be really helpful and greatly appreciated!