Everyone here has my sympathy, I went through all this and unfortunately you should probably prepare yourself for long term fuck-fuck games.
I got divorced in 2008 and because we have kids together it's difficult to totally escape the mind games. About twice a year I get texts from the ex telling me how much she hates me and detailing her numerous affairs. In addition to this about twice a year I get texts from her apologizing and attempting a reconciliation.
I used to wish she would find some other sucker so she would just leave me alone but then I realized it wouldn't matter. Even if she ensnared a male underwear model packing a magical ten inch penis capable of ejaculating $100 dollar bills she would probably just text me to describe the $1000 load she just took to the face. The reality is that until the last kid turns 18 I'm going to have to deal with some degree of game playing from her.
All you can really do is refuse to engage, no matter how sincere she sounds apologizing don't reply...It won't lead anywhere you want to be. No matter what kind of hateful things she says, you got to ignore it. No matter what kind of shit my ex pulls I only engage if it is explicitly about the kids.
It gets better/easier with time.
I got divorced in 2008 and because we have kids together it's difficult to totally escape the mind games. About twice a year I get texts from the ex telling me how much she hates me and detailing her numerous affairs. In addition to this about twice a year I get texts from her apologizing and attempting a reconciliation.
I used to wish she would find some other sucker so she would just leave me alone but then I realized it wouldn't matter. Even if she ensnared a male underwear model packing a magical ten inch penis capable of ejaculating $100 dollar bills she would probably just text me to describe the $1000 load she just took to the face. The reality is that until the last kid turns 18 I'm going to have to deal with some degree of game playing from her.
All you can really do is refuse to engage, no matter how sincere she sounds apologizing don't reply...It won't lead anywhere you want to be. No matter what kind of hateful things she says, you got to ignore it. No matter what kind of shit my ex pulls I only engage if it is explicitly about the kids.
It gets better/easier with time.