Quote: (07-03-2016 02:13 AM)rapaz12 Wrote:
I now see I have a major issue with physical contact and I don't really know how to work on it.
I notice this a lot with American guys (not sure if you are American or not but it seems recurrent). I used to have this to some degree but nowadays I'm very comfortable with it.
You need to be innoculated to it. Work on touching your friends on the arm and shoulder when you talk to them. Give people high fives and fist bumps, or elbow bump them lightly and wink when someone says something funny. Hug your family, tell them you love them, feel the connection, focus on the moment. Sign up for dance lessons and/or BJJ (nothing will get you more innoculated to human touch than having some sweaty guys stomach and crotch pressed against your face while he tries to choke you).
Quote: (07-30-2016 02:29 AM)rapaz12 Wrote:
I need to work on seguing into asking for the number more smoothly for sure because I felt a lot of impatience tonight. Also, should you continue to try if the girl doesn't want to give out her number the first time you ask?
Are you dropping bait for a possible next meeting?
YOU: ...That's cool. Hey do you know if there's any good cafés around here? I'm a coffee addict and my favorite spot just closed down.
GIRL: Hmmm. There's one on X Street.
YOU: Cool, I've never been there. I love these tiny little places, they make the best espressos. How do you drinks yours?
GIRL: I like mine with a lot of cream and sugar.
YOU: Haha, I see I'll have to teach you to appreciate it. This line is moving pretty quick right? So, what do you... [insert other subject]
Then, when the conversation is about to die out, you ask her for her number inviting her to check out the coffee place with you.
As to insisting, it depends on her reaction and justification for not giving the number it at first.
Maybe she's just not comfortable with you yet - it happens a lot in Brazil, girls are always a bit suspicious because of high crime rates and scams. In that case yes, insist. Tease her about it (*serious face* "Why not? My grandma always says I'm a great catch *grins*) but keep building comfort and rapport. Just like you would if you tried to kiss a girl and got rejected: ignore the rejection, keep building up and teasing, and try again soon.
If the girl is just not into you and there's no connection, don't insist. No point in put an effort into something that has no potential, specially because according to the situation it could be considered harassment.