[MMM]

I have a plate who sometimes rubs her clit in the middle of getting boned.  Sometimes, she’ll also pull out a vibrator to rub on that same area while I’m poking the poon.  She seems to have a hard time coming and uses these techniques to get her there.  I didn’t mind it at first, as long as whatever she was doing didn’t get in the way of things.  But lately, its becoming a distraction.  She (claims) she had a long dry spell before me and relied on her toys during that period.  I’m wondering if she has a desensitization problem similar to the  “death grip” problem frequent male masturbators have.  My other plates have no problem and come multiple times. 

How stand you esteemed gentlemen on this?  Is this disrespectful?  A sign she’s getting bored?  Is it a sign that the hoo ha has been so heavily trafficked that it doesn’t respond to a normal dicking down?   Is MMM gonna have to next a bitch?         

[Sonoma]

Great if shes a hook up, relatively unacceptable for a girl youre in a relationship with

[Samseau]

As long as she's putting out, why care? I don't think this is a red flag. It definitely shows she's a slut who needs extra stimulation, or she's watched a lot of porn.

Unless you taught her that move, you know she's been around the block.

[Gmac]

Completely normal, don't over-think it.

[el mechanico]

I take my girls vibrator and her hair ties to tie to to my big D in the morning when I have hangover wood.

[AntiTrace]

(07-06-2015 05:21 PM)Sonoma Wrote:  

Great if shes a hook up, relatively unacceptable for a girl youre in a relationship with

why?

Also, on the OPs pondering of desensitization due to frequent masturbation (females): I've started hooking up with a girl that admits to masturbating 3-4 times a day, every day. She claimed that it was really difficult for her to have an orgasm and that her ex boyfriend would take 45minutes to an hour to do it. She has multiple orgasms when I fuck her, and cums in a matter of minutes.

Regardless, I actually make some girls masturbate while I fuck them. It just makes it easier. There is no need to be offended and it doesn't mean the girl is a whore, it just means she likes her clit rubbed during sex.

[texrifle]

Just DJ the clit yourself while smashing so you're the one giving the pleasure

[Beyond Borders]

I encourage this behavior.

[Fader]

Agree with BB.

I like watching a girl masturbate - means she's comfortable getting off in front of you - and they're usually the most open to trying whatever you're down for.

[Seamus]

It's a positive sign, generally speaking.

Most girls have a hard time getting off without clitoral stimulation. Not only is watching a girl play with her clit sexy as hell, it's usually an indicator that she's into passionate and adventurous sex.

I've yet to have a girl whip out a vibrator however. I could see how that might get distracting.

[Sourcecode]

I've never had a girl take a vibrator out.
You aren't hitting it right.

She can use that shit when you aren't around.

[Merenguero]

(07-06-2015 08:27 PM)texrifle Wrote:  

Just DJ the clit yourself while smashing so you're the one giving the pleasure

What is DJ? I think I agree with you and I think I also do that, but I'm not completely sure what you are saying.

[Tokyo Joe]

Quote:

What is DJ? I think I agree with you and I think I also do that, but I'm not completely sure what you are saying.

Merenguero: Just imagine the record is her mons veneris -- Or better yet, look at his left hand, LOL. DJ the clit!

[MMM]

I'm on team vibrator. When she' using that shit while I'm inside her, I can feel it also and it's intense. Having said that, I don't want that to become an everyday thing that we begin to rely on.

[Tailgunner]

One Man DP...
Epic

[amusedmastery]

Keep banging her. Nothing wrong with any of this. Good job.

[hypnotoad]

You're over thinking. Some chicks need tons of clit stim to get off. As long as she can cum and knows her body.. Meh, big deal. I had a girl for a while who could only cum sitting on top and going to town on herself. Was kinda hot actually and less work for me too

[mardan]

As long as I'm responsible for one of those orgasms, I don't care if she has another 25 rubbing herself.
Also works during anal

[Distant Light]

Although vibrators do make women dependent on it if they use it too much...

"orgasm" isn't even the goal of having sex and I feel from a man disliking it is generally an EGO thing rather than "she's desensitizing herself". I don't know about you but I sometimes play with a chicks clit while banging her because it drives them through the roof. Most women have only experienced clitoral orgasms...

To counter her "desensitization" when it comes to her clit TEASE IT ONLY don't give her an orgasm and instead work all her other spots. (Deep, A-Spot, Reverse Deep Spot, G-Spot) She will generally have never experienced such a wide range which makes her more comfortable and "open" to pleasure.

From there either give her a clitoral orgasm 1st OR let her enjoy the other pleasures to be had...

P.S...In the past 2 years I've had a handful of women mention how they've been using there vibrator wayyyy more than usual after having had a sexual experience with me. One chick in particular swore she could only have 1 orgasm a day BUT ended up having 2 and was literally SHOCKED...This occurred when I was banging her doggy style while playing with her clit.

P.S.S...Don't worry too much about giving orgasms, focus more on giving an experience and making chicks comfortable...You will open up a floodgate of "female sexuality".

[Lizard King]

It used to bother me, now I don't care. I agree with Distant Light that it's an ego thing when males have a problem with it.

Have her put a vibrator in her pussy while you anal her.

[Vicious]

Don't see why it's an issue, girls generally have a harder time to cum when having sex. If she wants to cum when having sex with you that's one of the biggest approvals a girl can give of you m

[Checkmat]

David Shade, sex guru, would say this is a big red flag.

According to him, girls that have become dependent on external or clit stimulation to orgasm have mental blocks.

He would say to next her and find a girl who is highly vaginally orgasmic. A girl you can fuck and make cum with your dick/dirty talking/bedroom dominance.

There is a way to fuck a girl missionary and stimulate her clit with your pelvis, if you can imagine that. It's kind of a wave-like motion.

Anyway. I would use the concept of anchoring with her cumming to your voice. My last girlfriend would cum almost instantly when I was fucking her/rubbing her clit when I would tell her to "cum like a good girl."

[ksbms]

(07-12-2015 10:54 PM)Checkmat Wrote:  

David Shade, sex guru, would say this is a big red flag.

According to him, girls that have become dependent on external or clit stimulation to orgasm have mental blocks.

That's complete inanity.

Clitoris is a female homologue of penis. Thus, it's like saying, via reductio ad absurdum, that men that have become dependent on penis stimulation to orgasm have mental blocks. If that's the case, some 90% of the population world over has mental blocks. And what those 'mental blocks' are supposed to be, anyway?

Looks like mr Shade skipped basic high school intro class on sex organs function and physiology. And the claim about linking clitorial stimulation and mental blocks makes him sound worse than dr Freud at his worst. Shows how many of those self-proclaimed 'gurus' are nothing but a pure, uneducated, snake-oil fraudsters to extract money from the gullible.

[Phoenix]

(07-12-2015 10:54 PM)Checkmat Wrote:  

My last girlfriend would cum almost instantly when I was fucking her/rubbing her clit when I would tell her to "cum like a good girl."

When I read this I just assume she was faking it.

[Moto]

Gonna have to resurrect this thread. My current LTR has recently started doing this. Odd, because in the early days she said she doesn't masturbate. Also, it is very rare that she doesn't have multiple quirting or flooding orgasms (I have to take precautions to not destroy my mattress any given time) so it seems overkill and unnecessary for her to do this. To me she seems also to be getting demanding to have mindblowing orgasms every time, like she's getting greedy. I'll not say much more so as to not derail the thread, but I am curious what people's thoughts are in a case like this.