Here’s my story.
I’m 25 and let’s say, I at least think I am very good looking, as do many, many women so I am pretty convinced I am pretty special. I get told often. I’ll start with the gloat to make myself feel better, but this does highlight my problem, I have a huge problem.
I have started being a lot more successful with women, mainly in the 6-8 range. The last 6 girls in my phone are from 5 different countries and all messaged me within the past 24 hours, they visit me (I don't have to go to them). At parties I attend I walk into a room and I am sometimes approached by 2 or even 3 women at once. I really feel I at least walk the walk and talk the talk until a point. I don’t have too many problems with getting laid and can afford to have reasonable standards. Getting women to like me long term is not a problem either (sometimes after initial problems this is a nuisance to me). Boo ya, good for me…etc.
My game is OK, I'm smart and foreign girls are my specialty (because I fucking love foreign girls) and because even if they come from Panama or Georgia (my two most exotic flags) I'll know something about their country they love this.
But it has one often fatal flaw.
And here it is.
I’m a fuck up.
I am flunking Philosophy at University, I am finishing it in a few months but my grades are dire. I don’t have much interest in it. I should have finished uni about 3 years ago but really have been shit with it. The promise of a 24 hour threesome with two women of my choice and Champions League final tickets wouldn’t improve my work ethic toward uni.
I earn a good amount of money. But my work is ridiculously low-value and menial, despite earning a lot so I can afford to travel and buy nice clothes. There is no way I could spin it as being interesting in conversation, even if I point out it has sent me all over the world due to the fact it is flexible work and brings in serious cash. I’d prefer to deny working at all.
So when it comes to a girl asking what I do, at a party or bar or wherever. They can lose interest in just a few sentences of truth. If I tell the truth, some girls just say “oh” no matter how much conviction I say it with. The conversation trails off (Maybe they expect me to say I model or work for MI6 or something). Sometimes I ride this storm, sometimes I don’t. The problem is, I have in the last few months a fair few that “got away”.
I sometimes tell a girl my job is "classified" to duck the bullet. I am socially smart enough as well to have a good idea as to when that will be effective or not. (And that cringes me the fuck out as it's not like me to say it, it's not funny it's gay, it pisses me off if it does work.)
I am not into lying, but have done and it has covered my ass before. Sometime that saps a little of the fun out of things for me though and sometimes I am a terrible liar.
My point is, my game would be dramatically improved and my success rate higher if I had a cause and something I believe in. I know this is my biggest challenge.
And let’s be honest, this is not just about women, but my life in general. Heck I even get embarrassed around some family members when they ask what I am doing at Christmas.
Mostly, I think I know what I have to do. (get a fucking job and play some fucking sport, be a man)
But I am wondering if anyone here had a similar experience with being a fuck up. And what on earth you did about it long term, as well as short term?
Thanks men.
I’m 25 and let’s say, I at least think I am very good looking, as do many, many women so I am pretty convinced I am pretty special. I get told often. I’ll start with the gloat to make myself feel better, but this does highlight my problem, I have a huge problem.
I have started being a lot more successful with women, mainly in the 6-8 range. The last 6 girls in my phone are from 5 different countries and all messaged me within the past 24 hours, they visit me (I don't have to go to them). At parties I attend I walk into a room and I am sometimes approached by 2 or even 3 women at once. I really feel I at least walk the walk and talk the talk until a point. I don’t have too many problems with getting laid and can afford to have reasonable standards. Getting women to like me long term is not a problem either (sometimes after initial problems this is a nuisance to me). Boo ya, good for me…etc.
My game is OK, I'm smart and foreign girls are my specialty (because I fucking love foreign girls) and because even if they come from Panama or Georgia (my two most exotic flags) I'll know something about their country they love this.
But it has one often fatal flaw.
And here it is.
I’m a fuck up.
I am flunking Philosophy at University, I am finishing it in a few months but my grades are dire. I don’t have much interest in it. I should have finished uni about 3 years ago but really have been shit with it. The promise of a 24 hour threesome with two women of my choice and Champions League final tickets wouldn’t improve my work ethic toward uni.
I earn a good amount of money. But my work is ridiculously low-value and menial, despite earning a lot so I can afford to travel and buy nice clothes. There is no way I could spin it as being interesting in conversation, even if I point out it has sent me all over the world due to the fact it is flexible work and brings in serious cash. I’d prefer to deny working at all.
So when it comes to a girl asking what I do, at a party or bar or wherever. They can lose interest in just a few sentences of truth. If I tell the truth, some girls just say “oh” no matter how much conviction I say it with. The conversation trails off (Maybe they expect me to say I model or work for MI6 or something). Sometimes I ride this storm, sometimes I don’t. The problem is, I have in the last few months a fair few that “got away”.
I sometimes tell a girl my job is "classified" to duck the bullet. I am socially smart enough as well to have a good idea as to when that will be effective or not. (And that cringes me the fuck out as it's not like me to say it, it's not funny it's gay, it pisses me off if it does work.)
I am not into lying, but have done and it has covered my ass before. Sometime that saps a little of the fun out of things for me though and sometimes I am a terrible liar.
My point is, my game would be dramatically improved and my success rate higher if I had a cause and something I believe in. I know this is my biggest challenge.
And let’s be honest, this is not just about women, but my life in general. Heck I even get embarrassed around some family members when they ask what I am doing at Christmas.
Mostly, I think I know what I have to do. (get a fucking job and play some fucking sport, be a man)
But I am wondering if anyone here had a similar experience with being a fuck up. And what on earth you did about it long term, as well as short term?
Thanks men.