[bixperience]

Im living in poland, and i was a pub-club. kind of chill out with sofas and stuff. she was sitting in one of them texting at her phone ( her friend was sitting a few meters away, so i though she may wanted to be approached). i asked her if i could sit in the seat next to her, she said yes. then i asked her what was her name. at first she kind of ignored my question, then i asked again and she answered. then i told her she looks interesting and i would like to know if shes interesting, then i asked her a question about where she was from, etc.. wich she didnt reply . she was like "its okay". So i just stayed there in the seat and left 5 minutes after.

She was looking at me for the rest of the night.

Any clue why this is happpening?

Cheers!

[Windom Earle]

She was probably nervous, yet still curious.

It's not uncommon.

Also, take note of the rate in which you're firing questions at a chick - you don't want to overwhelm them.

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I agree with Windom Earle. I'll add that you probably should do more than just ask questions. One great trick taught in the London daygame community is to turn the question into an assumption, which then leads into a more natural conversation (I'm simplifying here):

For example:
"What do you do?" becomes "Your padded-shoulder jacket makes you look like a cutthroat lawyer (grin)" (assuming she's wearing a padded-shoulder jacket)

Her likely response: "Hehe ... no, I'm a (blah)."

Then you Roosh ramble about blah (and don't ask a question), and hopefully she bites with some natural convo.

Again, I'm simplifying here, mostly for ease of consideration.

[Days of Broken Arrows]

(05-02-2015 05:39 AM)bixperience Wrote:  

Im living in poland, and i was a pub-club. kind of chill out with sofas and stuff. she was sitting in one of them texting at her phone ( her friend was sitting a few meters away, so i though she may wanted to be approached). i asked her if i could sit in the seat next to her, she said yes. then i asked her what was her name. at first she kind of ignored my question, then i asked again and she answered. then i told her she looks interesting and i would like to know if shes interesting, then i asked her a question about where she was from, etc.. she was sitting in one of them texting at her phone ( her friend was sitting a few meters away, so i though she may wanted to be approached). i asked her if i could sit in the seat next to her, she said yes. then i asked her what was her name. wich she didnt reply . she was like "its okay". So i just stayed there in the seat and left 5 minutes after.

She was looking at me for the rest of the night.

Any clue why this is happpening?

Cheers!

First, asking if you could sit near her put you in the submissive position. The better thing to do is plop down obliviously, then after a few seconds say to her in a bemused way "I can sit here, right?"

That might cause her to laugh and say "You already have," etc. There's your opener.

But beyond that, you're not engaging women emotionally. You're speaking to them intellectually. "What's your name?" sounds like something a parent (or a stranger with candy) asks a lost kid.

A better approach would be something like "I can't believe I almost just witnessed someone get run over outside." This brings some drama into the convo and lets her tell a similar story (we all have them). If she doesn't respond, well, then you have a good reason to walk off -- she has no feelings.

All that said, maybe she didn't respond because she didn't speak the same language. This has happened to me with Hispanic women. They smile, they nod, and then I learn they have NO IDEA what I'm saying!

[WestIndianArchie]

(05-02-2015 05:39 AM)bixperience Wrote:  

Im living in poland, and i was a pub-club. kind of chill out with sofas and stuff. she was sitting in one of them texting at her phone ( her friend was sitting a few meters away, so i though she may wanted to be approached). i asked her if i could sit in the seat next to her, she said yes. then i asked her what was her name. at first she kind of ignored my question, then i asked again and she answered. then i told her she looks interesting and i would like to know if shes interesting, then i asked her a question about where she was from, etc.. wich she didnt reply . she was like "its okay". So i just stayed there in the seat and left 5 minutes after.

She was looking at me for the rest of the night.

Any clue why this is happpening?

Cheers!

Bad Game.

You're in the right place to learn better game.

WIA

[bixperience]

ok, maybe i had bad game. but bad game doesnt mean that she will lose the attraction? because she keep looking at me afterwards. when you mean bad game maybe its in the sense that i just should have made it easier for her to open up?

[WestIndianArchie]

(05-02-2015 05:30 PM)bixperience Wrote:  

ok, maybe i had bad game. but bad game doesnt mean that she will lose the attraction? because she keep looking at me afterwards. when you mean bad game maybe its in the sense that i just should have made it easier for her to open up?

You don't understand game, thus your game is bad.

You have your fishing pole, you put bait on the hook, you threw the line out.

And when the fish bit, you decided it was time to do your taxes and possibly reorganize your mp3's. Those damn m3u files always double up songs in your iTunes.

Fish swam away with everything. You came back to shore and asked us why you didn't land the fish.

Now you gotta start all over.

What you're asking us, is was there any way to recover the fish when you realized that she bit.

There is, but you don't seem to understand the fundamentals. So there's no point in explain how to recover a fumble when you couldn't run the ball in the first place- when you didn't realize I switched the metaphors from fishing to football.

That's fine, you're in the right place.

WIA

[bixperience]

(05-03-2015 08:38 AM)WestIndianArchie Wrote:  

You don't understand game, thus your game is bad.

You have your fishing pole, you put bait on the hook, you threw the line out.

And when the fish bit, you decided it was time to do your taxes and possibly reorganize your mp3's. Those damn m3u files always double up songs in your iTunes.

Fish swam away with everything. You came back to shore and asked us why you didn't land the fish.

Now you gotta start all over.

What you're asking us, is was there any way to recover the fish when you realized that she bit.

There is, but you don't seem to understand the fundamentals. So there's no point in explain how to recover a fumble when you couldn't run the ball in the first place- when you didn't realize I switched the metaphors from fishing to football.

That's fine, you're in the right place.

WIA

Ok, you say the fish bit, but she was ignoring me/ looking at her phone when i approached her, and I though the fish didn't bit at all, so i just took the line back. Is that i missed some subtle details when she was ignoring me and should i have read her better/ pushed more?

[Comte De St. Germain]

No your approach was bad, you shouldn't have gone back, and you should use the search function or start browsing that game sub forum and learn game.