I did a cold approach on a black woman and didn't know what to say so I said, "You're the first black woman I've ever hit on." After that, she seemed VERY interested, nice, talkative, smiled, and introduced herself.
Hello.
Quote: (06-02-2011 01:50 PM)Urban Renaissance Man Wrote:
That is a well spoken answer, and only someone in denial would disagree with this! I feel its a big reason why so many black guys start dating out of their race in the first place. It's the acceptance of women of other races that give them impression on reputation that "white women are nicer", that you hear so many black guys mention. Your Wacka Flacka, Kobe Bryant, Chris Brown types do not have trouble with black women, because their height, relative good or 'in style' looks and height give them enough social value to be acceptable in the eyes of many black women. In other words, attractive black women are in many cases, just too hard to get! A white or Hispanic girl, who is into black men, many times is just happy to have a black! They're not quite as aware of what is the ideal in the black community, so they are more likely to give an average black guy a chance. Note, I said average, not ugly or bottom of the barrel.
One thing I've noticed is that a very attractive black women almost always feels she needs to be with someone either very good looking and tall, rich, or on the top of the heirechy in their class, be it business man, baller drug dealer, captain of football/basketball team, etc. On the other hand, I will see a hot Latina dating a Latin gardner, with basic looks! I will see hot, white women, with white guys who only have decent jobs, have basic looks and many times, feminine mannerisms! Only black women do I see as a whole having these stringent standards of looks and class. That is, until they reach 40, and realize that the Prince Denzel Charming, is coming to rescue them, or they finally realize that you can't have a 9-5 working, respectful to women, take care of his kids and mow the lawn, thug!
Quote: (06-02-2011 01:50 PM)Urban Renaissance Man Wrote:
In other words, attractive black women are in many cases, just too hard to get! A white or Hispanic girl, who is into black men, many times is just happy to have a black! They're not quite as aware of what is the ideal in the black community, so they are more likely to give an average black guy a chance. Note, I said average, not ugly or bottom of the barrel.
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One thing I've noticed is that a very attractive black women almost always feels she needs to be with someone either very good looking and tall, rich, or on the top of the heirechy in their class, be it business man, baller drug dealer, captain of football/basketball team, etc.
Quote: (06-02-2011 07:40 PM)Athlone McGinnis Wrote:
I'd argue that black American women are the most materialistic group of women in the US
Quote: (06-02-2011 10:31 PM)speakeasy Wrote:
Quote: (06-02-2011 07:40 PM)Athlone McGinnis Wrote:
I'd argue that black American women are the most materialistic group of women in the US
Au contraire, I'd have to say Persian women win that award. SoCal Persian women are the worst of the worst. This a parody but too far off: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JfWwOw1xXNU
Quote: (06-02-2011 09:17 PM)rakishness Wrote:
LOL. This thread is laughable to me. The reason why black women have these ridiculous standards is because a dime black girl is a hot commodity for black men. We have a huge obesity problem in our community. This makes finding a dime black girl much harder especially if you live outside DC or Atlanta.
Quote: (06-03-2011 01:58 AM)speakeasy Wrote:
@Athlone you might find these funny:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hNSpWUdFWFk
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6a7Ztkko614
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Interesting stats on obesity. Black and white men are "overweight" at about the same proportion. That's also true for those over 20, they aren't far apart from each other. Though of course they are probably not factoring in those with muscle. I'm 5'8" and 190lbs, but I work out, I'm not fat. I'd be considered overweight.
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Almost 80% of black women are overweight. White women aren't doing to great either at 60%. I'm not sure what constitutes overweight though. Is a girl that's pleasantly thick like Kim Kardashian considered overweight?
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Nonetheless, it's a serious problem that needs to be addressed. The high percentage of obese black women over 20 is probably going a long way to make the attractive in shape black girls twice as stuck up as they should be.
http://minorityhealth.hhs.gov/templates/...px?ID=6456
Quote: (06-03-2011 05:36 AM)Bronze Wrote:
All black women I've approached so far were attracted to me from the very beginning.
I sometimes approach black women with a sexual opener, for example: "Hey, you have sexy lips!" Right on the street. They love it. They love it when you are cool and confident.
Quote: (06-03-2011 05:56 AM)Vicious Wrote:
Some great information in this thread guys. I assume we are narrowing this down to African-American women?
Quote: (06-03-2011 03:17 AM)Athlone McGinnis Wrote:
I'm 5'10, 208. I'm also a Division 1 runningback, and statistically I am obese(or close to it). Other "obese" male athletes you may know include Michael Vick(6'0, 215), Troy Polamalou(almost precisely my height and weight), Ladainian Tomlinson(5'10", 215), and about 90% of top college and professional football players(as well as many foreign Rugby players) you know.
Many NBA players(including Dwayne Wade at 6'4", 220) are overweight.
Men get a bit of a free pass on this because, as all these examples show, they can be "obese" or overweight due to muscle mass. Women, lacking testosterone(and generally not as common in professional or even amateur sports or weightlifting) simply don't build heavy muscle weight the way men do.
Thus, a double standard: Obese men can be healthy(and actually extremely attractive and ideal to women) with low body fat and high muscle mass, while obese women are almost unanimously unhealthy(high body fat, low muscle mass).
Factor this in to the stats and you have an even grimmer picture. They say 37% of black men and 51% of black women are obese. This is already an uneven number, but factor all of the men within that 37% who physically resemble Vick, Polamalou or any other non-famous guy who works out(like you and me) and it gets worse. The real number of truly fat black men might be 10 or more percentage points lower.
If all things are equal and these guys are forced to pick a black woman, MILLIONS of black guys who are in shape would have no choice but to settle with an obese woman. That is how bad the numbers are-guys can't win.
Quote: (06-04-2011 03:56 AM)Bronze Wrote:
This woman must have some really good swagger in her game. Probably she negged him a lot and played "hard 2 get".
Quote: (06-04-2011 12:50 AM)speakeasy Wrote:
@Athlone, something just occurred to me. I got back from the supermarket. Saw a tall, fairly fit looking black dude with an obese ass ugly white woman. Unfortunately, I see this shit way too much. So it cuts at the theory that black dudes are dating out to avoid overweight black women.
Look at this and click on the video: http://www.myfoxny.com/dpp/news/dpgonc-d...c-20100315
Here is her with her husband. And the thing is that dude is actually in decent shape for his age. WTF?!?!
Quote: (05-13-2011 06:29 AM)Athlone McGinnis Wrote:
Black American women are by far the most hypergamous group of females in this country. Their standards for "alpha" behavior, monetary status and outward appearance/demeanor(swag) are higher than you will find in other groups. They demand more and are far more aggressive in their repulsion when they don't men who meet said requirements.
Quote: (05-13-2011 06:50 PM)speakeasy Wrote:
Quote: (05-13-2011 05:48 PM)playa_with_a_passport Wrote:
Speakeasy, how old were those chicks? I am willing to bet they were under 21.
I agree with what you said about having to act hard. That's especially true if you are in the ghetto or at a black nightclub. If you come across as pussified in any way, you simply aren't getting any, period. While I didn't grow in the ghetto, I did spend a summer as a teen with some family members back east that lived in the ghetto. And the culture teaches dudes to be hard, never show any weakness and approach any girl within sight that you like. If guys know you like a girl but won't approach her, you'd be ridiculed as a pussy and would get no respect from guys. That's why dudes in the ghetto learn game from a young age.
Quote: (06-02-2011 09:17 PM)rakishness Wrote:
LOL. This thread is laughable to me. The reason why black women have these ridiculous standards is because a dime black girl is a hot commodity for black men. We have a huge obesity problem in our community. This makes finding a dime black girl much harder especially if you live outside DC or Atlanta.
Quote: (05-15-2011 02:22 PM)Athlone McGinnis Wrote:
Quote: (05-15-2011 08:27 AM)Tommy Wrote:
I love reading this forum but alot of stuff here just doesn't seem the same like where i'm from. Girls in Europe are different than girls in the USA I guess.
Trust me when I say that, compared to other populations of black girls in Africa, The Caribbean, Latin America and Europe, American black girls are an ENTIRELY different animal to deal with.
Many of the bad things guys are saying about them here and on many other sites online are unique to them as a population group, and don't apply as consistently to the other half a billion black women on Earth.
Quote: (06-04-2011 11:35 PM)txbeachbum Wrote:
It's not about ACTING hard!! It's about being hard due to your environment, you can't grow up in a rough area acting like a little bitch all the time, you have to grow up at a very young age and handle ya business whatever that may be.
If you see a girl you like and you don't approach, yes you have bitch tendencies. There is no reason in the world for a man to be afraid to approach any woman, she's not gonna kill you, all she can say is no.
Around 14-15 yrs old me and my boys used to get dropped off at the mall or movies just to approach hoes all day for hours, we didn't give a damn about no rejection we was horny and wanted to fuck.
Rejection was and still is just part of the game, nothing personal.
Quote: (06-04-2011 11:52 PM)txbeachbum Wrote:
Also I will add this, for all the bad things that are said about African American women, they are the most down ass woman you could EVER have in your corner if the shit hits the fan.
Yes you have to deal with alot of their BS and attitude, etc, but once they fall in love with you. She will go to hell and back with and for you.
They are very strong mentally and will be there to help you out no matter what, lose your job ( they will sell ) their wedding ring to help you get back on your feet, whatever it takes they are seriously the most ride or die chick you would ever want in your corner.