Quote: (12-25-2014 09:48 PM)Dalaran1991 Wrote:
I think I got it all wrong. It's never about complimenting a girl. It's about telling them exactly what they want to hear.
There's a lot of truth in that statement.
I think you are kinda like me. You want to game girls but not in the way most guys talk about it here. Holes ain't holes.
You want to hang out and enjoy the company of beautiful women. You want to talk to them, tease them, make them smile, then bang them, but it's not just about the bang. That's just the climax of a good story.
Back to the whole compliment thing.
It's always about what the girl wants to hear, but more about how she sees herself. I posted a quote from the LaidNYC thread that really helped me out. I used it on my LTR because it made so much sense.
I'm dealing with a girl who is an ex-cheerleader, and she looks like an NYC model. She knows she is gorgeous. I could compliment her looks, but she wants compliments on anything but her looks. She wants to hear that she is smart.
Here's the bit I posted in the LaidNYC thread:
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Hot girls get it, they’re hot. Everyone sees they’re hot. The quicker you get past it and ignore it, the better.
She’ll feel most validated, most qualified, if she thinks you see her how she sees herself. Whether she identifies as a singer or people pleaser or spiritualist or bitch or yes, a dork.
In Robert Cialdini’s classic Influence, he says we like people who like us. I think more specifically we like people who like what we like about ourselves.
The hot chick from Blurred Lines sees herself as a dork, and likes her dorky side, and that’s what she wants people to like. Obviously most guys won’t get past the beauty, making it a tremendous filtering mechanism.
These are important questions to think about when seducing a girl though: How does she see herself? What does she like about herself?