Quote: (04-21-2011 12:30 PM)el mechanico Wrote:
Ok. Im going to try and explain again...I try to avoid these situations at all costs and never have i lied about it. But,It has happend. My friends flirt etc with my dates all the time and I dont give a shit.Most women do what THEY want to do regardless. We talk about this openly and honestly and it has never ruined any frienships.
I get you. You think that I don't but I do.
Understand that flirting and fucking are two completely, completely different things. They are worlds apart. Saying that your friends are cool with you flirting with their wives, or vice versa, is completely different than what you were saying before.
I flirt with my friends gfs and wives too. The difference is that they know that they can trust me to never, ever take it beyond that. That's why its okay for me to flirt.
Hell, I've taken a friends wife out before, at the request of my friend when he was out of town. Its not because there was never any sexual tension between me and his wife, because in truth there has been, and its not because he wanted me to fuck her, its because he knows that he can trust me implicitly. Which is true.
If you didn't give a shit about the flirting / fucking then you could control yourself to the end of not fucking over your friend, which is a strong motivator to not follow through with that . Or maybe what you mean is that you don't 'give a shit' about whether or not your friends SO's are unfaithful with you, which is what is sounds like.
As I before stated, I agree with you that women will do what they want. That's why its up to the men to be principled, at least when it comes to getting the back of other male friends.
If your friends don't care about you fucking their wives or gfs, then you have some unique friends and you should thank god that they keep you as a friend, because it certainly isn't regular accepted behavior or in the bounds of anything approaching normal even for men that are or were players.
I don't believe you when you say that you avoid these situations. Dude, Ive known a hundred people like you. You'll say that you avoid it, to maybe appease your conscience a bit and throw people off for a minute, but I guarantee that your actions don't back that up. Take that bullshit down the road.
For my general opinion about your perspective, see my previous post.