Girls often do things that I find to be straight up disrespectful. When I'm confronted with things of that nature, I dismiss the girls as being anything worth anything real immediately. When it's all said and done, I can say I got what I wanted out of the interaction, while they're often left confused as to why I chose to exit stage left.
Recently, a friend confided in me that he and his girlfriend are at a point in their relationship that is making him feel like he should remove himself from the relationship.
He wanted to see if she was possibly feeling the same way, so one evening when he had the opportunity, he went through her phone. He didn't find anything obvious in the girl's phone, no pictures, incriminating texts, etc -- however it is apparent to him that she deletes her messages often and has a SMS backup app.
However, I asked him if there were any frequent phone calls and/or texts with to any specific people, especially ones with male names. He said not in her messages, but she's calling a guy fairly often, but not at any unusual times, and he dismissed it because it's a guy he knows as one of her co-workers.
I asked him if she had any e-mails or other message apps connected to her phone, and he said he wasn't sure, I told him to investigate further and let me know if he found anything else.
He came back to me and said that she's also using WhatsApp. Her WhatsApp only has one contact, and it happens to be the aforementioned guy in the call log.
The texts appear to be innocent. Most of them are just random shit about work, however, they are texting each other regularly throughout the day, everyday, including about shit that has nothing to do with work.
I don't care how often you work with someone, but there aren't many work circumstances in which two co-workers must be in constant communication, especially given that these are two people that work at a restaurant, so they are communicating with each other when they are off and obviously when they see each other at work.
So do you really think this shit is innocent?
If he feels like the relationship is on its last legs, then yes she's probably feels the same way. It is obvious that she is already made a decision to get close to this co-worker, thus it is likely something has already happened between them, and ultimately he will be her safety net so she can land softly when my friend drops her.
Don't misread a girl's actions. She does shit with a purpose, and what appears to be innocuous to you, has an entirely different meaning behind it, be honest with yourself as to what it is, and move forward accordingly.
Recently, a friend confided in me that he and his girlfriend are at a point in their relationship that is making him feel like he should remove himself from the relationship.
He wanted to see if she was possibly feeling the same way, so one evening when he had the opportunity, he went through her phone. He didn't find anything obvious in the girl's phone, no pictures, incriminating texts, etc -- however it is apparent to him that she deletes her messages often and has a SMS backup app.
However, I asked him if there were any frequent phone calls and/or texts with to any specific people, especially ones with male names. He said not in her messages, but she's calling a guy fairly often, but not at any unusual times, and he dismissed it because it's a guy he knows as one of her co-workers.
I asked him if she had any e-mails or other message apps connected to her phone, and he said he wasn't sure, I told him to investigate further and let me know if he found anything else.
He came back to me and said that she's also using WhatsApp. Her WhatsApp only has one contact, and it happens to be the aforementioned guy in the call log.
The texts appear to be innocent. Most of them are just random shit about work, however, they are texting each other regularly throughout the day, everyday, including about shit that has nothing to do with work.
I don't care how often you work with someone, but there aren't many work circumstances in which two co-workers must be in constant communication, especially given that these are two people that work at a restaurant, so they are communicating with each other when they are off and obviously when they see each other at work.
So do you really think this shit is innocent?
If he feels like the relationship is on its last legs, then yes she's probably feels the same way. It is obvious that she is already made a decision to get close to this co-worker, thus it is likely something has already happened between them, and ultimately he will be her safety net so she can land softly when my friend drops her.
Don't misread a girl's actions. She does shit with a purpose, and what appears to be innocuous to you, has an entirely different meaning behind it, be honest with yourself as to what it is, and move forward accordingly.