Quote: (10-19-2014 04:30 PM)WestIndianArchie Wrote:
Quote: (10-19-2014 04:10 PM)Atlantic Wrote:
Ahh come on - Runsonmagic isn't saying that.
He is saying that every lay is made up of an active cost and a passive cost.
Active =spent that night. Passive = lifestyle/development costs.
He isn't saying the sole motivation for the passive cost is to get laid. It just exists as part of your life.
So
- money spent on food when you're by yourself (it's cheaper to carb up on rice and beans, rather than spend on grass fed beef)
- money spent on a bed, sheets, pillows, comforter
- money spent on car insurance, tires
- money spent on going to the dentist
- money spent on getting an education
- money spent going to a sports bar to watch the game with your friends, but you happen to meet a girl there
Should these figure into cost per notch?
That's the problem with the including your regular lifestyle into CPN calculations.
WIA
I agree that you can't separate your game and regular lifestyle. However "regular lifestyle" means different things to different people.
At one point, my regular lifestyle involved eating a lot of processed food. By American standards, this is regular. Shifting from that to a paleo diet took time and commitment. During the time I was changing my diet, I wasn't getting laid much and pick up was not a focus. However after making that change, I had more energy, my thinking was clearer, and I looked better. I also noticed that women started to eye-fuck me more.
For costs, I'm talking about the cost of change. Making a lifestyle change usually costs something, even if it's just time or will. Buying grassfed beef over bread and chips is part of my regular costs now, but when I first started I didn't even know how to cook. I wouldn't include my food bill in CPN, but I would include the time and energy it took to change what was on my food bill.
I also agree that self-development is it's own reward. Now, even if I knew it didn't help me socially, I would eat healthy, because I like being healthy. However willpower is a limited resource. Should I spend an extra two hours a day doing pick up, or use that time to develop a new passive skill? That's what I'm talking about with passive notch costs.
Ideally, the passive skills you pick up are things you do because you love them. Trying to become famous just to get girls is not going to be enough for most people. Practicing an artform you love and would do if there was no reward beyond the art itself might result in fame and fortune. Thinking about CPN this way can help you figure out how to spend your time and how to accomplish multiple goals at the same time.
Read my work on Return of Kings here.