[MdWanderer]

Daygamed this George Washington University girl the other day. Short, about 21 years old, brownskinned. Opened with "where is a good happy hour spot around here?" Pointed me to this place two blocks down the street, and offered to walk and talk with me. My wing with me told me she looked 'very' interested but we only talked for about ten minutes or less than exchanged numbers. Put a smiley face next to her name in my phone.

Don't feel like I talked with her enough to ask her for a meetup right away. Can I developed rapport/comfort through texting? Send multiple texts and maybe get her on the phone, or ask for a meetup right away? I almost always get favorable results texting after 30-45+ of conversation, but usually in this small time frame I get blown out.

[polar]

Have you texted her yet or are you just afraid of success?

There are no guarantees even if she was really happy to meet you on the spot. Maybe her ex calls and wants to get back together. Maybe her dog dies. Maybe she gets cold feet. If you move faster you'll get higher odds of her meeting you than if you give her time to double-think, talk about it with friends, get into a busy week, etc.

Text within a day or two of the number, sometimes I'll do it even the same day in the evening.

You can't build much comfort over texting. Keep it as standard and focused on logistics as possible. What I do is adapted from Bang / Day Bang

1. Hey it's ___ how's it going

2. gauge if her response was lukewarm or very warm (longer answer, smileys, asks you a question other than "and how are you"). Go to step 4 or 5 accordingly.

3. if she didn't respond within 24h, she's a cold lead.
Try again with a cool short DHV in 2 days, if not tag her as a cold lead (I add "cold" to her name in my phone) and move on. You can spam your cold leads every couple months as a hail Mary play.

4. if warm: move to logistics:
good good. Let's hang out, how about Monday or Tuesday at 7pm around ___

5. if lukewarm, draw her out - add value and get her to invest a bit too:
I'm doing great, just did x cool thing (keep short and a bit vague so it gives bait). make a witty comment going off what she said in her text or said she was going to do when you met her - try to make it into a statement rather than a question.
Then see 4 - go to logistics.

6. If she ignores the logistics, try a restart text in 2 days:
just did <cool thing>. how's your week going
go back to point 2.

[LemonDrink]

Text her some chick crack to get her interested. Something like:

'That bar you recommended was good but you are totally to blame for getting me drunk!'

[Noir]

She will ping off your first interaction so texting will seem thirsty.

Message her just before the weekend, tell her 'I found an even better spot than xyz' and gauge her interest from that and act accordingly.

[LemonDrink]

Ideally you should text her within a few hours as it was a short interaction. Something like:

'Thanks for the bar recommendation but I got a feeling I am going to get totally wasted very soon. And its all your fault! How often you come here?'

[Giovonny]

(09-28-2014 01:27 PM)MdWanderer Wrote:  

Can I developed rapport/comfort through texting?

Yes, you can, if you can identify topics that are of interest to her and discuss these topics..

And/or you can make her laugh..

And/or you can make her think deeply about something of interest of her..

And/or you can discuss things that you guys have in common.

It's really not much different than building rapport/comfort in person.

(09-28-2014 01:27 PM)MdWanderer Wrote:  

Send multiple texts and maybe get her on the phone, or ask for a meetup right away?

Don't ask for a meet up right away.

Build some comfort/rapport first.

If you are a good speaker and your feeling bold, call her.

You need one more good communication before you ask her out.