I'm a young guy so not in no hurry to get hitched or move in with a girl. That being said, I've been more of a serial monogamist for the last few years and enjoy the emotional connection (pursuing things on the side on and off).
In each relationship that's lasted more than several months the girls have called me out on being "closed off." On a superficial level the relationships are good, with a good balance of attraction / alpha and comfort / beta. My main girl right now, for instance, has made an ultimatum of sorts, saying that we can't go on if I don't become more open about my feelings, etc (I don't think the benefits are worth the costs). I'm concerned that I am the common link.
Having gotten into game after getting cheated on, I almost subconsciously maintain a certain level of emotional distance: avoid bringing up topics about past relationships, invest no more in the relationships than they do, try not to mix my main girls into my social circles, or discussing said social circles with them. I maintain an ambiguous status with my social circles and avoid bringing up the fact that I am not single. I let them push the relationship status forward and not being the one to ask if we're exclusive, etc. I subscribe to the idea that the man has to be the stronger one in the relationship, and that sharing feelings or relying on the woman for emotional support kills attraction and dries up the snatch.
How do you guys see "opening up" and "sharing feelings" in a LTR? How to balance that with maintaining attraction / soft dread and making sure that she doesn't use sex as a weapon?
In each relationship that's lasted more than several months the girls have called me out on being "closed off." On a superficial level the relationships are good, with a good balance of attraction / alpha and comfort / beta. My main girl right now, for instance, has made an ultimatum of sorts, saying that we can't go on if I don't become more open about my feelings, etc (I don't think the benefits are worth the costs). I'm concerned that I am the common link.
Having gotten into game after getting cheated on, I almost subconsciously maintain a certain level of emotional distance: avoid bringing up topics about past relationships, invest no more in the relationships than they do, try not to mix my main girls into my social circles, or discussing said social circles with them. I maintain an ambiguous status with my social circles and avoid bringing up the fact that I am not single. I let them push the relationship status forward and not being the one to ask if we're exclusive, etc. I subscribe to the idea that the man has to be the stronger one in the relationship, and that sharing feelings or relying on the woman for emotional support kills attraction and dries up the snatch.
How do you guys see "opening up" and "sharing feelings" in a LTR? How to balance that with maintaining attraction / soft dread and making sure that she doesn't use sex as a weapon?
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