[NilNisiOptimum]

i know some of you out there are parents. perhaps you're like me, having found the red pill later in life after having started a family. or perhaps you were already taking the red pill and started a family on the right foot to begin with.

i'm looking for resources on red pill parenting. i have a 4 year old son, with twins on the way (a boy and a girl). the thought of having a daughter feels like staring into the abyss. naturally, my biggest fear is she will become inundated and consumed by modern culture. it is, for lack of a better term, a great unknown to me. i never had a sister, or any close female extended family my age growing up. i genuinely have no experience dealing with females in a nuclear family environment.

what forums, blogs, or books have you come across that deal with red pill parenting? any advice to a father raising a daughter in this blighted culture?

[WilliamShatnersEgo]

Be credible. Don't bullshit her or break promises. Be available for her, listen to her.

I just saw something that resonated with me....

"Your son will grow up to be you and your daughter will find a guy just like you....Is that a good thing?"

Absent, full of shit fathers are the recipe for strippers and sluts.

[Engineer]

Agree with the Shat Man. Be there and spend time. Don't play favorites. It might be harder to relate with a daughter, but make the extra effort. It takes me 3 times as long to figure out things with my daughter than with my son, just because I understand men better.

Don't let your guard down. Know who her friends are and who she spends time with ALWAYS.

Let them know to assess people based on actions, not words.

Make sure the wife is on board and does not undermine your efforts, even subconsciously.

Cell phones with apps and cameras are tremendous tools to let them get into trouble. If I could go back in time, I'd have never let them get smart phones until they're 16 or 17. Kids are smart but do not understand the future implications of what they're doing. You must have full and unfettered access to all their technology. "You want privacy, get a job and move out"

They watch and remember everything you do. Don't joke around in front of them thinking they don't know what you're talking about.

Many parents want to be their kids' best friends. Totally wrong and typical female/mother mode of operation. You are the parent, responsible for their development, not their friendship and happiness.

I just dropped my son off at his college this weekend. I felt very proud and like my job raising him was done successfully. Now just a few more years with my daughter, fingers crossed!

[ElBorrachoInfamoso]

How long ago did you find the red pill?

I also have a young daughter but don't worry so much about her growing up in this culture because I'm confident that she will have good examples within our family.

[Haig]

get you children into a martial art/boxing as soon as possible. Preferably with a high older male ratio. He will learn and be surrounded by other male role models.

Its also a good way for him to branch out and use it as a skill of making money when he is older.

[CrackerDaddy]

Agree very much with what WilliamShatnersEgo and Engineer posted.

As the proud father of a very well-adjusted 25 year-old daughter, I will piggyback off them and say that listening to them, setting good examples and having the mother in sync with you -- not undermining you are paramount to raising future well-adjusted adults.

In addition, teaching them to think CRITICALLY for themselves and to question authority (yes, even mine.......done PROPERLY) is important to avoid raising a future, mindless sheeple.

Always love them unconditionally and let them know that you will always love them unconditionally. Let them also know that loving them unconditionally means you will hold them accountable for their actions and take appropriate corrective disciplinary/corrective action as necessary.

Always be the MAN of the house and their FATHER.

Just my $.02.

[samsamsam]

A theme here is having his wife on board. What would be the best way for her to get on board? Have her read through RVF? Show her the "girl sucked 12 dicks" thread? Not trying to joke, just curious how one might approach that. I guess if you are going alpha/red pill, you just say this is how we are raising our daughter so that she doesn't check off every box on Tuth's slut article?

[Heathree]

If you have a son, make sure he starts getting laid from a young age. If he is having trouble in this department, perhaps do a John F. Kennedy:

http://www.menshealth.com/best-life/most...ify-bubble

[IvanDrago]

You could have your wife read Red Pill Women reddit and see what she thinks. It's not much but possibly a decent option for your situation. Or maybe secretly super glue your daughters legs together at the knees, by puberty she will think it's normal. That's all I got.

[Engineer]

(08-19-2014 03:39 PM)samsamsam Wrote:  

A theme here is having his wife on board. What would be the best way for her to get on board? Have her read through RVF? Show her the "girl sucked 12 dicks" thread? Not trying to joke, just curious how one might approach that. I guess if you are going alpha/red pill, you just say this is how we are raising our daughter so that she doesn't check off every box on Tuth's slut article?

Tell her that if she questions your reasoning in front of the kids, it confuses them. You are willing to discuss and compromise to some degree, but not in front of them.

If you think of it ahead of time before some difficult conversation with the kids, you say to her "This is important, I need you to back me up here. This is the baseline approach. Anything I'm not seeing?" This assumes your wife is also a capable parent.

I can't agree enough with CrackerDaddy on the critical thinking. This is what parenting is all about, along with instilling physical fitness and showing them unconditional love.

[Vaun]

If you dont have a wife, which I suspect is the majority here, you will have to figure this out without having her on board. Even if you get along with your ex, she is different from you, and you probably have opposing world views.

In this case I would say dont put yourself in situations to be made the fool. If she likes to nag and treat you like garbage, I think its important for the kids not to see this. So don't end up in those situations. Minimize time with the ex, and be a consistent presence in their lifes. Prove to them who you are when you are with them, not what your ex says.

[Vroom]

(08-18-2014 01:09 AM)NilNisiOptimum Wrote:  

any advice to a father raising a daughter in this blighted culture?

Just relax and enjoy it. My daughter is 5 now and "this blighted culture" doesn't even figure, she still thinks I'm the greatest thing in the world and it's beautiful. That probably will change as she approaches puberty, but no point worrying about something that is years down the track. Just be the best you can be in the present.

[NilNisiOptimum]

thank you all for your advice and and encouragement. i know i probably sound a like a bit of a chump fearing the inevitable. but self-improvement is the name of the game, right?

(08-18-2014 02:08 AM)WilliamShatnersEgo Wrote:  

I just saw something that resonated with me....

"Your son will grow up to be you and your daughter will find a guy just like you....Is that a good thing?"

I'm going have to add that to my daily affirmations.

(08-19-2014 05:28 AM)ElBorrachoInfamoso Wrote:  

How long ago did you find the red pill?

It's been a little over two year since I discovered the red pill.

(08-19-2014 08:28 PM)Vroom Wrote:  

Just relax and enjoy it. My daughter is 5 now and "this blighted culture" doesn't even figure, she still thinks I'm the greatest thing in the world and it's beautiful. That probably will change as she approaches puberty, but no point worrying about something that is years down the track. Just be the best you can be in the present.

That's what everyone tells me about having a daughter. "Daddy's Little Girl" will take hold of me and I'll never be the same (in a good way).

[TravelerKai]

My wife and I have a newborn girl. My actually plan on having ~3-4 kids, and finding success doing it, so that I can write a book on Red Pill Parenting. My wife is Chinese but I am not really expecting her to be fully strict enough on certain things and I am big on Christianity as well. I am also a black american.

I have a lot of rough ideas/plans on paper right now, but because she is so young I cannot attest to too much right now. Let me list out some things and maybe you and I can compare notes as our kids get older.

1. Blocking feminism from grandmother and various aunts.

My mother is not a full blown feminist at all, but a semi-independent black woman with a masters degree. She is very red pill in some ways and extremely blue pill in others as a loyal Democrat. As she has gotten older, she is combative with alot of passive aggressiveness at times. I use our shared Christian faith and basically try to refocus her in a 1 Timothy kind of way. Of course the feminization of the American church is hard to scrub right now, but Spiritual Leadership roles are only respected if I demonstrate it within my families whenever conflicts arise. I have a small gang of aunts on both sides that are overbearingly strong black women and 2 are definitely feminists. They try to pester me about my wife not working or going to a university. My wife has a 2 year degree from China and stays home because I say so. I just cut that kind of talk off at it's heels and change the subject and make sure they have no way to contact my wife. Whenever my mother trys to regurgitates anything they would say, I stop it immediately and talk to her about it.

2. Planning out options for schooling.

I want my daughter to be fluent in Mandarin, hopefully alot more than my ownself, and I plan to have her reading books well before she is school age, much like my mother did with me. After that, in my area there are a handful of private schools and a few top notch public high schools full of smart Asians and upper class kids. I also found a British/UK style private/charter school near downtown in my city, that some coworkers and friends of mine send their kids to. Their education standards are higher and there is no risk of exposing your kid to faggotry and gender confusion hubris that is happening in many public schools around the US. Basically start vetting and picking out schools before it is time to send them. Waiting until later costs too much time.

3. Plan out activities/hobbies ahead of time.

My daughter is unusually physically strong for whatever reasons. It kind of makes sense, my grandfather and my uncles are big, strong men. I have alot of strength myself as a black belt holder or multiple arts. That said, I am conflicted about martial arts training for my daughter. I want her to be lady like. Teaching her a bunch of martial arts and letting her hang out with me while I work on my car may be a bad idea. There are enough women in Texas that shoot wild hogs, ride Harley's, and can fix a car. However, perhaps Tennis, Golf, gymnastics (like her mother did), ballet, and music (like me) will be sufficient. Softball might be okay to break up the monotony. Basketball is a hell no. Women's basketball is full of gay women coaches that are dykes and touch these girls. I found out a few months back that a pretty black high school coach I knew when I was in high school was actually gay. Look around if you don't believe me. I do not care how tall she gets, I will avoid basketball.

4. Ensure a quality Christian education via Church.

If I start her off correctly and stay consistent, she will have a solid foundation. That's going to be alot of work on my part. I cannot get lazy about her activities in Church. Outside of Church, I am also responsible for teaching and emphasizing all the Red Pill Truths that are in the Bible as well.

5. Neighbors kids and her little friends that come from lazy parents.

My mother did not let me hang out with every dude in my neighborhood and I do not think that is too much to ask for. Another sweet tip an old boss told me (He has 3 daughters) is to train your girls to call your cellphone if a chaperone or grown up that is supposed to be watching them leaves them. He gave me the example of how the parents of other girls always want his daughters to go to the mall with their daughters. He told the other parent, I won't allow it unless you stay with them the entire time and not just drop them off at the mall and leave. She said she wouldn't. He said okay. He gets a phone call 20 mins later from his oldest daughter that the lady dropped them off at the movies/foodcourt and drove off. He said okay stay right there I am on my way. The lesson was that you cannot trust these parents at all so turn your kids into spies early.

That same old boss nailed it home for me by telling me that girls mature so fast that if you do not start early, and stay consistent, you will lose them.

I got more stuff in my notes, but tell me what you think so far. I would like to hear others advice as well especially those with older kids.

Thanks

[mmedeiros14]

I think a red pill parenting book is a great idea. Maybe even a dedicated forum or a few ROK articles. Parents can't even control their kids, never mind teach them PROPER values and how to be successful. Props to you guys and I wish you all luck.

[TravelerKai]

(08-22-2014 04:15 PM)mmedeiros14 Wrote:  

I think a red pill parenting book is a great idea. Maybe even a dedicated forum or a few ROK articles. Parents can't even control their kids, never mind teach them PROPER values and how to be successful. Props to you guys and I wish you all luck.

Eventually many more men in the manosphere will take themselves out of the game with a domestic wife, marry foreign women, or even just have kids out of wedlock.

Just like we have solutions for self improvement, we need stuff for parenting as well.

[BadWolf]

Send your girl to Korea. Guys there are pretty ok, even the bad ones will treat her well.

[NilNisiOptimum]

(08-22-2014 04:21 PM)TravelerKai Wrote:  

Just like we have solutions for self improvement, we need stuff for parenting as well.

Amen brother