I remember learning this move from the classic book ''how to win friends and influence people'' and I decided to apply it in my everyday life. What a big difference it made in terms of building relationships.
Soon as I approach a girl, introduce myself and find out her name, I would be calling her by her name and they were usually impressed on how I am already so familiar with her even though we just met. Calling her by her name you are implying that you are already familiar with her and you don't need lots of time to build familiarity with her. If you are already familiar, the sex should come faster.
I don't only do this with girls, I also do it when I am dealing with the customer service from my local shop (I look at the badge for the person's name and then I will be calling them by their name), when the police stops me for no reason to search me (even though this doesn't happen to me anymore) when I meet a new person and I know he will be my friend, I start calling them by their names in order to build familiarity faster (I confess it, I do it with forum members too). Remember this is not manipulation, it's simply an art of effective communication. People like to be called by their names and our names is one of, if not, the biggest identity we have.
Don't over use it, I usually do it when I want the person to really listen to what I am saying, when I am telling the girl that I am about to go but I will keep in touch, eg. ''hey listen patricia, I have to go, but I will call you tonight, alright''?, to reinforce and show that I am interested in that particular person (if the person remember our names then I am sure that person is interested in us in some way), people listen to you more when you call them by their names, when a customer service rep tries to argue with me on the phone and I throw the ''Listen James, I know this is your company policy but''' I feel that the guy on the other end becomes surprised and then becomes more cooperative, customers rarely ever remember the company representative name, when you do it, you are ahead of the game, you will always get better service. You get what you give.
Most of my friends think that I manipulate girls in order to sleep with them but the truth is that my game is just based on these small ''strategies'', they really make a big difference.
Soon as I approach a girl, introduce myself and find out her name, I would be calling her by her name and they were usually impressed on how I am already so familiar with her even though we just met. Calling her by her name you are implying that you are already familiar with her and you don't need lots of time to build familiarity with her. If you are already familiar, the sex should come faster.
I don't only do this with girls, I also do it when I am dealing with the customer service from my local shop (I look at the badge for the person's name and then I will be calling them by their name), when the police stops me for no reason to search me (even though this doesn't happen to me anymore) when I meet a new person and I know he will be my friend, I start calling them by their names in order to build familiarity faster (I confess it, I do it with forum members too). Remember this is not manipulation, it's simply an art of effective communication. People like to be called by their names and our names is one of, if not, the biggest identity we have.
Don't over use it, I usually do it when I want the person to really listen to what I am saying, when I am telling the girl that I am about to go but I will keep in touch, eg. ''hey listen patricia, I have to go, but I will call you tonight, alright''?, to reinforce and show that I am interested in that particular person (if the person remember our names then I am sure that person is interested in us in some way), people listen to you more when you call them by their names, when a customer service rep tries to argue with me on the phone and I throw the ''Listen James, I know this is your company policy but''' I feel that the guy on the other end becomes surprised and then becomes more cooperative, customers rarely ever remember the company representative name, when you do it, you are ahead of the game, you will always get better service. You get what you give.
Most of my friends think that I manipulate girls in order to sleep with them but the truth is that my game is just based on these small ''strategies'', they really make a big difference.