Quote: (03-01-2014 09:51 AM)Chaos Wrote:
Today has been a day like that. It's not just like another " bad day".
I mean I'm pissing people off to the left and to the right.
Anybody who can explain why some days is like this when I'm usually calm as a bomb?
If you're a masculine, aggressive man, then it can be very hard to bite your tongue when confronted with stupidity. Do you think Sean Connery suffers fools?
That being said, given the modern workplace, you're just going to have to deal with fragile idiots to succeed in life, and the tactic I've found that works best is being
likeable: be a successful, fit, interesting man who radiates confidence and obviously has his shit together, and people will naturally want to hang around you. Hell, even being muscular is usually enough in most social situations.
Game works for more than picking up chicks. You can game everyone you meet by being charming, easy-going and fun to be around.
When I get annoyed with stupid ideas, I don't challenge their beliefs head-on, but break the issue down and lead the listener through a series of smaller, less confrontational ideas that result in them coming to my conclusion of what seems to be their own accord. You want them to connect the dots themselves so they think it's their idea. It works even better when
disguised as humour. Not goofy humour or snark - non-reactive, patient-with-kids, dry humour: what I think of as 'Dad' humour.
Yeah, it's manipulative, but, from my experience, people largely seem to lack any true conviction in their ideas, and just go with the herd. They think you have some kind of 'secret' to success, and are extremely malleable because of it.
Particularly women, but men respond too.
I have a lot of people of my Facebook feed due to my band and stage acting - natural beta homes - whose presence I have to politely-tolerate, and they've gradually annoyed me enough with their constant political-correctness that I've started reprogramming then, in subtle ways.
One friend has a fat, cat-lovin', pixie-cutted orbiter who always snarks up and is offended over anything involving weight. Even another girl harmlessly-discussing Audrey Hepburn led her into to a rant about anorexia. I later led her through a discussion about male fitness, pointing out some of her favourites like Hugh Jackman and that big dude from True Blood, making sure I posted side on pictures that highlighted their tiny waists. After multiple statements from her discussing how 'fit' they were, and lots of self-deprecation from me about my 'roid gut', I then simply joked that shouldn't a healthy, active women 33 kilos lighter and 8 inches shorter than Jackman have a smaller waist than him? She said "I guess you're right", which is then when I posted Audrey Hepburn's picture, captioned "They thought I was anorexic but it turns out that I was just a short dancer."
Two weeks later she's 'liking' my post about the colloquial expression 'As full as a fat girl's undies.' How did I disarm her first? I said "Here's one my friend's mother says all the time."
I've trained a 'male feminist' friend out of constantly posting Jezebel articles, and have turned him to the extent that I've just Amazoned him McQueen's book. I get 'oh you...' playful slaps from the gays if I say anything critical of gay preciousness, but then steer them with humour into agreeing with me anyway. I'm sort of wondering what I actually have to do to piss them off.
Basically, game
everyone. Create
that vibe.
