Quote: (01-28-2014 07:33 PM)daddysanchez Wrote:
A cute girl I met like 2 weeks ago turned 21 today and earlier invited me to dinner. I can tell she likes me and stuff
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But what's the verdict guys? Am I trippin? Should I have gone? When she asked I said "I'll think about it." She wasn't feeling that answer obviously but I held my frame. I didn't wanna come off as too eager towards her offers, she's chasing.
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I don't know what them boys talking bout above me, but
YOU SHOULD HAVE WENT.
First things first though, DETAILS BROSEPH, DETAILS.
Who are you?
What's your game level like?
You describe yourself as introverted or extroverted? (i.e do crowds drain you, or enliven you?)
Who is she?
How'd you meet?
Who else was going?
Where was it gonna be?
Was there going to be an after party?
I would let this slide if we're talking about The Mainland Chinese Bible Study Group heading to dine on some down home Hunan cuisine, where you're the only non-Chinese person there.
But chances are this was some college age American chicks who are not afraid of liquor or dick.
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Here's how I read this situation
- girl
- likes you
- goes out of her way to invite you out
- to her birthday
- her 21st birthday
- where people that are 21 get drunk
- where girls like to give themselves permission to do crazy stuff on her birthday
Now if you're a young player without experience dealing with groups and dealing with your target - you probably don't want to put yourself in this situation.
I get that.
I understand that
That used to be me.
And I used to avoid the "meet my network of friends, co-workers, and family", and also "you're going to have to really try hard to get my attention on my special day"
On top of that, HER HATING ASS FRIENDS, might throw some salt in your game, and trip you up. Point out your flaws, decide you aren't good enough for the chick, push her on OTHER DUDES in your presence.
These aren't one off situations.
This is how she lives. This is how they ALL are.
She confers with her people all the time.
She's always with them, or in contact with them.
They ask for her advice, she asks for theirs.
Even in a pump and dump situation, like you're cavemanning some chick at the make out club, them HOES will interject like a mf'er.
You're not just fucking her, you're fucking them by extension.
The lone wolf chick? Low percentage of this happening, but when you come across them, high percentage of fucking...
That being said, even if your Guild is #12 on the World of Warcraft ranking, and you'd rather spend a night proving Foucalt's theorem, or organizing your porn folder by starlet and then by genre - you need to get group experience.
Gotta change your game outlook.
Every opportunity is
a) a possible bang,
b) a learning experience.
What you will do next time..
Chick gives you a hard invitation, "you should come out, i'd like to see you"
You get the intel on what's jumping off
- how we getting there
- where is it
- who gonna be there
- what is gonna happen afterwards
In your situation, your chick was feeling you, you kinda rejected her, and they leave the restaurant for a club, to get her drunk, and some smooth talking bartender or good dancer is able to take advantage of your sweet Princess Leia, while you Han Solo'ing at home.
So you shoulda said, cool, i'm with it.
Then you would take out some cash from the ATM.
Then since she's turning 21, you'd go buy some alcohol.
Enough for an impromptu afterparty, which could happen after the dinner, or after the 2nd event.
You'd hit your boys up, to see if they might want to fall through later, take some of these ho's off your hands.
Then, you'd get dope boy fresh in your nicest gear.
When you get to the dinner, greet all them broads (and dudes)
Establish how people are getting to and from.
Sit down across from, or next to your broad. (or sit next to the hottest broad if possible)
That's when your group game starts.
"Person A, describe person B"
"fuck marry kill"
Whatever group ice breaker/game you can think of.
Keep that shit going.
So now you're controlling the vibe, getting her friends to tell stories, creating attraction from the group. Hell, you might be able to pick off some of her friends.
Then you start seeding the after party in the conversation.
"I got you a gift, it's back at Casa de Sanchez"
But if they hit a club after the meal to get drunk - Night game with a warm target!
If she's kinda bitchy, walk in the with bevy of beauties and use them as social proof.
This is an opportunity, not an obstacle.
And this is an opportunity that will continue to present itself. You will never not have to deal with this issue.
"folks from the job"
"my cousins are in town"
"it's girls night out, but I want you there"
The advanced move here is not just wow her friends and get the birthday bang, but to scope how she interacts with her friends. They could be some ratchet ass broads and they'll bring out her ratchet ass demeanor.
WIA
