Quote: (11-18-2016 07:28 AM)Hazaer Wrote:
Quote: (11-17-2016 11:59 PM)LeoneVolpe Wrote:
When it comes to girls, it's best to adopt an abundance mentality. If you text her and she doesn't text back, keep right on gaming the other girls in your pipeline (no pun intended). Once you've made your way through your stable of spinning plates, you can choose whether or not you want to try again with a "restart text."
I don't see anything wrong with trying a few times to get something going, but after that you'll just look desperate.
What is your restart text? Would it matter if we explicitly mention drinking? On the other hand, it might sound weird to ask her to come over to listen to some music on a friday night.
Maybe just 'Wanna chill?' What has worked best for you?
Cheers
So, before I get into what to say in a restart text, here are some of the most common scenarios you'd be sending a restart text in the first place:
. She flakes on the first date
Like Roosh says, "If a girl flakes on date one then you have a miniscule chance of ever getting her out." It's true. If she can't be bothered to make the first date, you're most likely dead in the water. You can try shooting her a restart text if you want, it doesn't hurt to try but the chances of converting it to a bang are slim-to-none.
. You've hung out before, but she flakes on a subsequent date
People make time for the things that are important to them. If at any point she flakes, it obviously isn't ideal. The real question is whether she's flaking before or after a bang. If it's before, it's not a good sign. Not until you've had sex with a girl at least three times will she "invest" in you in any appreciable way. If it's after, you have a little more leeway for reasons I previously mentioned. Either way, what you should hope to receive in the event a girl must cancel, is for her to make you a
counteroffer.
Now before you get too excited, understand there are good and bad kinds of counteroffers. The good kind is generally specific (not open ended) while still seeming to express genuine interest. If she isn't free during the time of your initial suggestion, it's better she recommends another specific day than for her to suggest you two get together "some other time." A vague counteroffer is a bad counteroffer.
As Roosh also says, don't allow a girl to switch your date to an earlier time. If a change in timing must be made, only go for a later time not an earlier one. The last thing you want is for a girl to use you for free dinner/drinks only to "call it an early night" and end up over at some other guy's house later on to fuck him instead.
One way or another, whether you've had the chance to bang her out yet or not, it doesn't hurt to try and send a restart text.
It is wise, however, to recognize a restart text for what it is -- a last ditch effort to get something going. When it comes to girls, if you're knocking yourself out trying to make something work, it's probably not worth it. There are far too many chicks out there who will reply to get too caught up worrying about the ones who don't. Having said that, should you find yourself wondering about what to say in a restart text, I make the following suggestions:
. Don't spend too much time worrying about what to say. You'll feel pretty stupid if you spend thirty minutes crafting the "perfect" reply only to never hear back from her. So, don't overthink it.
. Don't make it too simple, something like a "Hey stranger" is too easy to ignore outright. I find it's better if you ask some kind of question.
. Some of the best restart texts, in my opinion, involve inviting her to do something you were already planning on doing. That way, if she wants to join, great! If not, you were still going to have fun anyway.