Quote: (11-02-2013 07:13 PM)Wayout Wrote:
As I mentioned before I took a huge leap of faith towards positive changes. I hope to accomplish change in the attitude and become more positive in life. The second objective is finally to get laid…hopefully more than once…hopefully more than with one woman.
I am in Miami beach right now, staying here for another week before taking off and flying to London. So far it’s been pretty challenging to keep positive attitude – Miami beach is a gians sausage fest and pussy worshiping is in full force. Women on the beach get approached about every 10-15 minutes and get mad attention. I set close to a 3 set thinking maybe I can start a conversation with them.,but chickened out. Instead I got to listen to about 5 guy’s spiel…Yes, five guys approached them in 2 hours. Some stayed in the set for 15-20 min and then conversation died off and they left. What I don’t understand is why guys come in with pretty boring conversation consisting with “where you from” and “what are you plans for tonight” and still get some interest from the girls. I’ve been part of PUA scene for years and my convo skills are top notch – yet I get pretty cold reactions and no interest whatsoever. Is it all about the looks nowdays? Am I ugly? That can’t be because I get eye fucked all the time from older women and gays. But yes I am short.
Keeping positive was hard. I went Salsa dancing to Yuka lounge on Friday. It was suppose to THE spot in Miami. I love dancing and was looking forward to this night. Alas, there was only ONE woman in the whole place,the rest were guys dancing by themselves. I mean I am used to shitty ratios in the US…but one girl in the whole joint? It made me think how mad I was at women because I NEED them for something I really like to do…dancing and sex.
I am staying in a hostel – cool place to meet girls and people in general. But Jesus Christ – every girl is swarmed by several guys trying to get her attention and get somewhere with her. It just looked so pathetic from the outside…
I tried a bit to talk to some girls but my negative attitude was affecting me. I am sitting in the lobby of a “party” hostel – 12 guys and no girls. FML? I need change..
Pic from the hostel:
Keep in mind subcommunications are key (ex. body language, voice tonality, eye contact, your vibe), it's not what you say as much as it is HOW you say it. Shitty ratios are about as fun as a bag of dicks but you gotta work with what you've got. Based on the impression I got from your post I just quoted, I feel like you need a jolt of inspiration, it seems like you're getting way into your own head and going down that negative, self-defeating spiral.
Remember that you don't need anyone for your own happiness. Your happiness and mood is 100% internally generated. If you have even a shred of neediness in your bones that will fuck your game up.
Kudos for taking the leap however, you're ahead of 95% of the guys out there, but remember that this is a journey of self development and that shit doesn't happen overnight. Also realize that there's nothing holding you back from being the man you want to be, it's all in your head.
Who cares what other guys are doing? It's her lucky day that you decided to talk to her to see if she's interesting and worth getting to know. You are different. You know where you're going, she can come along for the ride or not, either way the train's still leaving.
You'd probably benefit from going out with a more experienced wing to help you get comfortable and light a bit of a fire under your ass to get you going.
Try chatting up cashiers, waitresses, etc. -- girls who have to talk to you and whose job it is to talk to you, if it makes you feel more comfortable just to get the ball rolling.
Realize that you're always going to have a comfort zone and that your goal is to always be progressively expanding it.
If you only do what you've always done, you'll only get what you've always gotten.