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07-29-2016, 11:16 PM
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08-02-2016, 10:29 AM
Other than what WIA already gave you (which is brilliant advice but will take discipline to follow), I also suggest this:
Whenever you feel like you are working on a girl that will push your buttons, make it a point to go out and hit on several other cuter girls, just for the singular purpose of providing your mind with a "fake" sense of abundance.
I know its not like you can pull hot girls out of your ass, but its actually easier when you tell yourself "I will get this girl if and only if I have other girls". Kinda like a reverse self-fulfilling prophecy that works in your favor.
It's a safety fall back mind trick if you are afraid your game is slipping. And it tend to, when you meet a girl you really like.
When I met my LTR, I had to force myself to go night game (which I hate) just to have a few pots stewing while I was working on her. Of course, she wasn't easy to get and the night I was supposed to go out with her, I took out another girl instead. When I did see her again I was totally chill, whereas if I did not have a fall back plan my mood would be dark and bad game would slip.
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08-09-2016, 06:33 AM
I actually think she is doing all these IOIs to make me approach her like a beta again. She tries to hold eye contact whenever possible and make runs past my desk maybe hoping I notice her. As part of our uni study involves experimental work, we are given desks. This might be a crazy suggestion but what do you guys think of going up to her and asking her to come to my place for some music.. Ice cream, wine and Bang! If this makes sense in this case, how would you go about it as indirectly as possible?
Very outrageous game but would it work? Looking at what Bang says, I got to take her out on a date and escalate which would be like what I did the last time ie. asking her out and being rejected. Daygame suggests going indirect and asking her if her coffee is any good and getting her number. I have already chatted with her at length in the previous episode and got her number which i have since deleted. I feel that I got to bring something totally different to the table to jolt her into either agreeing or forgetting about me entirely if there is to be any kind of progress.
WIA, Dalaran your suggestions are good but our social circles are quite different so introducing her to another guy or talking about a girl she knows would be tough but still very remotely possible. Being in a graduate student environment, most of the chicks already are in relationships and have their own social circle so its a very individualistic culture here in grad school.
At the moment, its her trying to connect and I just go by not pretending to noticing her much. A pretty tiring game with her putting herself out there to be noticed and me trying to not look too needy while not looking to actively close her out and hence looking butt hurt.
I have been asking a lot about this scenario but this is the first time I have gotten this level of strange interest. I keep asking myself if she is just so desperate to put all the betas in her vicinity in the friendzone.
Thanks for the replies.
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09-13-2016, 08:45 AM
This thread has been focussing on cases where there has already been some interest from girls. What about those initial approaches where the guy has been immediately shot down upon opening?
The obvious answer is to go and meet other girls. However, with the same girl, how to we interact one on one especially if we get the chance to meet her again to turn the situation around? Assume that there are no other girls around to DHV or tease her.
Thank you for the opinions.
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02-12-2017, 04:05 PM
Not sure where to put this but I had one of the most frustrating rejections of my life after something that seemed to be going well so I just wanted to write it out and leave it for you guys to judge.
I went out to this bar last night pretty early and was waiting for my friend to show up. I'm sitting at this table alone texting him because he's lost and these two girls walk in and one starts eyeing me. This approach really came to me more than anything so I let the two girls sit at my table and we start talking. The main one I was talking to immediately gave me signs that she was a little crazy (even kind of admitted it after teasing her) but she seemed very keen to me and the other one said at some point in the conversation that she "wanted to get weird tonight".
Everything was going well and I bought the first round for her and her friend on the condition that she pays for my next drink. After that, things start getting better and we get to physical flirting. Next round approaches and I can tell she's trying to shit test me by getting out of the deal using flirtation and a pretty face but I wasn't having it. I basically responded by saying I have to hold you to your word and that a woman is only as good as her word. At the time, this worked great as she kissed me and gave me her credit card to buy us drinks.
This is where things went south. To try to get even on the bill, I was going to buy my friend one beer as well. She saw me about to do it, flipped a shit on me and turned cold immediately. Literally one beer made her go from all over me to getting up and leaving. I knew she was a bit crazy but it made me realize how warped female logic can be, especially by the crazy ones.
I approached a handful more of chicks after that but I knew I probably lost the easiest opportunity I had that night so it effected my mood/game on the other girls. There's only a handful of cold night game approaches that I have felt a hard rejection for but the bigger L's and missed opportunities are things that I have a hard time getting out of my head. I think about them almost as much as my lays/girlfriends.
As far back as I could remember, I always wanted to be a player.
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