[NYC_HipsterDouchebag]

Recently had a classmate pass away due to a car accident (most likely drunk driving involved) over the past weekend. Girls on facebook have been blowing up my feed with pictures of the girl (most of them at least 3 years old) saying all kinds of generic rest in peace kind of stuff making it seem like they were really close. Am I wrong to feel disgusted and ashamed of these displays of attention whoring? I mean I can't say anything because it's truly sad and someone passed away but it just seems fake and really low to use a tragedy as a form of attention and "likes." I mean how low can you get? Or am I just imagining things? When someone truly close to me passed away (suicide) I didn't say anything and pretty much refused to even talk about it with anyone it hurt so much. Has anyone else seen this happen? How off am I?

[Therapsid]

(07-22-2013 10:43 PM)NYC_HipsterDouchebag Wrote:  

Recently had a classmate pass away due to a car accident (most likely drunk driving involved) over the past weekend. Girls on facebook have been blowing up my feed with pictures of the girl (most of them at least 3 years old) saying all kinds of generic rest in peace kind of stuff making it seem like they were really close. Am I wrong to feel disgusted and ashamed of these displays of attention whoring? I mean I can't say anything because it's truly sad and someone passed away but it just seems fake and really low to use a tragedy as a form of attention and "likes." I mean how low can you get? Or am I just imagining things? When someone truly close to me passed away (suicide) I didn't say anything and pretty much refused to even talk about it with anyone it hurt so much. Has anyone else seen this happen? How off am I?

This is what girls do. It's partly attention whoring and the product of cultural change and the rise of social media, but it's not only that. They feel this kind of tragedy in the gut in a different way than guys. In my opinion it comes down to cognitive differences between men and women.

Whereas guys are visual creatures, girls respond to words and the thoughts that words conjure up. Have you ever started describing something gross to a girl, like say the time you accidentally ate something rotten or about waking up in your apartment to find roaches everywhere, and have her respond with physical revulsion, begging you to stop? Most guys would be disgusted by these things, but only if they were actually there and saw them firsthand.

There's something similar at work in how guys and girls will respond differently to tragedies like this. A guy would respond immediately if they were there when the car accident happened. But most girls will also feel the incident at a more visceral level just from hearing it second-hand.

[Suits]

(07-22-2013 10:54 PM)Therapsid Wrote:  

This is what girls do. It's partly attention whoring and the product of cultural change and the rise of social media, but it's not only that. They feel this kind of tragedy in the gut in a different way than guys. In my opinion it comes down to cognitive differences between men and women.

Whereas guys are visual creatures, girls respond to words and the thoughts that words conjure up. Have you ever started describing something gross to a girl, like say the time you accidentally ate something rotten or about waking up in your apartment to find roaches everywhere, and have her respond with physical revulsion, begging you to stop? Most guys would be disgusted by these things, but only if they were actually there and saw them firsthand.

There's something similar at work in how guys and girls will respond differently to tragedies like this. A guy would respond immediately if they were there when the car accident happened. But most girls will also feel the incident at a more visceral level just from hearing it second-hand.

True, but I don't think that this explains the shameless Facebook attention whoring.

Women love drama. They are unable to have fun by themselves and have to make a big deal about everything.

This is why many women that I have dated have felt the need to drag out our breakups.

If contact end between us, they'll be forced to endure the emotional experience internally and that just isn't as much fun as sharing a poor experience with someone else, so they'll keep sending me texts about how important it is to remember the good times. Once all the emotional drama end, they are bored, so they have to drag it out.

For women, everything is an event. Its not good enough the women's shoes are half off...its gotta be an event.

Since you can only have so many funeral proceedings, these mindless females are using Facebook to generate as much excitement and drama as possible following this girls death.

Every woman is narcissistic, which means they believe that they are awesome and awesome people don't have boring lives, so they need to this remind themselves about how important their existence is and why they aren't responsible for all the terrible decisions they make.

This way they can have fun saying things like,

"I'm just going through a lot right now, I don't really have time to hang out (even though my schedule is completely open and I'll be watching Sex in the City reruns for most of the week)."

"It's been really tough for my family lately. It's been really hard. (Please pay attention to me. Please notice me and invest in me emotionally)."

"I don't know. I've just been really busy with everything to do with my friend dying (like posting a million times on Facebook). I'm don't think I'll be able to get my book report in on time."

[Dusty]

Me me me me me

[Tuthmosis]

(07-23-2013 01:00 AM)Suits Wrote:  

Women love drama.

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For women, everything is an event. Its not good enough the women's shoes are half off...its gotta be an event.

Agree with all of this. Whenever there's a "tragedy" (however large or small) who do you think holds "candle-light vigils" and makes a big to-do about it? Chicks. Facebook has just made this easier by orders of magnitude. The lazy, but still drama-craving, girl of today never has to leave the comfort of her laptop (or iPhone) to get her fix.

White girls are especially good at giving news photographers the drama money-shot they want. How many times have you seen the scene below whenever something goes wrong?

If you've ever seen the movie World's Greatest Dad, you see an amazing (though subtle) commentary on this phenomenon. In other words, we're not alone in observing this.

   

[Basil Ransom]

That's the old joke about Hollywood funerals - people get up to say a eulogy about the newly dead, and it turns into some story about the speaker only tangentially related to the guy who died, making the funeral just another platform for attention whoring like you see here.

Totally agree - it turns the loss of someone into a complaint about how your feelings are hurt and that's why it matters. Which is the height of solipsism.

[Beyond Borders]

I feel you man. When I was younger I used to get nauseated about all the fakers who came out of the woodwork to attention whore when friends or peers died too. Not just women but men too. I've gotten to the point where I just expect it now.

[samsamsam]

I know the Trayvon Martin thing has been talked about a great deal on another thread. But there are so many people who look fucking ridiculous in their hoodies. A few blacks I have spoken to hate these posers because they don't really feel the way blacks feel. They just want to be part of the seen.

Edit: And if those chicks in the above pic were so deep in loss - you'd think they would dress more respectfully.

[WesternCancer]

There was a guy in my hometown who offed himself because he had oneitis for a chick and she friendzoned him.

After he died she changed her facebook picture once a day to one of them and would make constant statuses about how good of friends they were. Even then it was sickening.

[Suits]

(07-23-2013 02:53 PM)WesternCancer Wrote:  

There was a guy in my hometown who offed himself because he had oneitis for a chick and she friendzoned him.

After he died she changed her facebook picture once a day to one of them and would make constant statuses about how good of friends they were. Even then it was sickening.

Did she know why he killed himself?

[A War You Cannot Win]

(07-23-2013 02:53 PM)WesternCancer Wrote:  

There was a guy in my hometown who offed himself because he had oneitis for a chick and she friendzoned him.

After he died she changed her facebook picture once a day to one of them and would make constant statuses about how good of friends they were. Even then it was sickening.

Hahahahaha hahahahaha.


Wow. That is some truly warped stuff right there.


Lessons:

Lack of game can literally be deadly.

Women may not be above using the recently deceased beta orbiter to feed her need for validation and attention.

[LeBeau]

You see this with celebrity deaths too. My buddy aptly calls it "death dick riding".

Guys and girls who couldn't name 2 Whitney Houston songs acting like it affected them on a deeply personal level.

Probably the worst example was when Bin Laden was killed.

Everyone was ignorantly posting a fake MLK quote so they could attention whore about their own higher morality or how "disturbed" they were that people could be celebrating someone's death.

Quote:

“I mourn the loss of thousands of precious lives, but I will not rejoice in the death of one, not even an enemy. Returning hate for hate multiplies hate, adding deeper darkness to a night already devoid of stars. Darkness cannot drive out darkness: only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate: only love can do that.” –Martin Luther King Jr.

Which of course, like most internet trends that appeal to emotion and self-righteousness (i.e. KONY), turned out to be false:

http://newsfeed.time.com/2011/05/03/afte...oes-viral/

You also see the reverse, when someone is in the limelight, other people can't wait to talk about how they're connected to said famous figure (even minutely) or how they were personally inspired to do _______ (this is where they conveniently talk their resume).

It can also be considered another example of rationalization since "feeling is believing" for so many people (mostly women, of course).