Quote: (05-30-2013 09:47 PM)xsplat Wrote:
I'm of the school of thought that it's much easier to work on the external life structure than the internal method acting.
I think we must work on
BOTH, at the same time.
Of the two, I think
"external lifes structure" is way more important.
Don't just build your "game", build an attractive and fulfilling
LIFE.
When you are living a life full of passion and beauty, your confidence, body language, facial expressions, and mannerisms will reflect this beauty and passion.
You won't have to
"fake it til you make it" because you will have already
"made it".
Girls will sense this power within you. They will see it in the way you carry yourself. It will be sub-communicated.
Quote: (05-30-2013 09:47 PM)xsplat Wrote:
the support networks of business, male friends, living spaces, and so on. These support networks are external, and will show up naturally in body language and actions and speech. Much easier than trying to create the body language and speech first, and then trying to create the externalities out of that.
I mostly agree.
But, I will say that some people are not in position to create the
"external support system" that you describe.
They are young, in college, poor, etc.
They are not yet in position to drive the car they want, buy the house they want, dress in the clothes they want, live the life that they want.
So, what should they do?
Obviously, they need to work hard to improve their life.
And, at the same time, they should start to behave with an irrational level of confidence. They should begin to behave as though they are already successful. They must learn and practice how to present themselves to women. They should
NOT wait 5 years until they graduate college, get a job, get a house, etc.
They should start to craft a better version of themselves NOW. Both in terms of their "external support network" AND their ability to present themselves in an attractive way.
Quote: (05-30-2013 09:51 PM)xsplat Wrote:
For me, being gregarious and wanting to dance in public and sing and tell jokes is closely tied in to the support architecture in my life.
Me too, I don't act happy because I want girls to think I'm happy. I act happy because I really am happy.
My happiness is a result of my lifestyle and my "support network" of friends, family, location, lifestyle, work, play, hobbies, habits, etc.
It's hard to fake this.
My game is a reflection of my life.
Quote: (05-30-2013 09:51 PM)xsplat Wrote:
I know some idealists want to keep it all in the head
Yes, I see a lot of this.
"Just act more confident", "just be more bold", etc.
This can be tough to do all in your head. It's better when its based in
ACTION. Don't just mentally try act to more confident -- Take action that will literally cause your body to experience more confidence. Approach 100 girls, fight at your local boxing gym, become a great dancer, become a great singer, create the lifestyle that you want.
This will cause an organic spike in confidence which will reflect in your vibe.
Temporary spikes of confidence can help also, like alcohol or adrenaline, but it's always better if your confidence is rooted in your life experience, not in how many drinks you had.
Quote: (05-30-2013 09:51 PM)xsplat Wrote:
I'm happier and share it more when the structure of my life supports it.
Yes, your life should support your game.
You can not be a piece of shit who is also charming to women. Years will pass, you will get girls, but, you will remain a piece of shit. Eventually, you will have to deal with this.
Quote: (05-30-2013 09:51 PM)xsplat Wrote:
Good friends
Good money
Good environment
Good health and fitness
Good girlfriends who love you
These things make for good frame.
Well said.
A real frame is stronger than a fake frame.
Quote: (05-31-2013 12:56 AM)xsplat Wrote:
There is a sexual kung-fu
Quote: (05-31-2013 12:00 AM)iknowexactly Wrote:
The ones who are getting laid have some kind of glow, seem more relaxed, and the ones that aren't seem nervous and frightened.
1) Does any one else experience this?
2) What the hell does it come from?
I have also experienced this. I explain it as a heightened sense of sexual awareness that is the result of having a sexual experience. When we have sex, our sexual radar gets turned on. We are more aware of the sexual cues in our environment. We see almost everything in a more sexual way.
Maybe, it evolutionary?
When our dick got hard, we had to be very aware of our environment to find a mate that was also "in heat"..?
Just a theory..
Quote: (05-31-2013 12:07 AM)xsplat Wrote:
It sounds like you'd be interested in learning and practicing Chi-Kung. You'll get your answer through that.
I would love for you to summarize how Chi-Kung explains how are able to sex who is having sex and who isn't.
Sound very interesting.
Great to hear your thoughts on this Xsplat!
How this all relates to this thread is something like this...
More notches = boost in confidence = girls can see it in your behavior.
And..
An awesome life = boost in confidence = girls can see it in your behavior.
So, I guess the the final answer is..
Make your life awesome and also work on your game.
Quote: (05-30-2013 02:11 PM)thegmanifesto Wrote:
Success Breeds Success.