[soup]

One way too last more is to let your girlfriend use her strap-on on you and then to chase it with a rubber fist.

[AneroidOcean]

(03-28-2013 09:28 AM)tenderman100 Wrote:  

Great post...and emphasis mine.

I am 61. I don't ever want to take viagra. And I haven't.

As Gandt says so well, you must be "still" mentally.

Here's show I do it. I have fucked a lot of women. A pussy, ANY pussy, feels kinda the same, right? The moistness, the heat, the slipperiness.

When I fuck a woman for the first time -- which is always the event when you CAN come too soon, as opposed to the woman whose body you're familiar with -- I think "It's a pussy like all the others." I say to myself, "Keep the sensation--embrace the feeling, the heat, the wetness."

So, when I first enter a woman, I will often bury my head in the nape of her neck, so I DON"T see her, I don't see her newness. Instead, paradoxically, I just concentrate on the fact that I am inside a pussy -- like all other pussies. It takes a few minutes...and I actually think hard about what I am feeling -- it's CONSCIOUS feeling. "Oh, this is the way it feels...I can sustain this."

And that's when I am over the proverbial hump. I can now get active. I can now create the variety of movements, pounding, thrusting, slow steady pile driver. And now I can look at her directly. I look in her eyes, and my face says, "Sweetheart I am going to pound you into a gelatinous mass of orgasmic flesh." And that's what I do.

But also keep in mind, having sex is not just about fucking. Take a break. Fuck her, then rub her clit, and stick your fingers inside, -- kiss her deeply, slap her face with you cock, eat her pussy. Give her the smorgasbord of sensations.

Give her fantastic physical passion by showing powers of concentration. All women will interpret that concentration as devotion.

And it all boils down to the difference between men and women. Women want to lose control. They want to relinquish their bodies to the sensations -- and that's why in the end, deep down, they KNOW they have to be submissive. As one of my harem has said to me, "I have never been as open as I am with you." Open. That's code for "I submit to you."

You as a man, in contrast, are in CONTROL. For you sex HAS to be about power. About being able to be "mentally still." So when an hour has passed, and she's come two or three times, and you've still got gas in the tank, she is YOURS. You have her.

And Gandt is right. 95% of the men out there can't do this. Oh, sure, they've watched porn, and THEORETICALLY believe it can be done, but they can't do it. They slide it in there and POP! they are done, because they let the excitement control them, rather than control the excitement.

Control. Power. Being in the act, but above it at the same time.

GREAT post (and by Gandt too). I've never really had a problem going a bit longer than your average guy, but to truly extend it takes mental resolve (as published studies have shown, most men don't last very long in bed/sex isn't that long for more people). Like anything else, your mental resolve, not your initial failures is what will bring you to succeed. I've almost always dated girls in better shape than me, and many with strong PC muscles, so it's been a challenge, but regulating your breathing, regulating your body temperature (if I overheat or get too cold my boner is long gone), and keeping your mental focus are all key things.

What I realized a long time ago is that even for men, orgasms are tied into your mind. That's why it's YOUR job to get yourself off, just like it's the girl's job to get herself off. You each play a role in each other's satisfaction, but ultimately neither of you are going to get each other off alone, each person has to have the right mental state to be able to get off or be turned on/fuck for a long time.

[King Solomon]

there's a lot of TL;DR here, so forgive me if this isn't covered, but

I learned to not bust for at least the first ten minutes, and then get her from behind and let yourself bust one...

and then just keep going!

If you do this, esp if you focus how hot/sexy she is, you can unleash and sail right through that orgasm, and then, without stopping at all, you keep after it and in a few minutes you realize you could bust again if you want to, but now you no longer NEED to, enabling you to proceed to destroy the pussy as hard as you want without having to 'stop' or hold back because you are too sensitive etc.

This technique precludes all others and none of the other bullshit here will be necessary if you push to master this

Bonus: once you've got it down, you may even be able to keep going after the second one.

My record is 4, but I'm an old man. You young bucks- stop being a pussy and just keep hammering!

[King Solomon]

there's a lot of TL;DR here, so forgive me if this isn't covered, but

I learned to not bust for at least the first ten minutes, and then get her from behind and let yourself bust one...

and then just keep going!

If you do this, esp if you focus how hot/sexy she is, you can unleash and sail right through that orgasm, and then, without stopping at all, you keep after it and in a few minutes you realize you could bust again if you want to, but now you no longer NEED to, enabling you to proceed to destroy the pussy as hard as you want without having to 'stop' or hold back because you are too sensitive etc.

This technique precludes all others and none of the other bullshit here will be necessary if you push to master this

Bonus: once you've got it down, you may even be able to keep going after the second one.

My record is 4, but I'm an old man. You young bucks- stop being a pussy and just keep after it!

[_GQ_]

Thing is, you can't really do that rawdog unless she's on the pill, unless you want a kid. Even if you pull out and cum, you should wash your cock after emancipating and take a piss to get rid of any swimmers.

[King Solomon]

oh yeah. That shit doesnt work with condoms at all. For that I recommend just busting early and telling her its bc she feels so good (she does, doesnt she?) and then take a breather, have a drink of water, and then kiss her some more. Your second wood will be far more invincible

[MidniteSpecial]

Find a 7 with a loose hole. Practice on her.

Every time you feel like your gonna bust pull out. Get soft. Enter with Mr softee. Get hard again, bang her til you feel like your gonna bust and stop. Repeat the process. Do this for 30 mins to an hour for 30 days. Day thirty you will be healed of premature ejaculations.

[lurker]

OK, there is one trick that actually works. When you're about to jizz, your balls pull up high and tight against your body. When you feel yourself about to blow, pull them down and away from the base of your shaft. Seriously. It will give you another couple minutes each time.

And fuck more.

[AlphaEnchantment]

Ive heard almost all of these tips before. Ive read many places that you should practice kegel exercises like when your takin a piss stop midstream etc.. I found that actually the opposite works.

Instead of flexing your kegel muscles like to stop pissing I actually try to relax them completely and if anything push just slightly almost like Im trying to take a shit or like your flexing your lower abs. Ejaculating is a reflex and when you learn to not have your body reflex against what your feeling you will last much longer. its like learning to not react if someone were to tickle you. you learn to control the reflex of your body by not reacting to the stimulus.

you notice too when your about to bust or when your getting closer that you tend to tense up and squeeze your kegels which then just brings you even closer so like I previously stated you gotta learn to relax and not tense up and squeeze the muscles

[BurnFirst]

You can also have an orgasm without actually cumming by pressing hard on the spot right behind your balls. You should be able to keep going if you do this but I have no idea how safe it is... I tried it a few times a long time ago and it did work.

[InternationPlayboy]

When I was working two jobs, for some reason it would take me forever to bust a nut. It was crazy. I would be fucking a solid 8, top 3 best bangs I've had, and not be able to bust unless I turned her around doggy style and pound the fuck out of her to the point where it was hurting her, and even then it would take a little while. I'm not exaggerating when I say I would fuck for an hour or two before I would bust. After that I would wait a little bit and be able to go for a couple more hours. I made this girls pussy fucked up. It turned all red and raw the next day. I don't know why, but I noticed it when I was working really hard and I was pretty tired often. Now that I've chilled out on working, I bust faster, but I still have high endurance. I love it because I love long ass sex sessions. The times it sucks is when you are drunk and you just want to bust or when you want a blowjob. The girls usually get tired of bobbing on your nob after a while. Good thing my girl will go as long as it takes, she must have a pretty strong jaw

[TheCool]

Or be proactive

If your at a cool chicks place and you know your about to stuff.

Go to the bathrooom..rub one out then go back and chill

When its time to stuff your already on your 2nd wind

Works like a charm

[gandt]

(03-29-2013 04:12 AM)InternationPlayboy Wrote:  

When I was working two jobs, for some reason it would take me forever to bust a nut. It was crazy. I would be fucking a solid 8, top 3 best bangs I've had, and not be able to bust unless I turned her around doggy style and pound the fuck out of her to the point where it was hurting her, and even then it would take a little while. I'm not exaggerating when I say I would fuck for an hour or two before I would bust. After that I would wait a little bit and be able to go for a couple more hours. I made this girls pussy fucked up. It turned all red and raw the next day. I don't know why, but I noticed it when I was working really hard and I was pretty tired often. Now that I've chilled out on working, I bust faster, but I still have high endurance. I love it because I love long ass sex sessions. The times it sucks is when you are drunk and you just want to bust or when you want a blowjob. The girls usually get tired of bobbing on your nob after a while. Good thing my girl will go as long as it takes, she must have a pretty strong jaw

Congrats

[Low Status Beta]

look into incrasing your HRV (Heart Rate Variability)

[TheRookie]

Best thing is to have the chick blow you for Round 1 and then go at it again 10-60 minutes later.

Have also noticed a chick will not care how long you last as long as you ravage her good and hard. Give it to her good and bust lustily the first time around even if after only three minutes. If she is hot and feminine you will be hard again in no time for Round 2. Bottom line, don't worry about it so much. Don't be tentative even if you are about to bust. If she can't get you up for Round 2 she doesn't deserve it anyway.

Long sessions are only fun if they come naturally and are unforced. Forget about pleasing the chick and start thinking about ravaging her, for 4 or 40 minutes.

[Millz]

When pornstars take out their dick and start slapping it against a chick what they are really doing is putting a tight grip on their penis with stop the build sensation of them cumming.. Doing this a few times during sex help you resume back to base level where you actually dont feel like your going to cum

[Lothario]

(03-28-2013 05:06 AM)gandt Wrote:  

I whole heartedly recommend anyone who struggles with being quick in bed to take up meditation. The times I am able to last longest is when no additional thoughts are going through my head.

To best describe what this means, you can achieve mental stillness if the only thing you have in your mind is "I wonder what my next thought is going to be?" This is from the book "the power of now".

Admittedly this is hard for even me to achieve but when I do, I find myself fucking like an absolute rockstar leaving the girl squirming. Being 100% sexually immersed in the girl > than any quick fix.

Another big part is not getting so mentally "worked up" before you are going to have sex. This also ties back to mental stillness.

Bumping the thread as I just gave Gandt + 1 for this post.

On Mental Stillness, De ja vu brother, I can remember once in my life for 2 hrs not a single thought crossed my mind. I was waiting for my Flight and the night before I had banged times 4, thoroughly satisfying session and in the morning had an excellent breakfast eggs, meats , cheese of different kind and great coffee and went to the airport.

Sex and Good Food created mental stillness for me, I need to read that book you recommended " The power of now " to get mental stillness prior to sex as well.

[daddysanchez]

I heard the deeper u go the longer u last. I'm guessing because its tighter around the opening

[Sp5]

What John Updike wrote into one of the Rabbit novels: the main character Rabbit Angstrom would think about baseball to distract himself when he got close.

You could substitute your preferred national sport for baseball.

Getting older also helps.

[Smooth Operator]

Take her in the ass first. When you fuck the pussy thereafter you'll last much longer as it is less tight

[Taz]

The best thing that has worked for me is trying to concentrate 100% on the present moment. I empty my mind and concentrate on everything that's going on, like how good she looks, smells and feels. I notice that when I focus on how much I'm enjoying myself, I can last as long as I want.

It's when I start worrying about lasting longer or using avoidance methods that I start finishing too early or losing my erection. Apart from this, any technique that takes my mind of the act of sex itself, makes me enjoy sex less and makes me wonder if there's any point in having sex at all.

Another thing I do is maintain the mindset that I'm the leader and she's the follower. This puts me in control, meaning I care less about whether I finish early or not, which funnily enough helps me to last longer.

[gandt]

(12-24-2013 08:10 PM)Lothario Wrote:  

(03-28-2013 05:06 AM)gandt Wrote:  

I whole heartedly recommend anyone who struggles with being quick in bed to take up meditation. The times I am able to last longest is when no additional thoughts are going through my head.

To best describe what this means, you can achieve mental stillness if the only thing you have in your mind is "I wonder what my next thought is going to be?" This is from the book "the power of now".

Admittedly this is hard for even me to achieve but when I do, I find myself fucking like an absolute rockstar leaving the girl squirming. Being 100% sexually immersed in the girl > than any quick fix.

Another big part is not getting so mentally "worked up" before you are going to have sex. This also ties back to mental stillness.

Bumping the thread as I just gave Gandt + 1 for this post.

On Mental Stillness, De ja vu brother, I can remember once in my life for 2 hrs not a single thought crossed my mind. I was waiting for my Flight and the night before I had banged times 4, thoroughly satisfying session and in the morning had an excellent breakfast eggs, meats , cheese of different kind and great coffee and went to the airport.

Sex and Good Food created mental stillness for me, I need to read that book you recommended " The power of now " to get mental stillness prior to sex as well.

Hey bud, just saw this now. Glad you found it useful. The book is a must read in my opinion. While the author is very extreme in how he practises "being in the now" it has very good lessons. You need to balance having that desire to improve and succeed (ie. wanting better for yourself) while enjoying the present moment. If you aren't enjoying the present moment then what the hell is life good for in the end?

Furthermore, another thing I am examining regarding lasting longer is something called "gratification delay". I have a theory that if someone is raised throughout childhood with a strong habit of delaying gratification (e.g. waiting until they are done their work to have a delicious snack) they will be better able to prolong sex and satisfying acts. Again, just a theory. But it makes sense in my head.

Right now I am trying to rewire my entire mind from childhood. I've noticed that I have a lot of bad habits that I want to correct.

Also looking into a 10 day meditation retreat. They are offered for free across the world. It is called Vissapana meditation I believe. 10 days long. You are asked to give a donation at the end. I will probably do it sometime soon. http://www.dhamma.org/en/

[JohnnyAppleSeeds]

Couple things I might be able to add to this conversation.

1, We are all generally brought up to view masturbation as wrong or at least something we do NOT want to be caught doing. I think it's safe to say we generally develop (poor) masterbation habits before we have our own place and this leads us to masturbate as quickly as possible to avoid being caught. If you masturbate take your time, practice your breathing and do not squeeze the tip of your dick as you masturbate. Figure yourself out and own the sensation.

2, "Better Sex Through Yoga". I got my hands on one of these dvd's a while back, I only did it a couple times but it puts you in touch with your pc muscles and how to relax them. You should have a massive hard-on so no need for your whole lower body to be tense as well, learn to relax.

I suppose I'm not saying anything radically different then what has already been said. But for me deep, rhythmic breathing while relaxing my pc muscles helps me control my orgasm, even to the point of lessening the quality of my erection if I'm too into it. I usually start off this way to get into a zone, it still feels good and I'm aware of the girl and how she's feeling but I'm owning the sensation by doing this. Don't be afraid to breath hard or grunt, my abdomen pushes against the chick while doing this depending on the position. Then once in the zone I'm usually ready to start pounding her hard and my grunts can get louder, even animalistic. At this point I usually don't care about being too loud, most I'll ever do is shove a bitches face in a pillow to muffle her.

Definitely agree with directing the actions. Even if she's on top control it by directing her with your hands on her hips or thrusting from bottom when appropriate.

[RexImperator]

I was thinking this thread could use some updating... I'm kinda new this whole sex thing.

[Meat Head]

Girl on top.

Bust quickly in first round and wait for round two.

Who cares if you come quickly? She should take it as a compliment.