[Chewbacon]

Pretty simple question. I know kegels help. Anything else? I know alcohol blunts the effects, but I'm scared now because i recently got whisky dick when i was trying to bang a virgin.

[guerrilla]

1) condoms, especially the ones with the numbing 'gel' like durex performax
2) there's a numbing gel called mandelay that works well, you rub it on, let it sit for 10 min, then rub it off if you're going raw
3) jerk off prior, pop a viagra so it reduces your refractory period

these are all cheats that dont address the real issue at its core, but we live in a cheating society these days.

[Chewbacon]

Does viagara actually increase endurance? I thought it just made ur dick harder.

[guerrilla]

if you bust a nut before, then take the viagra it does, cause you're desensitized from the first nut, and can get it up quickly.

if i know i have a marathon sex session I'll jerk off 20-30 min prior then pop a viagra, then i can go for 45 =60 minutes the first (actually, second) time, then 5-10 min refractory, then at it again till i pass out

but like i said, this is cheating, and im not too proud of it but its the only way i know of right now. lol

[Chewbacon]

good shit, helpful advice guerilla.

[Wayout]

Google : porn stars secrets. After doing some research back in the day I was able to last as long as I wanted ( 4 hours if I wanted)
One good trick is to take a deep breath and relax ( just for one second ) if you think you going to bust a nut soon.
You can always switch to eating pussy, getting a glass of water or any other activity if you need a break ( and you think you are about to nut )

[Spider]

start edging. That's helped me a little bit - look up 'edging for pe' on google, you'll find a bunch of good sources that teach you how to edge.

[Kickb]

Ive noticed that the past couple times that i have banged, ive been able to bang like a got damn clydesdale.

Pretty crazy when thinking back to only a year ago when i could barely stick it in without busting in ten seconds.

I think think it had to do with nerves and me pressing to not bust quickly. It is kind of similar to This game Javale McGee had a coule of years ago when was pressing so hard for a triple double.

[BarkChompson]

I'm now firmly in the camp of not giving a shit how long I last.

Sometimes I last an hour, sometimes 10-15 minutes, but usually it's a minute at most if the foreplay was good. And they still come back for more, which is all I care about.

I used to be all boo hoo and self conscious, and not caring doesn't make me last longer, but luckily I don't give a shit.

[madclassix]

I read a book that says blowing quickly is an evolutionary response related to the fight or flight instinct. By which I mean to say , if you're very nervous and tense your body considers it advantageous to fill 'er up as quickly as possible and get the fuck out of there before any possible danger comes your way. The solution given in the book and which has helped me is to deliberately focus on slowing your breathing, even counting if necessary (3sec in, 1 pause, 3sec out, 1 pause), be aware of tension in your body and deliberately don't tense. Also any positions where you can get the girl moving on your dick while you're not moving helps with this.

I still make sure to jack off before meeting up with a girl if it's been a while. It gives me peace of mind.

[Chewbacon]

Hmmm, I've been doing edging lately, as i'm on the NoFap diet.

I want to last long not because I care about the girl. it's really that i just enjoy long marathon sex, and I used to be able to do it back in the day. But that was when i first started banging girls, and I actually couldn't ejaculate during sex, which worked to my advantage.

[TheMan]

Endurance training at the gym / track. Do all-out-sprint / jog intervals.

That will increase your over all stamina.

Stop smoking if you do.

[Screwston]

Sounds stupid but I bust really fast if the lights are off. I try to focus on a flaw the girl has when I keep the lights on and it usually helps a lot. Every girl has something whether it's fucked off feet, a pimple on her ass, crooked tits.

[soup]

Here's the thing that I've noticed about lasting..

There's always an initial build-up of anxiety in most sexual encounters. This is good, because it makes sex hot- the sense of vulnerability.

Once you get over this hump, you can go for a while and things just feel normal.

Some tricks to get over the hump:

Don't fuck her fast. Go as slow as you need to go in order to hold your load. Then, slowly build up speed and intensity and make sure you are comfortable with it.

DO NOT let her control the tempo. It's got to be on your terms. Ignore her pleas to go faster etc. That can come later.

Your main focus should be on relaxing into it.

Then you get your groove and you have more control.

[Vicious]

When you're about to nut. Think of Lindsey West.

Just try not to kill yourself.

[gandt]

There are two methods of achieving your goal of lasting longer:

1. The Band-Aid Solution
2. The Long Haul
   

The Band-Aid Solution

This consists of the advice in aforementioned posts; beating off prior, viagra, drinking, thinking of disgusting thoughts, condoms, desensitizing gels, etc...

My post will not focus on that as that shit takes the pure natural fun out of sex and does not attack the root of the problem. How can you be as excited for sex when in the back of your mind you need to remember to beat it or pop a pill before you can actually enjoy a woman?

The Long Haul

There are indeed ways to achieve your goal of lasting longer more naturally. These types of solutions include; mental stillness, body relaxation, muscle control, physical fitness, proper technique, etc...

OP, allow me to guess what is going through your head when you have sex and do not last a long time. I would imagine that you are more concerned about "fuck I hope I don't last two seconds" than "I am going to make this woman cum over and over again by fucking her pussy good and hard". This brings me to my point of mental stillness.

I whole heartedly recommend anyone who struggles with being quick in bed to take up meditation. The times I am able to last longest is when no additional thoughts are going through my head.

To best describe what this means, you can achieve mental stillness if the only thing you have in your mind is "I wonder what my next thought is going to be?" This is from the book "the power of now".

Admittedly this is hard for even me to achieve but when I do, I find myself fucking like an absolute rockstar leaving the girl squirming. Being 100% sexually immersed in the girl > than any quick fix.

Another big part is not getting so mentally "worked up" before you are going to have sex. This also ties back to mental stillness.

Muscle control, Technique, etc... (PM if you want more info)

I am not going to go into details on all the exercises, routines, etc... But some things you can do include:

*Balancing your pelvic floor (kegels, reverse kegels, stretches)

*Specific deep penetrations and movements (I have an excellent video of this I can send you if you would like that goes through different sex motions that make you last longer and feel no different that other typical pounding motions to the girl)

Important

Allow yourself to be imperfect.

Everyone has to work at certain things. While some athletes are born 6'6 in height and can windmill a basketball through the hoop with insane force, others are born 5'5 and need to work harder to achieve the same amount of success.

SEX IS NO DIFFERENT

Don't listen to what your "friends" tell you about their sex life because most men are so trapped by their egos there is no possible way their ego will permit them to admit the truths about their mediocre sex life.

If you survey most men about their sex lives it is going to seem like you are surrounded by a bunch of porn stars.

If you really want to uncover the truth ask women about how lousy 95% of their lovers have been.

DON'T JUST TAKE MY WORD FOR IT! Seriously, go ask women and you will see that the MAJORITY of men are absolutely horrible in bed.

But do not use this as an excuse. Just recognize that this is something to be worked on, that you are not alone, and allow yourself to be imperfect.

Cheers and at gods speed...or not

[bojangles]

(03-28-2013 03:18 AM)houston Wrote:  

Sounds stupid but I bust really fast if the lights are off. I try to focus on a flaw the girl has when I keep the lights on and it usually helps a lot. Every girl has something whether it's fucked off feet, a pimple on her ass, crooked tits.

same with the light thing, but i've just not been bothered these days about how long i last to be honest and I've noticed I last longer, I just think about the actual act rather than be worried about when ill burst.

[Matt3B]

I always find that my second go on her shortly after finishing the first time will last at least 30-40 minutes.

[Screwston]

It also helps when I'm talking dirty and talking shit the whole time.

[gandt]

(03-28-2013 03:23 AM)soup Wrote:  

Here's the thing that I've noticed about lasting..

There's always an initial build-up of anxiety in most sexual encounters. This is good, because it makes sex hot- the sense of vulnerability.

Once you get over this hump, you can go for a while and things just feel normal.

Some tricks to get over the hump:

Don't fuck her fast. Go as slow as you need to go in order to hold your load. Then, slowly build up speed and intensity and make sure you are comfortable with it.

DO NOT let her control the tempo. It's got to be on your terms. Ignore her pleas to go faster etc. That can come later.

Your main focus should be on relaxing into it.

Then you get your groove and you have more control.

Fuckin' A. This is spot on advice also. For some of us the build up of excitement is just too intense and that translates into cumming quickly.

It can sometimes be hard to resist the girls please to fuck her quickly. Tell her to shut the hell up and wait

[tenderman100]

(03-28-2013 05:06 AM)gandt Wrote:  

The Long Haul

There are indeed ways to achieve your goal of lasting longer more naturally. These types of solutions include; mental stillness, body relaxation, muscle control, physical fitness, proper technique, etc...

OP, allow me to guess what is going through your head when you have sex and do not last a long time. I would imagine that you are more concerned about "fuck I hope I don't last two seconds" than "I am going to make this woman cum over and over again by fucking her pussy good and hard". This brings me to my point of mental stillness.

I whole heartedly recommend anyone who struggles with being quick in bed to take up meditation. The times I am able to last longest is when no additional thoughts are going through my head.

To best describe what this means, you can achieve mental stillness if the only thing you have in your mind is "I wonder what my next thought is going to be?" This is from the book "the power of now".

Admittedly this is hard for even me to achieve but when I do, I find myself fucking like an absolute rockstar leaving the girl squirming. Being 100% sexually immersed in the girl > than any quick fix.

Another big part is not getting so mentally "worked up" before you are going to have sex. This also ties back to mental stillness.

Muscle control, Technique, etc... (PM if you want more info)

I am not going to go into details on all the exercises, routines, etc... But some things you can do include:

*Balancing your pelvic floor (kegels, reverse kegels, stretches)

*Specific deep penetrations and movements (I have an excellent video of this I can send you if you would like that goes through different sex motions that make you last longer and feel no different that other typical pounding motions to the girl)

Important

Allow yourself to be imperfect.

Everyone has to work at certain things. While some athletes are born 6'6 in height and can windmill a basketball through the hoop with insane force, others are born 5'5 and need to work harder to achieve the same amount of success.

SEX IS NO DIFFERENT

Don't listen to what your "friends" tell you about their sex life because most men are so trapped by their egos there is no possible way their ego will permit them to admit the truths about their mediocre sex life.

If you survey most men about their sex lives it is going to seem like you are surrounded by a bunch of porn stars.

If you really want to uncover the truth ask women about how lousy 95% of their lovers have been.

DON'T JUST TAKE MY WORD FOR IT! Seriously, go ask women and you will see that the MAJORITY of men are absolutely horrible in bed.

But do not use this as an excuse. Just recognize that this is something to be worked on, that you are not alone, and allow yourself to be imperfect.

Cheers and at gods speed...or not

Great post...and emphasis mine.

I am 61. I don't ever want to take viagra. And I haven't.

As Gandt says so well, you must be "still" mentally.

Here's show I do it. I have fucked a lot of women. A pussy, ANY pussy, feels kinda the same, right? The moistness, the heat, the slipperiness.

When I fuck a woman for the first time -- which is always the event when you CAN come too soon, as opposed to the woman whose body you're familiar with -- I think "It's a pussy like all the others." I say to myself, "Keep the sensation--embrace the feeling, the heat, the wetness."

So, when I first enter a woman, I will often bury my head in the nape of her neck, so I DON"T see her, I don't see her newness. Instead, paradoxically, I just concentrate on the fact that I am inside a pussy -- like all other pussies. It takes a few minutes...and I actually think hard about what I am feeling -- it's CONSCIOUS feeling. "Oh, this is the way it feels...I can sustain this."

And that's when I am over the proverbial hump. I can now get active. I can now create the variety of movements, pounding, thrusting, slow steady pile driver. And now I can look at her directly. I look in her eyes, and my face says, "Sweetheart I am going to pound you into a gelatinous mass of orgasmic flesh." And that's what I do.

But also keep in mind, having sex is not just about fucking. Take a break. Fuck her, then rub her clit, and stick your fingers inside, -- kiss her deeply, slap her face with you cock, eat her pussy. Give her the smorgasbord of sensations.

Give her fantastic physical passion by showing powers of concentration. All women will interpret that concentration as devotion.

And it all boils down to the difference between men and women. Women want to lose control. They want to relinquish their bodies to the sensations -- and that's why in the end, deep down, they KNOW they have to be submissive. As one of my harem has said to me, "I have never been as open as I am with you." Open. That's code for "I submit to you."

You as a man, in contrast, are in CONTROL. For you sex HAS to be about power. About being able to be "mentally still." So when an hour has passed, and she's come two or three times, and you've still got gas in the tank, she is YOURS. You have her.

And Gandt is right. 95% of the men out there can't do this. Oh, sure, they've watched porn, and THEORETICALLY believe it can be done, but they can't do it. They slide it in there and POP! they are done, because they let the excitement control them, rather than control the excitement.

Control. Power. Being in the act, but above it at the same time.

[gandt]

(03-28-2013 09:28 AM)tenderman100 Wrote:  

(03-28-2013 05:06 AM)gandt Wrote:  

The Long Haul

There are indeed ways to achieve your goal of lasting longer more naturally. These types of solutions include; mental stillness, body relaxation, muscle control, physical fitness, proper technique, etc...

OP, allow me to guess what is going through your head when you have sex and do not last a long time. I would imagine that you are more concerned about "fuck I hope I don't last two seconds" than "I am going to make this woman cum over and over again by fucking her pussy good and hard". This brings me to my point of mental stillness.

I whole heartedly recommend anyone who struggles with being quick in bed to take up meditation. The times I am able to last longest is when no additional thoughts are going through my head.

To best describe what this means, you can achieve mental stillness if the only thing you have in your mind is "I wonder what my next thought is going to be?" This is from the book "the power of now".

Admittedly this is hard for even me to achieve but when I do, I find myself fucking like an absolute rockstar leaving the girl squirming. Being 100% sexually immersed in the girl > than any quick fix.

Another big part is not getting so mentally "worked up" before you are going to have sex. This also ties back to mental stillness.

Muscle control, Technique, etc... (PM if you want more info)

I am not going to go into details on all the exercises, routines, etc... But some things you can do include:

*Balancing your pelvic floor (kegels, reverse kegels, stretches)

*Specific deep penetrations and movements (I have an excellent video of this I can send you if you would like that goes through different sex motions that make you last longer and feel no different that other typical pounding motions to the girl)

Important

Allow yourself to be imperfect.

Everyone has to work at certain things. While some athletes are born 6'6 in height and can windmill a basketball through the hoop with insane force, others are born 5'5 and need to work harder to achieve the same amount of success.

SEX IS NO DIFFERENT

Don't listen to what your "friends" tell you about their sex life because most men are so trapped by their egos there is no possible way their ego will permit them to admit the truths about their mediocre sex life.

If you survey most men about their sex lives it is going to seem like you are surrounded by a bunch of porn stars.

If you really want to uncover the truth ask women about how lousy 95% of their lovers have been.

DON'T JUST TAKE MY WORD FOR IT! Seriously, go ask women and you will see that the MAJORITY of men are absolutely horrible in bed.

But do not use this as an excuse. Just recognize that this is something to be worked on, that you are not alone, and allow yourself to be imperfect.

Cheers and at gods speed...or not

Great post...and emphasis mine.

I am 61. I don't ever want to take viagra. And I haven't.

As Gandt says so well, you must be "still" mentally.

Here's show I do it. I have fucked a lot of women. A pussy, ANY pussy, feels kinda the same, right? The moistness, the heat, the slipperiness.

When I fuck a woman for the first time -- which is always the event when you CAN come too soon, as opposed to the woman whose body you're familiar with -- I think "It's a pussy like all the others." I say to myself, "Keep the sensation--embrace the feeling, the heat, the wetness."

So, when I first enter a woman, I will often bury my head in the nape of her neck, so I DON"T see her, I don't see her newness. Instead, paradoxically, I just concentrate on the fact that I am inside a pussy -- like all other pussies. It takes a few minutes...and I actually think hard about what I am feeling -- it's CONSCIOUS feeling. "Oh, this is the way it feels...I can sustain this."

And that's when I am over the proverbial hump. I can now get active. I can now create the variety of movements, pounding, thrusting, slow steady pile driver. And now I can look at her directly. I look in her eyes, and my face says, "Sweetheart I am going to pound you into a gelatinous mass of orgasmic flesh." And that's what I do.

But also keep in mind, having sex is not just about fucking. Take a break. Fuck her, then rub her clit, and stick your fingers inside, -- kiss her deeply, slap her face with you cock, eat her pussy. Give her the smorgasbord of sensations.

Give her fantastic physical passion by showing powers of concentration. All women will interpret that concentration as devotion.

And it all boils down to the difference between men and women. Women want to lose control. They want to relinquish their bodies to the sensations -- and that's why in the end, deep down, they KNOW they have to be submissive. As one of my harem has said to me, "I have never been as open as I am with you." Open. That's code for "I submit to you."

You as a man, in contrast, are in CONTROL. For you sex HAS to be about power. About being able to be "mentally still." So when an hour has passed, and she's come two or three times, and you've still got gas in the tank, she is YOURS. You have her.

And Gandt is right. 95% of the men out there can't do this. Oh, sure, they've watched porn, and THEORETICALLY believe it can be done, but they can't do it. They slide it in there and POP! they are done, because they let the excitement control them, rather than control the excitement.

Control. Power. Being in the act, but above it at the same time.

To be a man is to be present

I am not sure where I remember that from but I am almost certain it is from "The Way of the Superior Man". Everyone should read it.

[lurker]

Fuck more.

[Giovonny]

(03-28-2013 11:10 AM)lurker Wrote:  

Fuck more.

Wow. Great answer!

I was gonna say to masturbate more and when your about to c*m, squeeze the top of your shaft so that you force it back down.

Basically, if you can last longer during masturbation, you will be able to last longer during sex.

I think I read this somewhere..

[TheCool]

(03-28-2013 11:10 AM)lurker Wrote:  

Fuck more.

Haha same shit i was gonna say.

Besides gettin more puss , when your in the puss , dont be mesmerized by the fact that you are in the puss Dig me?

Dont be in the pussy thinkin "oh my god this is so great im gettin laid".

Be in the puss but dont be in the puss if you will.

My personal trick is if im about to finish early, i pull out , start eatin the puss , then resume thats just me though.