[Prowl]

(02-22-2013 10:25 AM)LaPastillaRoja Wrote:  

The other night my mate had this girl CONVINCED he was a dolphin trainer, how he kept a strait face I'll never know he was discussing training techniques and different commands he has been trying lately I was in stitches!

Where do I know you from?

That dolphin trainer shit is my line. PM me.

[Anon-A-Moose]

(02-24-2013 02:54 AM)Rah Wrote:  

I started using "I'm a hair model" as my what-do-you-do response, thinking it was a smug non-answer. To my constant bewilderment, every other girl thinks I'm being dead serious and then proceeds to light up and lead the conversation with questions on hair products, etc. hahahah, jesus. Male hair model? Does that even exist?

Just follow up with "yeah, you'd be surprised how my people care about back hair..."

[soup]

(02-24-2013 02:30 PM)Icarus Wrote:  

(02-24-2013 01:44 PM)Giovonny Wrote:  

(02-24-2013 09:37 AM)Icarus Wrote:  

boy, could he be cruel when he wanted to...

Can you give us any examples of his "cruelness"???

Did he physically hurt people or just psychologically abuse them?

He was abusive by nature. He was a trader, after all. Always looking for weaknesses to be exploited.

For example, if you were discussing something technical or philosophical with him, and he sensed that you had made an unsubstantiated assertion (like uttering a meaningless bromide), he would focus on that and start deconstructing your argument until you were forced to surrender and apologize. For him, it was jolly good fun, mere intellectual sparring. No hard feelings.

He was a child prodigy, an extremely intelligent guy (even by MIT standards). He liked smart people. If you were smart and humble, he would not attack you. But if you were stupid and too boastful, then he would reveal his dark side: he would give you enough rope, then hang you with it (metaphorically speaking). He enjoyed crushing blowhards and idiots (like in that bar scene in "Good Will Hunting"). He once made a silly saleswoman cry in front of everyone. He demolished her completely, it was hard to watch.

Interestingly, he was a beta at heart. He was not interested in casual sex at all, and just wanted to find a pretty and intelligent girl with whom to have genetically superior children. So, a rich guy with daddy dreams, and he still got nowhere with women. His standards were too high, and most women were just stupid animals to him. He was living Idiocracy. That is the curse of the gifted, I guess.

Who is this super-hero? He sounds like a great man. How is it cruel to put wrong-blowhard idiots in their place?

Making a saleswoman cry should be on a lot of mens' list.. because you know that the airport-hotel make-up sex is going to be the best you've ever had.

[Hades]

I think lying and equivocating is important. You should at least throw out a few token lies just to keep your skills sharp. They don't have to be big or important lies, and they don't have to be lies to cover up insecurities. Reality is a boring place that we all have to live in, and even if you're completely full of shit and lying just for fun, that's a lot more attractive to women than some mobile cadaver telling chicks about how hard it is being a research mathematician. Just learning how to tell a lie smoothly will prepare you for the future when telling a very big lie could be the most important decision of your life.

Girls lie all the time. I think that they lie enough to believe their own lies. You have to pay attention to how you lie as well, and understand what's going on under the hood. Otherwise you will be a lot more vulnerable to liars.

[Screwston]

I always lie to girls about my name, age and what I do but that's in case we end up on bad terms and she can't track me down. I think it's good to know how to properly lie like Hades said. It makes it a lot easier to sniff out bullshit when you're face to face with someone.

[Vicious]

The big issue with this is that you always have to remember what you've said.

[Screwston]

(02-26-2013 02:14 AM)Vicious Wrote:  

The big issue with this is that you always have to remember what you've said.

Good idea to use the same lies with every girl.

[Icarus]

Roissy wrote an article on How to sell yourself to girls in 2009. An excerpt:

Quote:

There are very few jobs or hobbies that, if described with 100% candor, would intrigue a girl to pussy exploding abandon. Espionage is one. President of the United States is another. You can’t go wrong with jewel thief either. But for most aspiring ladykillers, the word of the day is embellish.

Here’s how this works. Let’s say you’re a CAD monkey architect and your hobbies are biking to Whole Foods for smelly French cheese, building computers, and masturbating. Your only travel experience is a vacation to Turks and Caicos. (You’re in good company. This describes 98% of men.) Now most girls, if they’re interested, want to know what you do. They have a dedicated neural network pulsating in the pastel-colored folds of their girly brains that impels them to suss out how a man makes his living and how he goes about living. But, being women, they also have a contradictory twin neural matrix that would rather you not tell them the whole, eye-glazing truth. Their need to scrutinize is held in check by their need to fantasize. So this is what you tell her:

“Oh, I’m a creator. I guess you could say I bring together art and science in the design of living space. You heard of feng shui? I’m all about it. That’s the life of a cutting edge architect. My hobbies? I mountain bike competitively. There’s nothing like the rush of careening down a muddy, rocky trail in the scenic wilderness of a rugged foreign land, the giant fronds of tropical plants slapping you in the face along the way. It’s breathtaking! I’m also something of an electronics whiz and once tried to hack into a Chinese government website back when I was a rebellious kid. Some people say I’m a very passionate guy, so much so that I can hardly contain my passion. And to tell you the truth, it gets me in trouble more often than not.”

See? Not too truthful, not too deceitful. Like Baby Bear’s porridge, juuuuuust right.

[snoop]

If you have to lie then you are agreeing that you suck as you are.

Its a way to shame yourself.

[kenny_powers]

(02-26-2013 09:30 AM)snoop Wrote:  

If you have to lie then you are agreeing that you suck as you are.

Its a way to shame yourself.

Disagree. We are talking about lying to women, not your boys or your dad. American women are delusional, self-entitled hypergamist's with no concept of reality and zero respect for an honest trustworthy hard working man.

[Matt3B]

Lying to girls is what gives "PUAs" a bad name because it then becomes a stigma attached with them.

Ambiguity is your friend and there's absolutely no reason why you should have to flat out lie to a girl to get laid regardless of how self-entitled they are and whatever other negative attributes their gender has. Lying just papers over cracks in your own game.

[snoop]

(02-26-2013 09:43 AM)kenny_powers Wrote:  

(02-26-2013 09:30 AM)snoop Wrote:  

If you have to lie then you are agreeing that you suck as you are.

Its a way to shame yourself.

Disagree. We are talking about lying to women, not your boys or your dad. American women are delusional, self-entitled hypergamist's with no concept of reality and zero respect for an honest trustworthy hard working man.

IME the people who have to lie do so b/c they are not able to actually live that life. Its "fake it until you make it". There is nothing wrong with that if you recognize that those are the areas you need to put more work in so you are living it instead of pretending.

You could tell a chick you went to a foreign country, or you could just actually go to a foreign country.

[snoop]

What do you all find yourselves having to lie about?

[soup]

(02-26-2013 09:48 AM)MattC Wrote:  

Lying to girls is what gives "PUAs" a bad name because it then becomes a stigma attached with them.

Ambiguity is your friend and there's absolutely no reason why you should have to flat out lie to a girl to get laid regardless of how self-entitled they are and whatever other negative attributes their gender has. Lying just papers over cracks in your own game.

No, there are times when it is better to lie.

If a girl starts talking about some obscure musician and asks if you know him/her, it is better to say yes, or "oh yeah ... !" like you are remembering them.

Same with countries she's visted or any other kinds of details.

You want to build an "us against the world" bond with her.

If you practice lying, you will be more comfortable with these white lies. You can even say shit like "I saw him play a few years ago" or take more risks like that.

Girl: "really? That's so cool!"

You: "Kind of. I didn't really get to see him that well."

Girl: "Why?"

You: "Shows look different when you are watching them from backstage."

You change the subject: "But, I liked how there was a strong connection between everyone in the room. I think that for most people, it's rare to have this kind of experience. For what I do, I'm used to it, but I think it's better for the world if people can have these powerful experiences to shake them out of their routines. When I was in France-"

Her: "Wait- what do you do?"

etc.

[snoop]

(02-26-2013 10:44 AM)soup Wrote:  

No, there are times when it is better to lie.

If a girl starts talking about some obscure musician and asks if you know him/her, it is better to say yes, or "oh yeah ... !" like you are remembering them.
Same with countries she's visted or any other kinds of details.

You want to build an "us against the world" bond with her.

If you practice lying, you will be more comfortable with these white lies. You can even say shit like "I saw him play a few years ago" or take more risks like that.

Girl: "really? That's so cool!"

You: "Kind of. I didn't really get to see him that well."

Girl: "Why?"

You: "Shows look different when you are watching them from backstage."

You change the subject: "But, what I liked how there was a strong connection between everyone in the room. I think that for most people, it's rare to have this kind of experience. For what I do, I'm used to it, but I think it's better for the world if people can have these powerful experiences to shake them out of their routines. When I was in France-"

Her: "Wait- what do you do?"

etc.

That's not the only way to handle that situation though, and IME it isn't necessarily better either. It sounds to me more like you are jumping into her frame instead of pulling her into yours.

[Vicious]

(02-26-2013 02:23 AM)houston Wrote:  

(02-26-2013 02:14 AM)Vicious Wrote:  

The big issue with this is that you always have to remember what you've said.

Good idea to use the same lies with every girl.

Ah, but that's not telling a lie. That's playing a PART.

Game method acting!

[soup]

(02-26-2013 10:58 AM)snoop Wrote:  

(02-26-2013 10:44 AM)soup Wrote:  

No, there are times when it is better to lie.

If a girl starts talking about some obscure musician and asks if you know him/her, it is better to say yes, or "oh yeah ... !" like you are remembering them.
Same with countries she's visted or any other kinds of details.

You want to build an "us against the world" bond with her.

If you practice lying, you will be more comfortable with these white lies. You can even say shit like "I saw him play a few years ago" or take more risks like that.

Girl: "really? That's so cool!"

You: "Kind of. I didn't really get to see him that well."

Girl: "Why?"

You: "Shows look different when you are watching them from backstage."

You change the subject: "But, what I liked how there was a strong connection between everyone in the room. I think that for most people, it's rare to have this kind of experience. For what I do, I'm used to it, but I think it's better for the world if people can have these powerful experiences to shake them out of their routines. When I was in France-"

Her: "Wait- what do you do?"

etc.

That's not the only way to handle that situation though, and IME it isn't necessarily better either. It sounds to me more like you are jumping into her frame instead of pulling her into yours.

In my neck of the woods, it is better to be down with similar music tastes.

I don't think you really get the concept of framing.

Framing is controlling her perception.

[snoop]

(02-26-2013 11:29 AM)soup Wrote:  

(02-26-2013 10:58 AM)snoop Wrote:  

(02-26-2013 10:44 AM)soup Wrote:  

No, there are times when it is better to lie.

If a girl starts talking about some obscure musician and asks if you know him/her, it is better to say yes, or "oh yeah ... !" like you are remembering them.
Same with countries she's visted or any other kinds of details.

You want to build an "us against the world" bond with her.

If you practice lying, you will be more comfortable with these white lies. You can even say shit like "I saw him play a few years ago" or take more risks like that.

Girl: "really? That's so cool!"

You: "Kind of. I didn't really get to see him that well."

Girl: "Why?"

You: "Shows look different when you are watching them from backstage."

You change the subject: "But, what I liked how there was a strong connection between everyone in the room. I think that for most people, it's rare to have this kind of experience. For what I do, I'm used to it, but I think it's better for the world if people can have these powerful experiences to shake them out of their routines. When I was in France-"

Her: "Wait- what do you do?"

etc.

That's not the only way to handle that situation though, and IME it isn't necessarily better either. It sounds to me more like you are jumping into her frame instead of pulling her into yours.

In my neck of the woods, it is better to be down with similar music tastes.

I don't think you really get the concept of framing.

Framing is controlling her perception.

I get "framing" just fine, you are trying to find common ground and it is going to be on her terms instead of yours in this example.

You said build an "us against the world" dynamic....why does that have to be something she is already interested in? I've found it is much more enticing to women to be shown something new that excites them. Then you have "home court" advantage.

[soup]

(02-26-2013 11:46 AM)snoop Wrote:  

(02-26-2013 11:29 AM)soup Wrote:  

(02-26-2013 10:58 AM)snoop Wrote:  

(02-26-2013 10:44 AM)soup Wrote:  

No, there are times when it is better to lie.

If a girl starts talking about some obscure musician and asks if you know him/her, it is better to say yes, or "oh yeah ... !" like you are remembering them.
Same with countries she's visted or any other kinds of details.

You want to build an "us against the world" bond with her.

If you practice lying, you will be more comfortable with these white lies. You can even say shit like "I saw him play a few years ago" or take more risks like that.

Of course, I never sai

Girl: "really? That's so cool!"

You: "Kind of. I didn't really get to see him that well."

Girl: "Why?"

You: "Shows look different when you are watching them from backstage."

You change the subject: "But, what I liked how there was a strong connection between everyone in the room. I think that for most people, it's rare to have this kind of experience. For what I do, I'm used to it, but I think it's better for the world if people can have these powerful experiences to shake them out of their routines. When I was in France-"

Her: "Wait- what do you do?"

etc.

That's not the only way to handle that situation though, and IME it isn't necessarily better either. It sounds to me more like you are jumping into her frame instead of pulling her into yours.

In my neck of the woods, it is better to be down with similar music tastes.

I don't think you really get the concept of framing.

Framing is controlling her perception.

I get "framing" just fine, you are trying to find common ground and it is going to be on her terms instead of yours in this example.

You said build an "us against the world" dynamic....why does that have to be something she is already interested in? I've found it is much more enticing to women to be shown something new that excites them. Then you have "home court" advantage.

How is it on her terms. What would you say.. "no." and then awkard silence, or some other thing to boast? A little try-hard I think.

I never said you can't show them something new.

[kenny_powers]

(02-26-2013 10:39 AM)snoop Wrote:  

What do you all find yourselves having to lie about?

I only lie about two things.

1. Age
2. I tell them I want a relationship

I don't make up stories about myself or my life because a. I don't give a fuck and b. i consider myself to be a pretty cool motherfucker

[snoop]

(02-26-2013 12:07 PM)soup Wrote:  

How is it on her terms. What would you say.. "no." and then awkard silenceor some other thing to boast? A little try-hard I think. ,

I never said you can't show them something new.

That's exactly what I did this summer. I said, "no, haven't heard it". Then I asked a few questions about it and said it sounded interesting. Then I asked her if she had the song in her car. Then we went there and listend to. Once isolated, I escalated.

If the only reason a chick will fuck you is b/c you lied about liking something trivial like an obscure musician, you have already done something horribly wrong with your life.

If that isn't the only reason, then you have no need to lie, just use those things instead of some superficial commonality like an obscure musician you've never heard of.

If that move works for you in your area, great, but I've never had much success with the "gee, look at everything we have in common!" type of game in the places I've lived.

[lush1]

Fuck... I have enough problems with girls believing me when I tell the truth let alone if I start telling them porkies.

[soup]

(02-26-2013 01:22 PM)snoop Wrote:  

(02-26-2013 12:07 PM)soup Wrote:  

How is it on her terms. What would you say.. "no." and then awkard silenceor some other thing to boast? A little try-hard I think. ,

I never said you can't show them something new.

That's exactly what I did this summer. I said, "no, haven't heard it". Then I asked a few questions about it and said it sounded interesting. Then I asked her if she had the song in her car. Then we went there and listend to. Once isolated, I escalated.

If the only reason a chick will fuck you is b/c you lied about liking something trivial like an obscure musician, you have already done something horribly wrong with your life.

If that isn't the only reason then you have no need to lie, just use those traits instead of some superficial commonality like an obscure musician you've never heard of.

Ha, relax man.

I'm not saying that knowing the musician thing is the only reason she'd fuck me. I wish it were as easy as that.

Why do you care so much? This has gotten me results- agreeing with them builds comfort.

She mentions a fashion photographer? How can it hurt to say that you also know him? You are letting her know that you are from the same tribe.

[snoop]

(02-26-2013 12:46 PM)kenny_powers Wrote:  

(02-26-2013 10:39 AM)snoop Wrote:  

What do you all find yourselves having to lie about?

I only lie about two things.

1. Age
2. I tell them I want a relationship

I don't make up stories about myself or my life because a. I don't give a fuck and b. i consider myself to be a pretty cool motherfucker

That's kind of my point...go do the shit instead of lying about it.

Lies are typically playing from a position of weakness, which is usually the move of someone who has no other options.

[snoop]

(02-26-2013 01:27 PM)soup Wrote:  

Ha, relax man.

I'm not saying that knowing the musician thing is the only reason she'd fuck me. I wish it were as easy as that.

Why do you care so much? This has gotten me results- agreeing with them builds comfort.

She mentions a fashion photographer? How can it hurt to say that you also know him? You are letting her know that you are from the same tribe.

Don't take it so personal bub, I'm using "you" in the group context than you specifically.

And it can hurt you if you get caught lying. You look very "try hard" as you put it.

I've also been told that b/c of my success in certain areas I am intimidating to some women and they feel insecure about themselves. So by saying "I'm not familiar with that" actually builds the comfort as well bc it knocks me down a peg in their eyes.

Your way isn't the only option, that's all I was trying to point out, sorry if that twisted your knickers, it was not my intent.